Well my wife and i have had a rough past and we worked things out 10 months ago. She feels that all i want to do is have sex with her. She also said that this just makes her feel like a piece of meat to me. We both are pretty busy , 2 kids, she goes to school online, as well as her full time job and i work and have a small business. I know a lot of times that she feels overwhelmed with the kids and work. And i honestly havent been to considerate of her feelings. What are some tips that can help me so that i can show more apppreciation to my wife and make her feel good about me again???? I really do aprreciate the feedback ahead of time!!!
2007-12-27 18:33:47 · 21 answers · asked by Mr Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Want her to know that you understand what's going on in her life? Listen to her, and take the pressure for sex down.
Do what you can to make things a little easier for her, whether that's helping out with the chores, letting her rest while you take care of the kids, or organizing someone she trusts with the kids and making a night out something memorable.
You know what she likes, what she would enjoy. Just make an effort to get that for her.
2007-12-27 18:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more quality time with her. Set up a date night. Communicate with her more. Tell her thank you and how much you appreciate everything she does even the little things. Be affectionate but don't advance it to sex. cuddle on the sofa together. Just love her, bring her flowers once in a while, surprise her by making dinner, vacuuming the floor or helping with the laundry. Little things say a lot. Tell her that the reason you want to have sex with her all the time is because that's how you show her that you love her,but your going to try and show her in other ways. A good book that would help is "The Five Love Languages". Good Luck!
2007-12-27 18:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...some one on one personal time away from the kids would help a lot. Periodically, take her out on a date. Make her feel special again. Get a sitter for the kids... and sometimes have a romantic night after the kids go to bed. Run her a nice bubble bath with candles and bathe her. Then rub her down in body oil after you dry her off. That's a nice gesture too... Send her some flowers to her job sometimes. That always wins brownie points!Sometimes, just touch her when as you pass her in the hall. Prepare her breakfast in bed. The key is to make her feel special in your way. Hope this helps.
2007-12-27 18:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Entreprenuer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give her a relaxing massage without it leading to sex. Offer to watch the kids so she can go get a manicure that will make her feel pampered at little cost and show that you are doing something to let her have something special for herself. If you initiate sex and she's not into it, be understanding and if she feels you understand how she's feeling and are not only interested for sex, she'll start initating it herself.
2007-12-27 18:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at my house some times i just want my backed rubbed.
and if i did not have to do dishes every night that would be great. entertaining the kids so i can have a ME OR GIRLS AFTERNOON
not having to cook dinner and breakfast and lunch every day would be a nice change.
rub my feet
arrange for the kids to go out for a few hours and talk to me
if i want sex i will let you(my husband) know.
help every way you can. you will be rewarded with a loving wife.
2007-12-27 18:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by mkst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set a date to get rid of the kids and agree to do no work at all for that whole day. then treat her like you were dating her all over again.
if you don't have time for that:
put the kids to sleep and have a candle light picnic on the living room floor.
2007-12-27 18:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by kisses and hugs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
! the most important thing syou could do is to spend more time with her and help her in duties. looking after kids, doing school plus job is not an easy task. She needs a lot of time with you, being around her and helping her with the daily house duties and fwith kids'.
2007-12-27 18:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by cherry babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a few of her friends to invite her out on a " girls day" to go shopping or go to the spa. while she is out, get flowers and maybe a dress for her. You can either set up a candle lit dinner for just the two of you, or taker her out to a nice resturant. Show her you can be romantic without the sex.
2007-12-27 18:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clean the whole house and then take the kids somewhere so she can just be in the nice clean house by herself , then drop off the kids with babysitter and come home with wine and food.
2007-12-27 18:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a reason to appreciate you
if you notice a day that she is particularly stressed out, cook dinner for her and your kids and then do the dishes. friday night take her out for a date. let her know that she's not just a piece of meat, she's the woman you married because you love her for who she is.
2007-12-27 18:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋