Why am i so friendless and lonely?

Question

in the beginning of the term, i was deemed as the most fun and well-liked girl in my class, everyone loved me and found me sincere and loving. furthermore, i'm rather tall slim and unique-looking compared to most people in my school, thus that maybe helped in drawing certain people closer to me. i was a hyper and fun-filled girl and always on the go with my friends.

however, s time goes by, i realised that friends started drifting away from me slowly. one day i found myself at a point w/o much friends. when having activities in class, i'd end up as the left odd one out.

right now is term break and i'm really bored and lonely. i have no idea who to call out to town with me, neither did i have anyone to celebrate with on christmas and upcoming new year.

where does the problem here?? guys can you pls help me out by telling me what's actually happened and how do i do to solve this problem? thank you.. i really need help.

Answer 1

Ummm.... Maybe there is something in you that your friends don't like and you are not yet aware of it. You still need to explore more about yourself: not just from your own perspective but from the perspective of others as well. By this, you will be closer in knowing the REAL you and identify what makes you good and what makes you bad.
You can have variety of ways of knowing how others view you. You can write a letter, email, mypace, or just asking directly, and all the possible ways you can think of. You can start with "I've noticed that we seldom hang out lately and ......blah blah blah" or you can have you own way.
After knowing yourself better, you can now identify what makes them leave you and i'm sure there has too be a way to fix that.
All you need is good communication to know what went wrong and try to fix them.
If after all these you still perceive that they were the one's who got problems, then better get new friends.

Answer 2

well ur problem seems to be bit complicated as u havent mention any such incident bu which one could have understand the reason 4 u being alone. but according to my view u need to go up 2 ur friends and asked them like wats the problem or either try 2 spend sometime with them as u might come 2 know the actual reason. one more thing u can do is that u forget about yourself for some period and try to help your friends and solve their problems and start to care of them. hope u get some way or u might find some way to less your concern through my answer

Answer 3

Sorry about your xmas but the last thing you want 2 do is respond to the guys e-mailing u? Quit worrying about not having friends and start a workout program? U already have height on ur side. If u start a fun workout program u will feel better about urself thus it will show on the outside eventually and next thing u know it will be spring/summer time and u will be surprised?

Answer 4

You seem very young, This isn't a problem it's part of growing up. Most of it you are probably but in your own head. But if you are like very attractive then some might be intimidated by your beauty. You know find you unapproachable. If you come from a wealthy family some might feel unworthy around you. Take a good look at yourself inward and outwardly ask yourself what you see. Tall isn't bad they will catch up you young ladies seem to grow faster than us guy's. I hope this is of some help. I wish you a happy life.

Answer 5

May its a matter of time and things will be fine in days to come. otherwise there is some problem with ur attitude which led to situation like this. Best friends are always there with u and forever. So be patient and look out for some net friends

Answer 6

I'm not going to cast stones, but if that many people have drifted away from you, chances are you did something to cause it. Try to look at how other people's feelings may have been affected by things you did or said, and, if need be, make amends for it.
There is nothing wrong with good self-esteem, but pride will do you in every time. try to do things to help others and be there for them, learn to enjoy this, and do it because it's the right thing, and you want to, not because you need to.
I'm in a program which states very clearly that " Our ultimate purpose is to outfit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and those around us" Try to live this way.
It could be that your just in a slump, maybe you should try to find a hobby or group to involve yourself with others, and friendships could grow from that. Don't look to one set of people for friends, open your mind and yourself to opportunity.

Answer 7

The problem is, you believe you need a lot of friend to be happy You don't need them, because you true friend or in your face. The ones that lift you behind was just there to teach you a lesson or two about life. I want you to remember friends come and go, you may not like it but they do. Don't waste your time worrying about friends and when you will get new ones, because they don't worry about be befriended with you. You will get new friends, it may not be today but you will get some.!!!!!!!Don't Worry be happy!!!!!!

Answer 8

some times life is not fair .how ever i think you have to Chang you way to Dael with your Friends and laren to give as long you know how to take ..its difficult some times but its the best way also ..unique looking not always the reason to make you the best<

Answer 9

Try not to upset yourself too much, don't appear desperate as that can put people off, and attract the wrong kind. Try to be yourself act confident, put your energy into something worthwhile, and focus totally on that thing to keep positive, you ll meet friends soon enough, try to talk to family about it too, don't suffer alone, keep your chin up.

Answer 10

If you want a friend, buy a dog or a fish.... something that has to be nice to you because you feed it. Otherwise, you sound desperate and unlovable. Good luck sweetie!