Girlfriend and mom problem,what should I do??

Question

here's the situation.Im try my best to make a long story short.
Im 23 and my girl is 20.we been together for a year and 3 months.She has my name tatooed on her back.She had a hard life,mom died when she was young and her father was abusive.She has a godmother though that she considers her mother and her family.
here's the problem.me and my girl had broke up for 2 weeks about 3 months ago but got back together.My mom claimed her older sister had called and made threats saying she was gon kill me or hurt me next time I hurt her sister or something like that.My girl said my mom is lying and that her sister would never say anything like that.Make a long story short my girl and mom got into a big argument over this because my mom dont want me to go over there.I know Im grown and make my own decisons but I dont wanna worry my mom to death.My girl is real pissed off and said I got my mom to thank for ruining the relationship.
What should I do

my girl has met most of my fam,I didnt meet none of her's,I only spoke to them on the phone.reason why i didnt go see her fam link right here:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avl39XQNlL4oyHgq_VP_ATDty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071212213227AAsyVtl

Also it seems like my girl wants to hold a grudge against my moms.I ttried talking to her about this more than once but it seem like she doesnt want any solution.I really need somebody to talk too so I tell more about the story of this siutaion.What should I do

another thing me and my girl live with our mom until we get our own place

I tried talking it out a few times but my girl wants to hold a grudge about it.My mom has no problem 4getting it.

Message for just me:can u leave me ya email or something

Answer 1

I think the best thing for you to do is sit the both of them down and let them both know that you love them both and don't want them fighting with each other because that will cause alot of problems. Next you need to talk to your girlfriend's sister and find out why she would do a thing like that. It's kind of a sticky situation.

Answer 2

Red flag. Red flag. Red flag! You will be penalized 40 yards for interfering with mother.

Mother is right. They usually are.

Why would you want to return to a relationship that you broke off? Doesn't make sense at all. Are you trying to save her the expense of removing your name from her body? That's pretty non sensible.

Sister calls and threatens mother (red flag). Father abused girl friend (red flag). Girl friend has a blown out fight with your mother (red flag). Sounds like abuse, threats and torture runs in the family.

You're a big boy and yes you can make your own decisions. But just remember. (a) your girl friend will NEVER be welcomed at your mom's forever, (b) you will probably be prohibited from seeing your mother because girl friend will cut your bedroom pass if you go visit "that witch", (c) when you have children they will see a dysfunctional family and it's a monkey see monkey do world when it comes to children.

Now which of these RED FLAGS did you not understand? Now go do the right thing. Walk away and find someone else. There's plenty of fish in the sea. This tuna is not for you.

Answer 3

I am normally good at answering this, but there are too many unanswered questions. First off, what type of girl are you dealing with? What type of person is her sister? These answers will help determine the plausibility of mom's story. Then again, there is more questions involving how far mom will go to protect her son and what she felt about the girl during the relationship, the breakup, and the get back together.

Answer 4

This is a tough situation. I would tell my girl that she must forgive my Mom or the relationship would suffer and might even be the end if she can't find it in her heart to forgive the woman who gave you life. Do you want to spend the rest of your life, or even another moment, with someone who holds grudges? Someday, you are bound to make a mistake and anger your girl and if she can't forgive your Mom, what makes you think you will be forgiven? I would recommend finding a new sweetheart. One who loves you enough to forgive and forget.

Answer 5

Man i know seen and heard this type of situation so many times !!! Look to be honest with you her family can really ruin your life just as your mom can ruin yours too. If your family dont get along with her and her familiy dont like you you should start considering other options ! Sounds to me like you will always have drama in your life with your girlfriend! Trust me you will never be happy . .Imagine going through this type of situation for the rest of your life. And you need to open your eyes and think about who is more important and truthful in your life. do you think you mom has the nerve to lie to you to see you unhappy! I mean think bout that cuz your mom from what it seems really loves you, and you only been with your girl alittle over a yr. Your girl shouldve respected your mom in the first place. I dont know what to really tell you since i dont know them but i can tell you Choose wisely. because it is you that know them and what they are really aboutl.

Answer 6

If you can, i suggest you and your girlfriend talk and agree to put the subject behind you. Forgive your mum and her sister. Only hurt to your relationships and families will come from pursueing it. The important thing is you and your girlfriend are back together and you both want your families support. Hot headed people can say hot headed things on the spur of the moment - that moment is passed, forget it and go forward.

Answer 7

i read your previous question aabout ur girllfriend an di think you should find someone else to be with. do this one thing and listen to your mom. shes the one that is gonna have your back. not some crackhead. and your girlfriend could et pregnant just like her sisters. and you would have to pay for your actions of bing with her. why did you guys brake up if you dont mind me asking? and dont listen to other people telling you to leave your mom!!!!!!! she is your MOTHER AND DONT YOU EVER LEAVE HER!! IM SAYING THIS AGAIN SHE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT IS HELPING YOU. THIS GF HAS A MESSED UP FAMILY AND IF YOU LEAVE YOUR MOM THAT GIRLS FAMILY IS THE FAMILY YOU GOT. AND THT IS NO GOOD!

Answer 8

First of all, if you really love this girl, you're going to have to put her in front of your Mom. I know this is difficult... I've let parental involvement ruin relationships before and I'm 25 yrs old, and I've regretted it everytime.

The key is to not stop caring what you're Mom thinks. Be respectful and show your love to her, but sit her down and put some rationality into her head. i.e. "Mom, I love you, but I love my g.f. too. Let's try to figure this out so that I don't have to love either of you..." Once she sees you're serious she'll come around. Promise.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Does your mom not understand that they are young and get mad. So people say things. Your mother needs to let things go and your girl should do the same. They do not have to like each other anymore but just avoid or say nothing to the other for you.

Answer 10

Why don't you ask the sister if she did it.

Got to tell you though, if you are choosing your girl over your Mom and you have only been with her for 3 months, then you aren't very nice to your Mom. If your Mom is usually an honest person then I would listen to her.