I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO EXPERIANCE ME GIVING BIRTH TO HER BROTHER OR SISTER BUT DO YOU THINK IT WOULD BE TO TRUMATIC I HAVE BEEN TOLD MANY ANWSERS GOOD AND BAD I JUST WANT TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE
2007-12-28 04:21:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
9 is a little young for that. If she had already started her cycle, maybe, but she will probably freak and have a negative feeling about it from there on out. It's probably up to the doctor but maybe she can come in just after the birth. There are childbirth documentaries if you can find one, maybe your doctor has one that would better explain it. However, seeing you in such pain would probably be the worst part of it.
2007-12-28 04:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by Smurfette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that would be a good experience for a 9 year old to witness birth. I am 21 weeks pregnant and a few days ago I witnessed the beginning (before the head came out) and the end part where you get to view the after birth and see the baby. My cousins girlfriend had the baby but I don't think that is an appropriate thing for a 9 year old to view. Good luck hopefully you make the right choice.
2007-12-28 14:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would have her in the room during the actual birth. I would have a grandparent with her so she could come in once baby is born. Sorry but I don't think a 9 yr old is ready to see mom's thing in all its glory while baby is coming out. Also if the pain is bad you shouldn't want her to see you go through it. Now I do think 12 and up, this would be good before the sex talk.
2007-12-28 12:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it but make sure she know exactly wwhat is going to happen and ask her if she still wants to be there and that you'll understand if she doesnt want to be there
make it her choice
but also have someone she can go to if she gets uncomfortable
i see a few people talking about pain
birth is not painful if you get the right painkillers (Epidural ROCKS!!)
also she doesnt have to actually watch if she is there
she can be at your side or if the room is big enough she can be completly away from the situation but still there when her brother is born
the room i was in had a seperate room on the other side of the curtain that had a tv to watch movies and a bed if people got tired
2007-12-28 12:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors to consider, because some children that age can handle it fine, and are proud to have experienced that. And others can be tramatized.
Does your daughter know what is going to happen? Does she understand you'll be in pain, and that there will be blood, and basiclly how everything happens? If she understands everything and still wants to be a part of it, let her; but also let her know if she get uncomfortable at any time, that she can leave. And have Grandma or an aunt ready to pick her up in case she can't handle it.
2007-12-28 12:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mother said that she wants all of us to be at her birth and even my 6 yr old sister is coming. My moms baby is coming in the summer. Anyways it just depends on whether ur daughter is going to be able to handle the birth. So if I were u, I'd just sit down and talk with her, and tell her the sitiuation and if she decides to go then i guess she goes.
~Good Luck on the birth
2007-12-28 12:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by DaisyDoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the hospital allow it, yes she can be there but do prepare her about what will happen so she wont get scared by the sight of blood and you being in pain which could scare her. Tell her it's okay that she did not have to see the whole birth. There is a birth book with pictures that you can share with her.
2007-12-28 12:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by sxysalsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her how she feels about it. Tell her some of the stuff you will be going through, how you might be screaming a lot & in a lot of pain. Explain things to her and let her decide. If she wants to, that's awesome. I personally wouldn't (I'm only pregnant with my 1st but I just don't think I'd want to have my 1st child watching me give birth. Too weird for me).
Good luck!
2007-12-28 14:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Malia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she understands what exactly is happening then yes. So pretty much if she understands what sex is and where the baby is coming from. I don't think its a bad idea especially if its your daughter. Honestly though just seeing the live birth on the video in high school for sex ed was traumatic enough
2007-12-28 12:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by D M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her!!! I would possible show her pictures of the birth process and explain to her what is happening and the pain you will be experiencing and then let her decide for herself. Let her know that if she does choose to be there and watch, she has the choice to leave the room at any time she feels uncomfortable. She is old enough to understand and make that decision for herself. But I would make sure she understood what is going on.
2007-12-28 12:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋