I have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months, then there was a huge miscommunication since we're long distance and i broke it off with him. I could've gone back but I felt not so tied down. then a month later he asks me out again and i say yes, we talked about alot of issues, &2 days later we break up b/c he said he has fallen in love with me and he will give me his heart. I simply freaked, yes we've seen each other and have a physical relationship also. We have tried to be friends after we broke up but we have a very deep emotional connection. I was adopted and both of my parents were drunks, i think I'm afraid of getting too involved with a guy and then getting hurt and my ex bf has assured me over a million times he wont hurt me. I'm not going t therapy/counseling i just dont know what to do, i like my freedom yet only have eyes for my ex no matter how many different guys come knocking at my door. I dont want to do any long distance relationship, even if i love him.
2007-12-28 04:51:40 · 17 answers · asked by ~Pitbull 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't want the long distance
then don't do it.
tell him you love him, but can't stand
not being able to see him, and just being with him.
if you love him and he loves you then
you should still talk and be friends,
at least until one of you is willing
to move to be with each other..
if it's meant to be it will find a way
to work.
2007-12-28 04:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey- is there any way any one of you could move to be near each other? It sounds to me like you both love each other but maybe you need to discuss some more personal issues about relationships and stuff. If you can't move or see each other and you really don't want a long distance relationship, then maybe it's time to let this one go for good. This might not seem like hte best idea right now, but think about in the long run????
2007-12-28 12:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by soccer*star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, or follow your head,
You could wind up alone either way.
Self-protective strategies always fail because other people are complicated, and unpredictable.
The human heart is wired to connect to other people or die.
It sounds like fear is doing the decision making in your life. Fear is just as always wrong as only making decisions based on lust, or greed. Fear is the driving force in most addictions including alcoholism. People fear hurt, and fear pain, and self medicate.
Don't let fear drive you like it drove your parents. Don't let someone else tell you to do something stupid. Think long and hard, but use wisdom. Its worthwhile.
2007-12-28 12:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me he is trying to reach out for you. It is alright to let him in. I understand where you are coming from but you really love/like this guy and you need to allow him in. He hasn't hurt you in any way that I know about. Don't be afraid to let him in. Just communicate with him how scared you are and if I think what I am thinking he will hold you and make you feel safe. It is okay to let him in.
2007-12-28 12:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by runner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I've been married only once18 years. been separated from her once because of my mistakes. this is what I've learned- when God has brought someone in your life and they love you and you love them, then why question the obvious. it sounds like your only thinking about you, and let me tell you guys wont wait around forever. for that matter neither will a girl. there are very very few people that will come in your life that will truly love you. very very few sometimes only one. don't think so much sometimes ours brain gets in the way of our heart. go with your heart.
2007-12-28 13:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by aquila1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are stating your own answer
You dont want a long distance relationship.....so what's the point?
when you are ready to date exclusively then nothing would matter: the distance, the feeling of having your freedom...etc
if and when you are truly ready then trust me none of that will matter anymore
2007-12-28 13:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you...
Think positive and get to be happy, do the things you like to do for to feel better.
Go have some fun, read nice book, eat somthing you like and dont think much about the negative.
Talk about it to a nice friend for to feel good.
Be happy. All will be fine one day!
All the best and remember to be happy, its your life!
2007-12-28 12:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Positive P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find another guy. You know that movie Field of dreams
Here is a way to get lots of male attention and then u have a wider range of choices on dudes
"if you flaunt it they will come"
2007-12-28 12:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Antwan DUBBA U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can be fixed both of you guys just have to sit down and come up with a conclusion on how to make you guys get stronger
2007-12-28 13:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by twet19_000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously a commitment phobic. Solve it by putting complete and utter trust in him. You risk getting your heart broken, but ask yourself if it is worth it?
2007-12-28 12:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋