i just found out my ''Mr right'' husband is just ''good enough'', because i settled,and i just found

Question

my soul mate, what do i do without hurting anyone even tho i know it's impossible.

now i love both, equally, but in a different way.
i don't want to keep my soulmate just ''friends'' i can do that but it will be such a ''waste'' i think. we only live once, right?
will need so much therapy.

Answer 1

Your vows were til death do you part, I think if you want to divorce your hubby that you both be put in a guillotine and I guarantee you that you'll think your hubby is your soul mate, and rethink the divorce.

Answer 2

ahh the grass is greener on the other side syndrome

there is no such thing as soulmates
every time i heard a women say that
she is divorced form her soulmate

you are fickle
and shallow
and fear being alone
so you pick a guy and bide time with him
with out ever really getting to know him
all the while you got your radar on the horizon
looking for the BBD ( bigger better deal )
and then you think you found paydirt
but in truth you never fill this void in yourself
as you new soulmate will not satisfy you
you'll still seek out the BBD
and think he is the bomb
after the 4th divorce
it will dawn on you
that it's not the man that was faulty
but you

Answer 3

You said you found Mr. right and he is just good enough but he is also your husband and that is a lot to thing about. This soul mate you speak of may be great right now but you have not lived with him and no one is the same till we marry them. This great man may not be so great and then you would be giving up good enough for maybe worse.
The sad part of this is I wonder if you love Mr. right? did you ever? Did you marry a man you did not love? If so.. then really this has nothing to do witht he soul mate but the man you married. It was not fare to him if you did not love him, unless you told him you did not love him.
I wonder do you truly know what love is? This is a terrible thing you have done to your husband and you must of been playing around on him to find this soul mate anyway.
so.. tell your Mr. right the truth because you will only end up hurting him more. I just hope you do not regret giving him up.

Answer 4

Been down this damn road before. My wife thought she had found someone that would make her happier because he smiled alot and laughed alot. She was just too stupid to realize all the hell he wanted was to get some...funny how she came crawling back once I busted them. She pays everyday now and I don't let her forget it. This all after 19 yrs of marriage, 3 kids, everything she needed or wanted, my love anytime, and my devotion always. This was after she went to work after being a housewife...oh the compliments, the offers, the numbers...well someone finally got into her little head and ruined it. I find myself still trying to decide what to do because of other issues with children but normally I'd been gone...rather her butt would have been gone!

So lady, you need to tell your husband you are not interested in him anymore and take your cut in support and well being and let your boy toy support you...if you have the guts. Your husband will be able to read your change and find out anyway so you might as well get it over with. Hit the door sister and enjoy your new found life while it lasts.

Answer 5

I could cry. You sound so .... fickle? But take it from me - I found my soul mate but I was married to a real loser who drank too much, had affairs, etc etc. Years later when I got divorced I met up with my "soul mate" and guess what? He wasn't anything of the sort.
Sometimes it is the unavailabilty that is the attraction. Be careful about what you do - this is something you might regret doing very much later on.

Answer 6

I don't buy the "just found out" part. You'll end up divorced multiple times and die alone if you start down the road of "upgrading" everytime you see a better opportunity.

In marriage - Good enough gets great over time. All great marriages have their problems, but it is only with love and committment that you can build the bonds of trust & respect to have a true love and soul mate.

Your infatuation with forbidden love might be exciting now, but if you act on it you'll hurt more than your husband - you'll hurt yourself more in the long run. Be true to your man and yourself and hang in there. Suck it up and tell your soul mate that you 2 were never meant to be together in this lifetime and then stop playing with the fire before you get burned.

Answer 7

You have one of only two choices to make- either stay with mr. good enough and be miserable- and end up divorced one day anyway; or do the inevitable and get divorced and marry your soulmate. You don't need to tell your present husband that you have found someone else. That would really hurt him. Just get a divorce- and then marry the one whom you should have waited for in the first place.

Answer 8

Whatever you do don't marry your soul mate. Marriage even destroys soul mates. Someone always gets hurt, but don't worry what goes around comes around and you will feel the same pain!!!

Answer 9

A shinny new face isn't something to cling on to. What do you know about this new person? How long have you known him/her? just ask your self what this really is? is it just the novelty of this person? Because novelty wears off. I think you should re-evaluate your self before and ruining your husbands life and yours for what could possibly be just a fling. Be cautious and don't act on instinct... you are way beyond that line now. Good luck!!

Answer 10

You were so sure the first time. Just like you are now. Isn't that funny? Too bad for the people who get hurt as 'collateral damage', along the way.