Why is it that men try to tell us what we need to change and we try to bend a bit but when we tell men what they need to do to make us happy they just don't seems to give a damn.
2007-12-28 04:42:39 · 13 answers · asked by twistedtoad03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We don't and are fools if we start changing to please someone else. Actually, women are notorious for trying to change the men they are with, and guys are a lot more likely to accept us as we are (and just leave or cheat if they get tired of us).
People should change for themselves...because they see something about themselves that they feel needs to be improved, removed, or gained. If they change for someone else, the change is unlikely to stick, and chances are resentments will form down the road (as your post is an example).
A person who changes to please someone else, is likely to get upset that the other person won't change to please them...however if you change for YOU, then ya don't expect changes of other people because you don't feel they owe you anything.
P.S. Regarding "make us happy"...nobody but you can do that. No one can "make you happy". You either choose to be happy, or you choose not to. It's not anyone's job to provide you with happiness, nor can they "make" you anything. Choose to be happy, change for yourself, and you'll see your life make a turn for the better. ☺
2007-12-28 04:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry, but usually it's the man who has to change for the women sometimes have it in their mind that they can easily mold a man into what they want him to be.. this actually reminds me of one of my favorite jokes.
A bunch of women heard about this new "mall" where you could go and pick out a man that was perfect for you. There was only one catch. Once you enter a room, you can never go back into it. The woman thought that this sounded interesting, so they decided to give it a try.
Entering one room, the sign on the door read "extremely handsome". Excited, the women looked around, but decided to see what else was there, so they moved to the next room.
The door to the second room read "extremely handsome, and wealthy".
Things kept sounding better and better, so the women moved onto the next room. The sign on the door said "extremely handsome and wealthy, hopeless romantic with great sense of humor".
Still wanting to see what else there was, the woman moved to the next room where the sign read "extremely handsome and wealthy, hopeless romantic with great sense of humor, and amazing in bed"
The women were getting excited, and pressed on. The next sign said "extremely handsome and wealthy, hopeless romantic with great sense of humor, amazing in bed and is terrific with kids"
The women could hardly contain their excitement. If things were this good, imagine how great the next batch of guys could be. The sign on the door read "This just goes to show you that it is near impossible to satisfy a woman".
2007-12-28 15:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Carpe Canum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just not true. Since I have been with my honey I have done way more changing then her. You are generalizing. Granted in some circumstances this is true but in most cases both parties in a relationship do some changing.
2007-12-28 12:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by stevel226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on a minute sister. Women are always talking about changing their man. Drop the Zero and get with a hero.
2007-12-28 12:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't paying attention. Guys make subtle changes, but women tend to think they need him to really bend over backwards for her.
And never tell a guy what he has to do. Ask him to do it. You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.
2007-12-28 12:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to change things, either the man or the woman, the relationship is not worth pursuing. People shouldn't HAVE to change their behavior to passify their spouse. I've never asked my wife to change because I love her the way she is, even with the quirks. When she tries to change me I tell her "you knew what your were buying before you married me...that's the deal."
2007-12-28 12:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by jim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that the woman always wants change. Bring your man a sandwich and be happy.
2007-12-28 12:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Matchin' Hatches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because we are so much more flexible.....and willing to bend then men. There is a saying in my country which says that behind every great man there is always a great woman.
Tell me about it......!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-28 12:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're trying to change for a guy that
won't change for you, that's a hint that
it's really not worth it.
relationships are about a compromise.
2007-12-28 12:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some men are jerks and they are too full of pride to know they need to change too. relationships are all about changing and growing together. If you get a man who doesn't understand that then you need to let him go. You dont need that in your life because it will never get anywhere.
2007-12-28 12:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋