My fiancee and I are getting married in the spring, i'll be 21 he'll be 22. We really want to start TTC as soon as possible, on the other hand we would also like to wait until we have a little bit more money saved up. We're not in debt at all but we don't have any savings. Everyone i talk to says to wait at least 2-3 years after we're married to start trying. I would also like to start TTC as soon as possible because i would really love my grandma to see her great grandchild. She is 79 and is going downhill fast. I could use some advice and life expierences from you guys, thanks so much!
2007-12-27 20:11:55 · 4 answers · asked by Ash 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think if you want to start trying you should start trying. Yeah it would be ideal if you guys had some savings but you know what; children never come at a perfect time. If you're planning on having kids anyway, and you're getting married, you've already ensured a loving and stable environment. I am also currently trying and wanted my grandparents to get to see their great-grandchild. Unfortunately it was too late for my grandpa who died on December 16th this year.
There are also benefits to starting to try to conceive early. For one, you would know if there were any fertility problems pretty much right away and this wouldn't be discovered once it was too late. I've heard from some people that I know that they waited longer in life to try for children until they were stable and had a career going but by the time that they were ready to start trying there were too many problems and they had this great job but they were missing the one thing that they always wanted--children...as you get older getting pregnant gets harder.
Me and my guy would love to have a kid but we've been trying for 2 years and nothing yet although the doctor said we shouldn ' t be having problems. And unfortunately we don't have the money to be going to see constant specialists. So it's just a big waiting game. We're not the richest people but that's no reason that I should have to give up on my dream on being a mother.
If you want to get pregnant now, go for it. In my opinion, watching babies with their grandparents is a beautiful thing...and those pictures you can have with like 4 generations in them are priceless. Just because you have a kid doesn't mean you still can't fulfill the dreams that you had before. I'm still trying because of my grandparents and because it's something that I also want. Plus, it's nice to be able to enjoy growing up with your child...you know, like going to the park together and playing...things that my parents were too old to do with me.
2007-12-27 20:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by iceyblue1986 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait at least until after you are 25 yrs old to start. You have a lot of life to live before you have children. Once a child is born, its not all about you anymore. You give and put everything you are and have into a child. Its a huge responsiblity. It changes your whole life.
Enjoy life for a few years more then plan to have babies. Make sure your marriage fits and make sure you are financially very strong before you have a baby.
Your grandmother should not be the reason to start trying to have a baby. She would not want it that way.
2007-12-27 20:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're NEVER going to be fully ready to have a child. Nobody ever is, even if it's planned to the extremes there's always something that you're not ready for or didn't anticipate. If you want children, and want to start trying now, go ahead. Don't over plan it, because in most cases you'll end up disapointing yourselves for not getting it "perfect." My grandparents always told me to not stress about it, when you feel it's the right time start trying, if you don't feel you're quite ready yet then don't and be very careful. But, I always found that to be the best advice, don't kill yourself with useless planning. Plan to a certain extent, if it's savings you want, save until you have something you feel comfortable with, then have a child.
2007-12-27 20:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people get pregnant all the time without being married or having a boyfriend, look at me. i don't have anything to give this child but im gonna do my best. if your financially stable and your getting married then thats more than most. if your ready and want a child now then go for it.
2007-12-27 20:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Calum's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋