Can someone tell me how to live my life again?

Question

I'm currently 21 years old and in junior college. I have no friends, only a steady boyfriend. I love spending time with him but it is not the same as having some girlfriends to relate to. I was home schooled throughout high school so I don't even have any connections to friends and I have no idea how to even have a social life. I don't even have any hobbies or activities that I really enjoy either. When im not with my boyfriend I am either bored at home or stuck hanging out with my parents.

What should life really be like for a 21 year old girl? Shouldn't it be more fun and rewarding? All I know is that I currently really don't like my life and yet I have no idea how to even go about constructing an enjoyable life for myself in the first place. I can't even remember the last time I really had fun. I haven't even had friends since middle school. Please help!

Answer 1

Just live is my advice. I am kinda like you: I have had no friends for my whole life but then suddenly i realized i was hanging out with an awesome bunch of people. Just leave it to destiny. Don't try too hard, then you won't get anywhere at all. Just... LIVE!

Answer 2

Really, you can't say you have no friends.
For openers, you have your boy friend. Perhaps, whether you want to or feel like it, you start by joining a group of other young people. This could be a school organization or perhaps a young peoples group at a church. You don't have any hobbies or activities that you enjoy most likely because you haven't tried them. Persevere, one day at a time. If you are bored, force yourself to go out, join a volunteer group.
Your life has only just begun...volunteer to do something, you don't go out but there are so many people who would love to go out but are unable to do so. I'm sure visiting the less fortunate, would make you feel better because it sure would make them better. Shut ins love to talk with someone from time to time. Listen to what they have to say. This will surely be rewarding...maybe even become fun and something you will look forward too.

There are lots of people who enjoy friendships but you also have to say Helllo, how are you...and listen to how they respond. Most will likely say, Fine, how are you and you can then say I'm great, I was thinking of joining the hiking club, have you ever done that or know anyone who does? Just an example.

All 21 year olds are different. No two alike.

Answer 3

You have to have some interest that you enjoy. There has got to be something you would like to try to do. Don't blame anyone else for your life except yourself. You are of legal age to go do things, so get out of the house and see what your town has to offer. Volunteer to help around your town. Go to the hospital and help there, you will see that there is so many places that would love to have your company, but hiding in the house will not introduce you to the enjoyment you can have. You are in college, surely there is someone there that you could spend time with. You have a boyfriend, doesn't he have friends that have girlfriends, get to know them. In plan language, GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND FIND YOURSELF.

Answer 4

There are lots of places that you can meet other girls who could turn out to be great friends. Church youth groups or study clubs at school. It sounds to me that you are going to have to muster up the strength to make the first move. If you see someone in one of your classes that you think is nice, just ask her if she would like to get a cup of coffee after class. Once you meet one friend then others will follow. Don't give up on your life just yet because there is a lot of fun to be had. A famous quote from the Bible: A man that has friends must show himself friendly. So if you want friends then you are going to have to be friendly towards the people around you. Treat them the way you want to be treated. Go out on a limb and make the first move.

Answer 5

Hi 21 years old girl!

Just stay as you are, dont´t try to be someone else to get friends. You don´t have hobbies? No matter, it will be change. You don´t like to talk about superfisical things like make-up? Great! You think a lot? Great! I know how you feel. I´m different too, but I have my sisters. I´m sure you find someone too! But, you have to go outside, just for a walk or something like that. Give people the chance to meet you...

Answer 6

i can kinda understand what u are going thru. ive always had lots of friends but since i joined college, i try to spend time with my mom as much as i can( i even quit dorm and bought an apartment so that we can live together) and i tell you, im missing out a lot. but in the end it all depends on the choices you make. i can be a real wild party girl(and i i choose to i probably will be) or i can spend as much time with my mom before there comes a time when she won't be there. let me tell you, its just something you are comfortable with. but "having fun" is highly overrated. you are as young as you want to be. and as far as finding interests is concerned, go out and try everything available and legal. if there is something u like to do, pursue it further and meet other people with the same interests. like i only found out that i love to dance and am actually good at it in my late teens. good luck!

Answer 7

First thing to tell you; although you aren't like "most" people (the conventional style of living) you are perfectly fine.
You seem to be healthy, you can spell, and you have a boyfriend that you hang around with who seems like he must be half decent if he's hanging around with you quite a lot.
You may have been slightly sheltered, but that's nothing.
If you really can't talk to anyone - in your classes, clubs, buses? - then ask your boyfriend to introduce you to his friends; sounds lame, but you can get experience just talking to people if you're so uncomfortable.
I'm sure you're into a lot of normal things; probably at least something like hair/makeup/reading?
You may not enjoy them, but it means you can do a lot of things instead of sticking to just one.
You'll find people who'll be interested in talking to you - if you haven't talked to anyone in class, 1) I don't know how the hell you do it, and 2) everyone's going to be dying to know what you're like.
You may not think you have a personality, but you do, the fact you asked on the net proves you are not the shyest person in the world. I'm sure you have enough confidence in yourself to talk and express your own opinions, and there is definitely someone who will value your input.
Keep trying, and you'll be fine.

Answer 8

yea i'm homeschooled too and got the same problem though i got a great sis and she's my best friend...and i got lots of hobbies so i enjoy life...well you can think about what you like doing and go to the gym or yoga classess for example-good for the body and meet new ppl:):) Good luck!! By the way where did you meet your bf?

Answer 9

Sounds like you should be exploring college life. I'm sure there are plenty of clubs you can join at school. Most schools have a drama or sports department. That's a good start. I know you say you don't know what you like, but how do you know if you don't try.

Answer 10

ITS WAKE UP TIME
why not take up badminton,its a lovely energetic game,you wont only make new friends,but will most likely end up going out for drinks,parties etc..and you meet people from all walks of life,you wont regret it,and this will lead on to other things.
And if you've never played before,people would only be too pleased to show you.your missing out on the best part of your life,dont wait until your pushing your zimmer frame about,get going.
good luck