I am planning this wedding from across the country. My BMs all live where I'm getting married. I picked out a dress at David's Bridal almost 6 mos ago, the wedding is in 6 mos and I think they need to go and atleast get fitted as prom season is fast approaching! I've called and emailed them about getting in there and they're just dragging their feet! What do I do?
2007-12-28 03:38:12 · 12 answers · asked by chaychayolei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks Q-Mama, yes. My sisters are both MOHs and they too are slacking. Flying for a day is out of the question, it's just too expensive. Only the BM that lives where I live now has her dress.
2007-12-28 04:02:10 · update #1
Give them a deadline- and quickly, because BM dresses usually take about five months to come in. Tell them that their measurements have to be done by a speicific day or they can't be in the wedding. Sometimes you have to be tough to get things done!
Good luck
2007-12-28 03:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give them a specific deadline. Telling them you need them to go "now" or "asap" isn't specific enough for some people. Just say that you need the dresses to be ordered by January 15th (or whatever date you choose) and that if their measurements are not in by then, they'll miss out on being in the wedding. Be nice about it, too. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
Good Luck.
2007-12-28 11:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ray 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell them - in no uncertain terms - that they have to be measured by a specific date or that they will not be in the wedding. This goes for your maids of honor also. Suggest that they all go together. You obviously chose them because they are near and dear to you and because you trusted them to handle some things for you because you are so far away. I do believe that this should be one of their responsibilities. You may have to lay a guilt trip on them. I know that you may have heard this before, but DO NOT let anyone or anything get you stressed! Good luck.
2007-12-28 14:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by smile11503 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and make the appointment for them and then let them now to ether show up then or you will get others to do it. Yes they will be mad but they will ether do it or get replaced ( most if not all will go then ).
Some times tough love is called for and if they do not get in soon you will have only one dress for your BM's
2007-12-28 16:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by crissypeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask David's Bridal to call them. David's will inform them that there is no refund for ill-fitting formalwear. In other words, if they don't get fitted and the dresses don't fit, they're OUT their money!
Hit those lazy BMs where it hurts: the pocketbook!
2007-12-28 13:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by sukatx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with my girls not one of them are here with me in the state I live in. So i email them the dresses and to make it even easier i sent them each a chart on how to measure themselfs.
http://www.shamrockstitchery.com/measure.html
in the picture that show waist to knee if you have a floor lenght dress just take the measurment to the floor. and always make sure that the wore the shoes they are wearing that day are on so the measurment is exact.
then all they have to do is forward and email to davids bridal along with a credit card number .....
or heck you can do it yourself. if you are paying for the dresses as long as you have their measurments.
2007-12-28 12:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by la de da 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment and tell them they must go. Express to them your concern that the dresses may not arrive in time if they don't go now. You may also consider the fact that money might be an issue, especially during this holiday season, so be a little patient.
2007-12-28 11:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell those slackers that they need to have it done within a month. Let them know how crazy that place gets...especially with Spring on it's way. For example, I went there to get my shoes dyed for my sis' wedding three weeks before it...they were trying to tell me they would have it done the Friday before her Sunday wedding. Heck no!! I told them I don't think so! It really is crucial that they get it done. Unless, they go to another seamstress....they would def be cheaper than Davids...trust me.
2007-12-28 11:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a realistic deadline and tell them that anyone that isn't measured by then can't be in the wedding. If you have already asked them numerous times, enough is enough, you shouldn't have to beg. You are going to have to be ready to back that up though.
2007-12-28 11:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Where is your maid of honor? Is she one of the slacker bridesmaids? If so, tell her it's one of her duties to round up the gals and get them there. If you can afford it, maybe you need to fly out for a day and make it happen.
They can make an afternoon out of it and all go together. But as bridesmaids they have some responsibility to get this simple task taken care of.
2007-12-28 11:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋