I'm hoping to get pregnant on our honeymoon...lol!!
2007-12-28 02:29:59 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Good lord--did my question attract IRNORANT responses!
Of course I MEANT "you" assuming you already discussed it w/ your fiance--der!!
2007-12-28 02:43:09 · update #1
Sounds like you have started planning a family before the wedding. Not that that's bad, as long as your husband-to-be is in on the plan. **Keep in mind we're both in our 30's & established**
Tell me, do you know how you're going to pay for this baby yet? *NOTE ABOVE* Do you have medical coverage? *OF COURSE* What are your employers' policies toward family and medical leave? *PAID LEAVE* Have you picked an obstetrician? *OF COURSE* Have you made a birth plan? *NATURAL* This kind of homework isn't something that you should leave for after you find out you're pregnant. If you want to make a honeymoon baby, all of this stuff should be done before you go on your honeymoon. *ALREADY HAS BEEN*
2007-12-28 02:45:40 · update #2
We've been together 4.5 years and of course I want him...after the Wedding--we want a BABY--why is it people try to be negative to something positive? OMFG!
2007-12-28 02:48:21 · update #3
Can't believe the negative answers!
We were open to having a family RIGHT away! I was 28, all our ducks were in a row, etc. However, it took two years before our son was born! (nature does intercede sometimes!)
Glad to know you're open to having children right away. Wishing you baby dust!
2007-12-29 01:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well we have both talked about the kids and the family (everything from the kind of house, the cars we like, what dogs and cats we want, how many kids etc,) and we have decided about 3 or so years after we get married. We both want to be 25-27. We have most of the little details planned out. But we are also working on a deadline (or possible one) because of certain cancers that run in my family.
We have also said that if at anytime before that point we end up having a child we wouldn't consider adoption abortion or anything like that, just take it as it comes, but the plan is for sure to start intentionally trying at 3 years (well probably 2 because it takes a while to have a baby haha)
2007-12-28 18:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We waited 2 years. We wanted time to be together as a married couple, and establish our marriage as the most important relationship. However, I think you should get pregnant whenever it feels right for you. Such an individual thing. Babies are awesome. We have 2 now and we both absolutely adore them. If you got pregnant right away, I think it would be thrilling!
*Per your new details- Since you two have been together for so long, and are so well established in your lives, why not just go for it? Good luck! I think babies are appropriate whenever a couple is in a healthy stable relationsip. The idea of families seems to have taken a beating from pop culture as of late, but I feel bad for the people who are so down on having kids. So rewarding, and they are missing out!
2007-12-28 02:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Shelby R 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We haven't completely decided whether or not we want to have kids. The current status is 'maybe some day, but not right now'. We're also in our 30's and established, but we really like to travel, play sports, camp, hike, and have some sort of adventure in our free time. Having kids would definitely mean a major lifestyle change - at least for a while. Neither one of us is ready to give that up that element of freedom yet.
We also both feel pretty strongly that if we choose to have children, we'll probably adopt. There are millions of children who are already in the world and need families to love them.
Well....good luck to you and your future husband!! Hope everything works out just like you want it. :-)
2007-12-28 02:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by SE 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take your time and figure out what works best for you. Some people wait a month, some people wait five years. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks...when you and your hubby feel that you are mature enough, financially stable and ready to go, then go for it! I personally am getting married the weekend before you (YAY!) and we didn't really set a specific time on kids. We just said that we wanted to travel a bit on our own and then get rid of most of our debt before we start a family. It's different for everyone, you have to find what works best for you!
2007-12-28 03:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by shininghappy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have started planning a family before the wedding. Not that that's bad, as long as your husband-to-be is in on the plan.
Tell me, do you know how you're going to pay for this baby yet? Do you have medical coverage? What are your employers' policies toward family and medical leave? Have you picked an obstetrician? Have you made a birth plan? This kind of homework isn't something that you should leave for after you find out you're pregnant. If you want to make a honeymoon baby, all of this stuff should be done before you go on your honeymoon. If you haven't done any of this planning yet, I strongly recommend that you hold off on getting pregnant until you have this stuff done.
2007-12-28 02:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 7⤋
Good question... We'll be married in August...he'll be 31 and I'll be 32...we're really on the fence about this. We like kids, but we're just unsure whether we're ready to make that sort of commitment to a new life. We like our lives together so much that we don't want that to be compromised. I work with kids...I love them...I just don't know that we're ready.
Yikes... It's a huge decision! Best of luck to you! You've done your homework and you're ready!
2007-12-28 04:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by Why? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to see you got so many negative responses. Congrats on your upcoming wedding and good luck with your plan.
Being that my fiance has kids already - whom we are trying to get custody of, we are planning on waiting a little while before trying to get pregnant, within the first year though.
2007-12-28 02:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Angela O 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After we get married, we wanna have a baby after a year.
We want to enjoy time by ourself and try to do stuff we wouldnt do with a small baby, like traveling or backpacking....
Besides we wanna be more financially stable, save more money and be totally prepare for the baby.
My older sister and some of my friends have babies already and the way life changes and the happiness they bring is unbelievable.
I wish you good luck in your marriage and in your Honey moon =)
2007-12-28 03:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by ahmoce1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you! My fiance and I have talked about it for a few months now and we both agreed to a month of abstinence before the wedding to make our honeymoon a little more interesting and to start "trying" on the honeymoon! :) good luck and congrats!
2007-12-28 02:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋