They guy i love proposed to me christmas eve and i was very excited.. i have been a best friend of 5 yrs to the girl that is mad at me and she got engaged on christmas day. And the guy i am with is cousin's with the guy she is with. We got them together.. My guy was going to propose on new yrs eve but changed his mind and did it on christmas eve, bc he knew how excited i would be. she is mad and said we stabbed them in the back and hurt there feelings and were not being true friends bc we should have waited to new yrs to get engaged.. I think she is being very ugly and we got into and are not talking now..She is 24 and i think she is acting childish.. what do yall think? We were very happy for her and her guy..
2007-12-28 02:07:38 · 21 answers · asked by Sweetness33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT A *****! SHE SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR YOU. WHY DOES IT MATTER WHEN YOU GOT ENGAGED LOTS OF PEOPLE GET ENGAGED ON CHRISTMAS EVE NOT TO MENTION CHRISTMAS? IT'S NOT LIKE YOU ARE HAVING YOUR WEDDING THE SAME DAY...NOW THAT WOULD BE A STAB IN THE BACK BECAUSE YOUR MAN AND HER MAN HAVE SHARE THE SAME FAMILY. SHE IS NOT A TRUE FRIEND...IT'S NO WAY YOU COULD HAVE CONTROL WHEN YOUR MAN POPPED THE QUESTION. FORGET THAT FUTURE BRIDEZILLA. SHE DOESN'T SOUND LIKE A GOOD FRIEND AT ALL. SO CHILDISH!!!!!
2007-12-28 02:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by tatyana17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
print this out. Indeed she is being childish. Though, she's entitled to her emotions. Try to listen to some subtle cues about 'why' she feels this way. It sounds to me as if she's never really felt important OR has always been on a pedastal as MOST IMPORTANT. If the latter is true, then you do not want her for a friend at ALL. This type of drama queen brings a bitterness that destroys all the beautiful moments in life.
Mark my words, she will not marry if she continues in this way. He will leave her, and she will blame you. Find a new friend. It's okay to be hurt loosing her friendship (but I have a feeling she was not a positive contributing friend to you)
2007-12-28 02:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if it was me and my best friend, it would make it even more special that we got engaged to our men (who are so closely related) at very similar times. It would make me feel very joyful that even when I was getting engaged my best friend was still right there with me, still doing the same thing as me. I would love to have so much in common with my best friend.
However, if she feels sad instead of happy, perhaps she had a different vision than what I would have had... she imagined something different. It would seem important that you mend your friendship with her, especially since you are even going to be in the same family. Calling her names for how she feels isn't going to help things.
Say you're sorry that you accidentally hurt her feelings... because that was not your intention. Tell her you love her, and you're very happy that you can both celebrate your engagements at the same time (or only a day apart). Tell her how much it means to you that you will be in the same family, and let her know that you would really like to mend things with her, as her friendship means a lot to you.
I don't think she is being childish. I think she had put a lot of emotions into how she imagined her engagement would be, and when it turned out different she was really disappointed. Please don't blame her, but understand how she feels, and you can be friends again in no time. Once she knows that you and your man truly care, and did not mean to hurt her, she will be able to wish you very happy, and be very joyful in your engagement.
2007-12-29 06:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what it sounds like she has jealousy issues, instead of being bitchy she should be excited not only for herself but for you too.. it sounds like shes upset because she wanted all the attention on Christmas. true friends will be happy for you no matter what. you'd think shed be happy to have her best friend going through all the same things but you know some people just cant be happy and let the drama go. wait and see if she grows up at all and then decide if shes worth your time as a friend. CONGRATS on your engagement sweetie I'm really happy for you!!!
2007-12-28 02:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by bloodykisses3685 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, she is being childish. She probably feels like you stole her thunder, but really it doesn't matter who got engaged when or who gets married first. Its not a race. If she is going to be mad about something that dumb then let her be mad. Its your life, not hers and if you fiance proposed to you when he did then that is when it felt right for him. If he did it just to "beat" them to the proposal then you need to reasses whether you are getting married for love or whether you are getting married because others are and it seems like the right thing to do.
2007-12-28 02:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by TG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will agree with every body "she is acting childish" what's it to her how and when you get engaged tell her to grow up and start acting like a woman not like a little spoiled brat for that what she is.
Why is she the only one who can get engaged on Christmas eve if your fiance want to propose to you on Christmas eve then it's his choosing to do so. and did you accepted his proposal then congratulations on your up coming wedding
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2007-12-28 02:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by doubleg2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree. i think she is being very childish, especially at her age. she shouldn't be worried about the date you got engaged. it's something that your fiance wanted to do for you, not something that was being scheduled around your friend and her boyfriend. she has no right to be mad at you at all. you did nothing wrong. you are right to be happy for her and her fiance, and she should be happy for you. obviously she's not a true bestfriend.
2007-12-28 02:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by cee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is acting all controlling wanting to have your engagement on new years it's not her getting engaged so why should she care what day it is, Just don't talk to her until she isen't acting like some little ignorant brat.
2007-12-28 02:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is acting childish.
Tell her srry but it wasnt my falt that he proposed to me on christmas eve intsead of new years eve.
But if she acts like that still not talking to u she is not a true bff
2007-12-28 02:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋