and gets hysterical, it is begining to affect my relationship with my friends, I cant make plans to meet up anymore as i know when the time comes to meet ill end up canceling becasue ill have to stay with her co calm her down so she doesnt do anything suicidal.she has been recieving lots of mental help. what can i do ?
2007-12-28 02:00:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
im not marie by the way, im male.
2007-12-28 02:01:42 · update #1
If she truly is manic depressive, your best option is to RUN and dont look back. If you stay with her your life will be hell, she will get worse with time. You might feel like a hero and her rescuer now, there is no rescuing her and instead of gratitude you will only get more hostility and grief.
2007-12-28 02:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by cimra 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.
Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.
Depression Free Method?
2016-05-15 22:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds terribly harsh but you really need to think if you want to continue this relationship as it will have and clearly is having a massive impact on your life. Before you know it, you will have no friends left and she will be the only person in your life. Mental illness is a terrible thing and the sufferer can use this condition to become very controlling - if you do not comply with their wishes they will threaten suicide, panic attacks etc to get their own way. Your girlfriend needs to get help for her condition, therapy/medication etc so her condition is managed. You need to ensure that you have breaks from her and for goodness sake, make sure that you keep all of your friends. Friends are so important and it sounds like you will be needing them.
2007-12-28 02:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They have medicine for that. I am female and bipolar as well. I get so angry about the littlest things. The problem is that I KNOW what I am doing is bad, but my emotions are so strong I cant help it. Manic depression is serious. When you have help, its like putting on glasses for the first time saying "OMG this is what the world is SUPPOSED to look like!!".
As for the receiving help, it's a 50/50 thing. She can receive all the help in the world but she needs to realize her actions and help them herself. Medicine and psychologists just aid the person with their own practice. She may not see that she is doing anything wrong. Something needs to jolt her jive, get it?
When dealing with mental problems it is hard, because that person usually believe what they are doing it right. Murders believe that... it's an illness. But in order for this wake up call, you need the right person. You need someone that knows her well and that she trusts and knows her behavior.
Good luck
2007-12-28 02:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Chloe's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you need to put some boundaries in place in this relationship.
Yes, she has a serious mental illness, so do lots of other people. And you have a life too. She must realise this or she will lose you.
However if you drop every thing as soon as she starts to 'go off on one' (bad phrase I know but you know what I mean) really you are colluding with the illness and allowing her to act this way.
She needs to take some responsibility and if she is receiving help her CPN/Counsellors will be able to help her a lot with this.
You need to educate yourself as much as you can about her illness and most importantly the triggers (ie you going out alone)
then both of you work on this issues and she will realise it is not the end of the world if you go meet the guys for a few drinks.
It is a rocky road, I know as my partner is Bi-polar too, but If I can do it, others can.
good luck I hope you learn to get through this! :o)
2007-12-28 02:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Manic Depression, or Bipolar Disorder as it is commonly called, is an illness of extremities. My psych described it as living your emotions under a magnifying glass. However you feel, if your illness is not stable, will be magnified. That having been said you are still responsible for your behaviour. If your girlfriend has issues with you going out she has to learn to deal with them. You are not responsible for the way she feels or the way she behaves. She does seem to need help but so do you.
2007-12-28 03:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by CW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Has she been formally diagnosed with bipolar disorder? It doesn't sound like she's on any meds - maybe she's been prescribed some, but I don't think she's taking any. If she's been diagnosed, encourage her to see a professional that can adjust her meds for her. Bipolar is not easy to deal with under any circumstances, but it's something that is manageable with lots of support from professionals.
Keep in mind that you don't HAVE to stay with her just because she's ill and you're afraid she'll hurt herself. If you want to be with her then fine, that's great, but don't feel obligated to stay in an overwhelming situation that is taking over your life. You are not a mental health professional and therefore are not the person that everyone excepts to help her get better. All you can do is support her and be there fore her - but again, don't let it rule your life. Let professionals step in. If you think it's warranted, you can take drive her to the hospital ER and depending on the situation, they may admit her. It sounds awful, but I have had to do that with an ex who swore he would kill himself since we weren't together anymore. He spent 4 days under observation and the doctors got to decide that he was no longer a threat to himself, instead of me feeling like I had to make that determination. Good luck to you!
2007-12-28 02:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is using her "mental state" to control you. She needs to find someone she can control to make her happy. You need to find someone less controling. Then you both will be happy. Don't feel bad when you break-up with her and she keeps calling you telling you she will hurt herself if you don't take her back. Just understand that she will have problems letting go until she finds someone new to control. Don't answer her calls and don't answer the door when she comes knocking. Cut her off and she will get bored and find someone else to keep her busy.
2007-12-28 03:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Katelynn & Melissa's Mommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like manic depression (bipolar disorder), because it only happens situationally, whereas manic depression tends to come in phases of mania, then phases of depression, which can last for certain periods of time. In any case, what it sounds like is borderline personality disorder, which is often mistaken for bipolar disorder because of the emotional extremes the person is driven to. Such people have fear of abandonment, and fixate on a particular person to fulfill all of their emotional needs. When you go out to see other people, she feels you are abandoning her. She needs to control your actions so that she can feel secure. This situation will likely only get worse. I assume she has also made suicidal threats? That's a classic manipulative technique to get someone to do what you want. As for what you can do: depends if you want to stay with her or not. She needs to feel secure, so you could focus on making her feel secure. But at the same time, it's not fair for you to sacrifice your relationship with your friends for her. YOU have got to establish boundaries, because she has none.
2007-12-28 02:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Q 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
That's not necessarily Bi-Polar. But, then again, I don't know all the 411 going on with her. It sounds like it is definitely a separation anxiety disorder of some sort. Don't give up though. Explain to her, kindly but seriously, the affect this is having on you. Strongly advise her to either see her MD, if she hasn't already, to be referred to a specialist who can then properly dx her, or suggest she look into a medication adjustment, granted she is already under the care of a specialist. You might try to take her with you as much as possible, that usually helps tremendously!
2007-12-28 02:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by ~ luv sis 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋