usually we both pay fairly. im unemployed these days and hes a student who will be unemployed next semester. lately I've noticed that I've been paying more often than he has. today he wanted to go out for lunch but when we went I offered, at first he said no but then he just handed me the bill.
he did take me to a fancy place for Christmas eve and give me gifts ..but then I feel odd when he just hands over the bill to me knowing Im probably as broke as he is!
am i overanalyzing or is this normal??
we've been together almost a year
2007-12-27 19:38:16 · 16 answers · asked by kera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
both are broke and if u want go out, then take it in turns to pay the bill, after all been in relationship is 50 50 and should both take turns, if u have problem with doing so, then stop going out to places that u know u have fork out and feel like u cant afford to do so, and if u want keep going out to these places, then get a job and whats wrong with ur bf getting job next semester, even a parrt-time job for him while studying. but remember students have pay for mertial for their course, and have buy lunchs and transport to and from college. so his money is going there also. if u dont like all this then dump him and both stop been stingy by only haven urselfs think of.
2007-12-28 00:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mum of1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound daft anyway. You seem to spend to much when neither of you can clearly not afford to. You go out to lunch when to do it at home would cost a fraction of eating out. Now, Christmas has gone there is probably some debt about he and probably you are worried. Time to wake up, both of you and live within your means and share everything 50-50. No over indulging on gifts and eating out.
Have a Happy New Year and drink your toast in a BEER not Champagne.
2007-12-28 04:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by ANF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women need to learn to say what they mean. It's hard for us - we value politness in a relationship and expect our partners to look out for us.
Next time say: "Let's split the bill." He can't read your mind and probably doesn't want to anyway, if he knows he can't pay it.
I woujldn't break up a perfectly good relationship because of this but I would learn to deal with it properly.
2007-12-28 05:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the frequences of these kind of stuff. Your treat one time for a casual lunch, not a big deal in my eye. You guys have dated for a year, you should have known what a person he is, don't let petty stuff cheapen your relationship.
2007-12-28 04:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The killer of most relationships the $-sign. Again talk, let your partner know your finance, there is no shame, it's just money!
If the relationship fails, then you know, if you two come up with some money saving/making schemes that keeps the relationship alive... he/she is a keeper!!
2007-12-28 04:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by socialmember 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just broke and took you at your word.
The two of you are going to have to be more honest and practical about your finances or it will create resentment.
Can neither of you get any part time work just to ease the financial strain?
2007-12-28 03:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by gizzaclue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you both are stingy. But also to, maybe a little lazy also. There are jobs out there, $5.00, beats the heck out of no dollars.
2007-12-28 03:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is taking advantage of you. you should share the costs. he clearly thinks that you should pay the bill if he is broke. i think you should discuss these money isues with him and explain you feel that it is unfair to give you the costs to take care of. he needs to take responsibility and start to pay for things
2007-12-28 06:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You offered to pay the bill so he gave it to you.
2007-12-28 03:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont offer to pay if you dont want to
2007-12-28 04:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by angel eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋