Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend is deeply in love with me. But I fall in and out of love with him, and I don't feel comfortable around him. I am young and I don't feel ready for true love. I can't sleep or eat because I worry about how I'm making the wrong decision by staying with him. He has come to visit me (he lives 100s miles away) and I don't want to see him. Should I break up with him? And should I do it while he is still in town or over the phone after he goes home? Please respond soon because I have to see him today.

Answer 1

tell him straight in his face,"GET LOST".Tell him the truth, and kick him out of the house.

Answer 2

I feel for you. I would break up with him over the phone. Don't do it in person after he has driven 100 miles. Just tell him that you cannot do a long distance relationship anymore and that you are still young and don't want to get tied down into a very serious relationship. If he doesn't take that as a breakup. Just be honest and tell him that you don't want to see him anymore (he will want to know why!) and that you need him to move on. If he keeps pressing you for why it isn't working out, tell him that you don't want to have him over an hour away and that it is not fair to him (and that you don't want him to move etc). Just tell him point blank (as a last resort) "Look, I don't feel for you how you care about me. I like you, but I have started to not feel comfortable around you because I know you love me and I don't share those same feelings for you. I just don't feel that way about you. It is not going to work out. I'm sorry if this is hurtful to you, but I don't want to be in a relationship like this."

Good luck sweety.

Answer 3

If you are both young, it would probably be easier for you to do it over the phone. Make sure that you do act a little different when he is in town though. Do not act all peppy, lovey-dovey, and such when he is around. Make sure he sort of sees it coming.

If you are both older, say 16+, I would do it in person because it is the mature thing to do, and would be good practice for you in future relationships. (However, if you are worried that he might act out physically upon you or surroundings, just do it over the phone.)

As for whether or not to do it, I believe you should since you do not love him 100% of the time (therefore this is probably not true love, and probably infatuation on both sides.)

I'm sure it will hurt his feelings to begin with, but he will get over it eventually.

At this point in your life, you need to do what is best for you.

Answer 4

If you love him you may need to leave him to really appreciate the relationship you have. Or to find out if you both made the right decision but it is more less up to you cuz you have to deal with him. To me it sounds like your at that turning point in your life where you want to be with someone but not completely committed cuz your young. Do whats best for you and will make you start eating and sleeping cuz those are bad habits to keep up.

Answer 5

I would say yes because its not fair to the both of you. Its not really love if its only one sided. It takes two to make it work. Since he is deeply in love with you, he thinks you feel the same about him. While he's happy, you're miserable and its taking a toll on your well being. If you're not ready for true love then explain it to him. In simple words (excuse the harshness), Don't waste his time!!!

Definitely talk to him in person so that you can give him that one last hug/kiss.

Answer 6

It depends on how you want to be viewed. Face to face would be much better than 100 miles away in a text message or phone call. Obviously you aren't ready for this yet and maybe one day you might regret it but "one day" isn't here yet so live for today. He will appreciate it more face to face - it helps with closure and that is a big deal.

Answer 7

This same thing happened to me. Break up with him but DO NOT fall into the trap of getting back together right away. This happened to me because at first you will miss the idea of him and talking to him and having someone there, but give it two weeks and you will be happy with your choice. Also you are being unfair to him by staying with him. It he truly loves you he will try to understand. Me and my ex are on good terms and still talk every once and a while.

Answer 8

I would Do It Today...Its Like A Bandaid, Do It Fast And The Pain Only Lasts 4 A Minute...DO iT sLOW aND iT hURTS mORE...dONT fRAG iT oN...And Do It In Person Cuz At Least He Can See Ur Face And Emotions As U Tell Him, And U Can Talk About The Reasons Ur Dumpping Him....Good Luck Hun ;D

Answer 9

A DIRECT answer YES wen u r not comfortable n want 2 so go ahead......break up in front of him ......explain 2 him n if possible try 2 ask him 2 b only frnd just 2 avoid 4geting bein with him n 2 b sure of bein taken zi rite decision ......yet may b later u could fall in love with him in ur rite age or understand him....watever u would b sure atleast he'll b here....

Answer 10

I am not sure what to tell you....if you feel that he is not the right guy for you, then u should break up with him;.....I understand that it might break his and your heart but I am sure that you will have other chances in the world...Besides, you are still young! I have this guy who lives very very far away from me but he keeps calling me and all that and I don't know what to do with him......say that you will do what you will do in his face....don't be afraid to say it in his face....or, you can just sit down with him and talk and tell him how you feel and then you can just try to work things out...I have alot of suggestions so just email me if you want to know more.

Answer 11

Yes, you should. Why? Because someone who cares so deeply for you should be spared the pain of spending their time and efforts on someone who doesn't love him back. The whole "falling in and out love thing"....It soumds very immature but at least you admit you're not ready for "true love". Just remember, be fair,once it's over, it's over,don't change your mind for the 100th time and decide you want him back.