my bf made out with my so called best friend. now what?

Question

what do you do if you walk in on youre bf making out with one of youre best friends???

ive dated matt for about a year, i think. ON/OFF!
but now it seems like its changed everything, and i have no idea what to do?

what to say to either of them?
belive them; wen they say they wer drunk?
and idk wat to do on NEW YEARS either!?????

Answer 1

say its over with your boyfriend and say to your best friend that you you should not be friends anymore they would not do that if they were true but they are fake

Answer 2

Well Ive been cheated on for most of the life and when I answer this question that will influence my answer. Get rid of them both. If your guy loved you then even getting drunk wouldnt allow him to do that, Ive been drunk several times and never have I been in the state where I gave anything up to a guy. Or if he thought that, that might happen he would have never been drunk without you or with other chicks. There are lots of pigs out there, true colors show when they(we) are drunk.

Your friend on the other hand is selfish. Same rules apply. Well I guess she was a lil jealous she had to have what you had. You can do better promise ya that. Dont let them slide. Been there done that it will kick you in the face and it will hurt 10X more every time.

Becareful with that ya do.

Answer 3

Oh Brooke, honey.....don't know how old you are, but you sound young. You've "dated" a guy for about a year........you think?......on and off????? He was never YOURS to begin with!

You guys didn't have any ties, so why the problem?

Why did you ask them anything? What do you expect them to say to you, the truth???? Why, that might HURT you, and they wouldn't want to do that, would they????? (Ha ha)

Hey, the ocean is full of fishes, kid. Look at all this in reality, not the way you would like it to be. YOU took the relationship a whole lot more serious than he did (guys are like that, you know, especially when they are under 25)

Give him to her now, pat them both on the back and tell them with a smile "you deserve each other, good luck" and remember.....if he did it to you, he'll do it to her, and MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!!!

What do you do on New Years???? I'll tell you. You'll do what millions of other people do who don't have a date...Sit home with a box of chocolates and watch the ball drop. There's always next year. Your life doesn't end with one jerk. Don't you dare degrade yourself by taking him back or buying into the lies.

Good luck, God bless.....and next year will be a whole lot better because you will have learned an important lesson in life...

(Old enough to be your grandma....been there....done that (and more)!!!

Answer 4

You discovered something very important about at least three things:

1 & 2. Your boyfriend and your "best" friend.

3. Your own personal qualifications for deciding something. This lesson alone could make a great difference in your future.

In their defense consider: the sexual urge in young people often overrides anything normally used as reasoning. Most people, when presented with a chance to acquire a benefit will normally rationalize a way to avail themselves of that perceived benefit even if they realize that they may not be free to do so according to their own past commitments.

So, regarding your two friends, wish them happiness and move on.

The important lesson here is for all of us to re-consider the methods we use to arrive at conclusions. This goes to human reasoning, a faulty process, at best.

Work on your method of arriving at conclusions with special consideration to the scientific method and people will work for you. Ignore the reasoning process and you will always work for other people.

Of course, there is always wind-fall success. You could end up wealthy because of the very poor judgment of others...you could be a rock star, a talking head on TV, a rap "artist", any number of vocations requiring little or no talent and effort but even though these people seem to be everywhere, their success, if unwarranted, is also rare enough not to count on such bazaar happenstance.

We don't own people so allow them the freedom to make their own mistakes, wish them well and make more friend; you don’t even have to give up the two in question. You might want to..reappraise..their status in your life!

Answer 5

Don't trust a guy or a friend of this type.Keep yourself away from both.Either of them is not worth keeping a relationship with.Why do you think of telling "what to whom".The fact is known already.No more sympathy or patch up, please.Maintain your dignity as a woman of substance.OK?
Let the New Year be spent in a better way and I am sure you have become more mature due to this event.Have your eyes,ears and mind more open before becoming an intimate friend or GF of anyone.God is very kind and He has given you this opportunity to understand the "real ones" in future.

God Bless

Answer 6

It doesn't seem like he really is your boyfriend. You admit yourself that it's been on and off so at the very least it doesn't sound steady. Being drunk is never a good excuse for anything you ever did wrong. Just because you are drunk doesn't mean you didn't know what you are doing. If you really care about your friend you are going to have to decide for yourself what needs to happen. If you don't think you can forgive her then you have a very serious decision to make. Catching them making out is one thing catching them having sex is another.

Answer 7

I think in your heart you already know the answer. You stated that you were dating on/off with your bf for the last year or so and so obviously there are flaws in the relationship that cause you two to clash.

Your best friend would of most likely picked up on this as well, being your best friend and all.

Anyways though, its up to you to decide if you still want both him and her friendship and wether or not you can rebuild the trust in both of them again. In the end he may not turn out to be your perfect match but he may be your best friends.

Either way just confront them both about it and if they make excuses then find a new bf/best friend.

Answer 8

boyfriend::

i think you should just dump him and find someone else...i mean.. you guys can still be friends right? but to be honest...if you give him another chance, he might take advantage of that. plus, there are like 9034823048923o million other guys out there..maybe hes not the right one for you :)


so called 'bestfriend' ::

try and listen to her side of the story...if my bestfriend made out with my boyfriend..i'd be pretty pissed .. but i'd probably go and talk to her about it after a few days or something. If she was lying then shes not your bestfriend. kus if she doesnt respect you..then why should you ? :p

new years ::

WELL as for new years :)
* you could go out for dinner at a nice restaurant and have soem friends over at your place..and countdown? its always fun to have a bunch of friends kus the atmosphere is a lot more lively

Answer 9

if people your life are not faithful to you they are not good enough for you.and you have to make that jump into not having a boyfriend and not having a best friend .it is a big leap into uncertainy but hold your nose and plunge in because that is life and we we must life it to the full.so i say to you find some that is worth while because now i know that you fell so small and insignifedent that you will meet people that make you feel woth while,i hope that helps email me if you want to talk on ms.
=0 happy new year

Answer 10

Alcohol isn't an excuse...if it were me, I'd be minus a boyfriend and 'best friend' right now. People who care about you, wouldn't do what those two did. That's a huge show of disrespect for you and relationships in general.

Let them go and move on (sorry to hear it happened).

Answer 11

I'd dump them both. She's obviously not your friend...let alone your best friend. They should show some self control. Obviously neither of them respect your relationship. Alcohol is not an excuse. Ever heard a drunk person speaks a sober mind? Well I think the alcohol just made them uninhibited to do what they've been wanting to do anyways.