2007-12-27 23:11:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Im not feeling Guilty, but my Ex is still Feeling Guilt enough to try and cause problems my life
2007-12-27 23:20:35 · update #1
It would put a strain on a relationship. Just tell him to f*ck off and get a life.
2007-12-27 23:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the reason the guilt is for. If it is something serious where a partner can not be honest, then yes, it can ruin a relationship. If the guilt was for something minor, like washing the wrong shirt for an important interview or burning the pizza, then no it will not ruin a relationship, just make it stronger. Sometimes the guilt shows how much you care for someone (depends on the circumstances surrounding guilt).
2007-12-27 23:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by mammy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not talking about what the spouse is having feelings of guilt about, and the reluctance by him/her to prevent future behaviors similar to that which brought forth the initial guilt, or to encourage the same behaviors in the future, will, in my opinion, ruin a relationship.
My girlfriend and I used the following simple formula to open a discussion that had involved some trust issues that we were having which resulted in much guilt, mistrust, jealousy and alot of grief within our relationship. This is what you do:
First, a time must be set aside for the discussion. And In matters which involved past behaviors that resulted in one of the partners lack of trust in the other, both parties must first agree whether remaining in the relationship is what both sides want to do.
Prior to the discussion, it must first be made clear that a format will be used for the purpose of fostering open-mindedness, and understanding, in order to properly facilitate the discussion.
Two important promises must be made prior to beginning the path towards the resolution: a) The trust issue cannot happen within the relationship again; and b) Neither the issue, nor any other information that surfaces as a result of the discussion, shall ever be used as ammunition against the other in any future disagreements or quarrels.
It must be made clear, that, during the course of the discussion any information that is uncovered will be used strictly for the purpose of coming clean, to resolve the issue, and for the purpose of nourishing the relationship. There must be trust or it will not work.
The purpose of the discussion is an attempt to depart from what had happened, and to move forward, with a new trust and understanding, and to continue along the path of a healthy relationship, together...
2007-12-27 23:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Yea yea, I'm a duck... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes guilt will ruin a relationship.
2007-12-28 02:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes 100 percent
2007-12-27 23:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why you feel guilty, if it's related to the relationship then it may drive a wedge between you both. You can always talk about it.
2007-12-27 23:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, eats away at you just like jealousy or mistrust
2007-12-27 23:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by FoundMyStar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i most definately can. when you feel guilty about something then you feel tense around that person and unless they are dead and feel nothing they can feel that tension. it will eventually build up and one day explode.
2007-12-27 23:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More often than not. Takes a lot of effort for it not to.
2007-12-27 23:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by CATHYJOAN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It does not even turn me on anymore cheating on my GF
2007-12-27 23:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋