How do i ask my sons father if he wears womans clothing in front of our son??

Question

my son came home from dads last weekend saying daddy dressed up like a girl. My son is almost 5 and he thinks it is funny. I beleive my son but I don't know how to go about asking his father

Answer 1

Something like this you just need to confront your son's father & tell him that if he likes to dress-up like a girl, please don't do it infront of your son.


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Answer 2

Likely you have communications with him. During a visit or phone call you can suggest that your son told you a funny story - he said you were dressing up like a girl.

Keep you opinions to youself. Do not be aggressive in either approach or during the conversation. He does not have to answer you so you will have to be sugar sweet and just draw it out of him.

Remember that what Daddy does is his business. He does have the right to dress as he wishes. The less stress you put on the situation the better things will go. You may not agree - that is not the point here. You are seeking information and should walk carefully to get it.

You can ask Dad not to dress like that in front of the son but that is about as far as you can take it.

Answer 3

Let's assume that the son's father is a crossdresser.. Okay so will that make him a bad person? What effect would that have on your son? Has he abused your son?

Talk it out with your son and his father. With your son you need to ask him questions like, what do mean, "daddy dressed up like a girl?" What was he wearing? What was he doing when he was dressed up? Did he ask you to dress up like a girl too?

Then with this information, talk to the daddy. Tell him you'd appreciate it if he kept his crossdressing more private, and not in front of the child. Tell him that if he ever abuses the boy, or dresses him up as a girl too, then you'd have attorneys on him so quick, it would really ruffle his petticoats.

Answer 4

I would ask him straight out, but try to find the circumstances around it. It may well be ALOT more innocent than you first thought. If your son's father is a crossdresser, that's ok. Though if you are highly uncomfortable with him doing it around your child that is normal, and so is insisting that keep his habits away from your child.

Being a father and a crossdresser myself, I'm quite adamant about keeping that aspect away from my son. Not because I'm ashamed of myself, I just want to make sure I give my son the most stable environment as possible.

Also asking in front of the child is a BIG no no. This is an adult conversation between the two of you.

Answer 5

You don't make a big deal of it: just ask him next time you talk to him, if they played dress ups? Don't make it sound like you know something. If he queries you about it, you can always act dumb. Your son might have just caught his father out accidentally. It isn't going to be a big issue to a five year old, it's going to be something funny...it will only become an issue if you make it one.

If your son's father hesitates when you ask, then just firmly ask him not to do it again in front of your son. What he does on his own time though is his business and shouldn't affect having a relationship with his child, though. He will get the hint and make sure it doesn't happen again. You won't have to make a big deal of it with him. he is probably wondering what has been said to you, anyway.

I really don't think you have anything too serious to worry about here.

Answer 6

Take a lesson from your son. He has no problem addressing an issue -- be blunt.

Before you release your son to spend anymore time with his biological father, confront the creature and ask point blank "Why do you dress like a woman in front of our son? Are you a cross dresser?". Wait for the fireworks. If he admits his life style, then I think you and the judge need to talk and visitation should be discontinued or "supervised by another adult". Cross dressing in front of an impressionable child is NOT socially acceptable in any community that I know. But, then again, liberals, sickos and weirdos are every where.

Answer 7

First I'd do some research into cross-dressing. I don't think it's that uncommon and I'd want to know if men who dress in women's clothing are more likely to engage in activity that would endanger my child.

Then, I would ask him face-to-face and in private. Your child doesn't need to be part of the conversation. If it's true, or you believe it's true, I would tell him it's confusing to the child and he should not do it when he has the child.

As the child grows up, though, you will probably have to come to terms with the situation. Dad has rights, too.

Answer 8

Come out and ask maybe with humor to feel him out. If you ask with attitude it will all be denied. Feel around the situation talk with your son more. Details... Well what do girls wear? Was daddy playing pretend etc. don't sound to serious though kids can pick up on when something is not right and will shut down. Good luck.

Answer 9

Ask him directly if you feel you need to know the answer. He may have done it as a joke or he may enjoy dressing like a woman. Either way, if you're concerned that your son will be influenced in a way that you're not comfortable with, you and his father need to discuss it. Just tell him what your son said and ask him what it's about.

Answer 10

WT...?!? WHY would you ask in FRONT of your son? Get clarification from his father by all means, but don't make a big deal out of it in front of the kid unless it has to be a big deal. Daddy is one of his heroes, and you are the other, and if the two get to fighting he could lose both.

The good news is, if the kid just sees him dress up, cross-dressing is typically a harmless fetish, practiced in private for one person's enjoyment. If it's transvestism or some other exhibitionistic tendency, however... start documenting it now.

Answer 11

in case you're no longer able to settle for this, you need to probable get divorced. Your resentment and anger will finally start to practice, and that must be unfavorable to ALL of you, noticeably the youngsters. from time to time love isn't sufficient to conquer hindrances. If it facilitates, i would not be waiting to settle for a flow-dressing husband, the two- and that i've got a 30 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous gay son!