I am confused about something and im really stuck..im in a long distance relation and we do love each other soo much..he was coming to visit me in january coz its been a long time we didnt see each other ( a year and so)...unfortunatley his work cant give him a vacation in january till march..so that night i got a baaad headache coz i got soo mad because i really miss him...so i called him that night and told him i hate you..he said im not in the mood and we will talk the next day..he didnt call and when i called lots of times than he answered,he said that hes going to go to work..i feel that he changed when i told him that..i feel guilty..he must understand how i feel...+i dont know what to do,do i say im sorry ..please help
2007-12-28 02:12:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why would you tell him you hate him when it's his boss that was keeping him from coming in January? That was not fair at all of you to do, and it's no wonder he's hurt.
2007-12-28 02:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him; "you're sorry for going off on him like that, you really miss him and want to see him. However, it's not working out for you and him because there's just too much distance between you two, so it's just best that you both break up due to the differences in each of your lives right now."
You also want to let him know that if in time you haven't found someone else, that the door is still open for him to come back, where you both left off......
That's as sincere as a kiss on the forehead. God Bless and Good luck!
2007-12-28 02:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "I hate you!" part is childish and really, you SHOULD be grounded. That's pretty much what he's doing. Also, you knew from the beginning that this is waht happens with long distance relationships. Are you bi-polar or something?
Why dont' you end the relationship and find one (healthier) closer to home? You really should think before you speak, especially if you're gonna be feeling sorry for it later. Grow up and THEN try to have a relationship. I would have already dumped you....who knows...this might be his way of doing it!
2007-12-28 02:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys hate ultimatums. Your temper tantrum didn't help.
You hurt him deeply because of your frustration. You're pushing him away.
You haven't said you're sorry yet? You wonder why he's acting strange? If this isn't the first time you've had these sorts of outbursts it's really no wonder he's pulling away from you.
No one wants to be treated like that. LDR's take alot more work than typical relationships.
You need to apologise and don't get upset if it takes a while for him to get back to 'normal'.
2007-12-28 02:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by beut_els_guese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appologise and try to be more understanding....i had a long distance relationship and we've never met so we talked for a year and i was going there in 6 months but he gave me up and believe me it hurts A LOT so just say you're sorry and be nice....waiting is hard but don't give it up easy!!
2007-12-28 02:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him that you're sorry would be a good start. After all, you did say that you hated him because of something that was not at all his fault.
If he's the right guy for you, he'll forgive you.
And then sometime later on, when he does something to hurt you and then says he's sorry later, you will show him the same forgiveness.
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2007-12-28 02:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you would have felt if he had called you and said that he hated you. You would have felt hurt, devastated, etc. Imagine hearing this from the person who claims to love him.
You should have controlled your anger and just accepted the fact that you would not be seeing him until March.
2007-12-28 02:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by CatNip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably should apologize for being a big baby. if he can't get off work it is not his fault now is it? you should be happy you have a guy that actually has a job in this day and age. if you feel so strongly about seeing him get your happy *** down and make plans to go to him how about that? then you could quit your whining
2007-12-28 02:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by ron s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasn't his fault that his work wouldn't let him have the vacation for another 2 months. I know you miss him, I miss my boyfriend right now too. Terribly so....
But maybe it would be better for you if you had a relationship that was right here with you?
2007-12-28 02:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley Ward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes calling me now.
2007-12-28 02:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by lauren w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋