Was it stupid to let my daughters name their new sister? is it any of anyone else's business?

Question

Okay, a little background info. I have twin 7 year old stepdaughters named Hayley & Heather and an 18 month old daughter named Chelsee. When we found out the sex of our now TWO DAY OLD baby (i'm a proud momma sorry), my husband and I decided to let them name her. So we decided to go from youngest to oldest. Our 18 month old wanted to call her Mimi, Hayley picked Alexa, and Heather picked Kortney. So our newborn baby's name is Mimi Alexa Kortney.

My mom says i'm stupid and the baby should have a wholesome name not a trampy one (she wanted her name to be Mary Alice and wanted Chelsee to be Tabitha Anne).

Do you think letting our children name their sister was crazy?? Is Mimi Alexa Kortney really such a bad name? We wanted our children involved.

What are your all's opinions on this?

Thanks Precious! Yeah, I have online classes starting soon so I had to make sure there wasn't anything I needed to do for them. We thought it would help keep them from being so jealous. I thought the name was cute too for their ages. I wanted to name my sister Cinderella when she was born!

Answer 1

I would have gone oldest to youngest but other than that I don't see a problem... I'm not a fan on the name Mimi but it's not my kid....

Tell your mother to mind her own business. She got to name her kids. She doesn't get to name yours too.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I think it's cute, although I might have changed the order to Alexa Kortney Mimi or Kortney Alexa Mimi, but you can really call her anyone of those names.

But on the whole I think it's great that you let them all be involved in the birth of their new sister so that they don't feel left out of the process. I can remember feeling very left out when my sister was born. We were never even allowed to go to the hospital back then (mid-70's) to see her. We had to wait a week for my Mom to get out of the hospital. When you're 5 & 6, that's a LONG time!

A great way too for the 7 year old half-sisters to feel an even greater connection so that they don't end up feeling like "the old kids" as opposed to the "new and improved" family.

Answer 3

Well, do you like the name? Does your husband? That's all that really matters. Well it also matters that the name isn't so ridiculous it will give the child a hard time in life. Mimi isn't too bad, although it's better suited to a baby than the middle aged woman who wants to be taken seriously who she will eventually become. Think it over and talk about it with your husband. A eighteen month old doesn't need to have the final say in this matter, and neither does your mother!

Answer 4

Mimi is not usually a complete first name, its usually a nickname (for Melissa or something like that, we had a few in high school). I have also never seen kortney spelled that way (usually Courtney), but I kinda like Alexa (my daughter's middle name is Alexis.
But, its too late now!! Everyone will get used to it. I think naming your kids weird names (or weird spellings) is the IN thing right now...chances are, little Mimi won't be the only one in her class. Just hope she doesn't grow up to be something too important..."president Mimi" or "Mayor Mimi" or doctor Mimi (thats sounds like a stripper to me) or maybe "attorney Mimi esq."?? I dont think so... Just call her by her initials..MAK...thats the best out of all of them
good luck mimi

Answer 5

I think its fine to let your daughters name their youngest sister. I have reservations about Mimi (Drew Carey Show).
I know a woman named Nanna (yes her given name). She's a strong, independent woman who knows what she wants. So maybe Mimi will work for your daughter. Only time will tell, and she has two others to choose from if she doesn't like it.

My father, born in 1938, named his sister when he was six years old. His parents were discussing names for the new baby and, as told by my grandmother, my father was playing in he floor with his toys and said "I don't care what you call her, but I'm calling her Kathleen Sue" and that's what they named her. Way back in the forties. LOL.

Answer 6

I think you did a perfect job at involving your other children as a matter of fact we did the same thing with my Stepson he is very happy with a brother having his fathers name and should it be a girl he has decided on Liani. And by the love of Peet thank goodness you named your other children with all respect to your Mother it really is wild names she wanted to hand out.

I think Mimi Alexa Courtney will be a very happy little girl with three sisters loving her very much in having such a big part in her live a name is not just a name it is a big deal and I love the way you approached the situation, tell your hubby well done.

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Answer 7

honestly i dont like mimi as a first name, i used to call my grandmother that. Why not reverse it so it's Courtney Alexa Mimi? (i also like the traditional spelling of Courtney)

I think it's a cute idea to include your kids in the naming.

Answer 8

well, the idea is both sweet but a little silly sounding. i'm sure your children appreciate being part of the process but there are ways of letting thm have input without having a 1 year old choose a name. i think if you are ok with the name that she has been given then keep it. its a special name and not a bad one. she can go by any of them or if its not too late change the order of it. you can call her Mak or if you change the spelling of courtney she can still be Mac. or Cam(i). i think its just how you feel about it as your daughter and as the mother. are you embarrassed to tell your story of how you named her? do you not like it yourself? jsut think about it and change waht you need to if you need to.

Answer 9

Your mother is way out of line!!!!
I think your idea was wonderful. I also believe that if your girls chose a weid names like
Moon Blue Jackson.........well you would of not let that be the baby's name. As parents you had final say of the name. fortunatlly your kids did a good job of naming the baby.

Being a grandma....I know that the worse thing to do is make such strong opinions in my kids business, such as names and other choices they make. You mother is setting herself up for being not well liked or welcomed. She can't have a good relationship with you if she is so bluntly opinionated. I am sure she hated it when her mother did the same to her.
A mother's job , your mother that is, is to be supportive. And mind her own business. It will make a much better relationship. I do my best to not do this to my kids. If they ask my opinion I give them it, and then say to them that they are the parents and I trust them to make their decision and I will back them on it. It makes my kids want me to be around me. Your mom will lose out on so much in life if she keeps this up.

I applaud you for letting your wonderful little ones help name the new baby. What a joyful group of girls you have. You are wonderful parents. Don't second guess your choices.
And please put some boundries on your mom.
I had to do that with mine. I did it gracefully and kindly. When she chose to react hysterically, I stayed calm. I kissed her and said. Mom I love you, but ca n't be around you when you are like this. I smile and leave. She has learned to mind her own business more.

Answer 10

When I was little and my mother was having a girl I remember getting VERY upset because I was the only girl and was afraid of being replaced lol. My mother had 3 names picked out and gave me the honor of choosing the one I liked best. I at 9 years old named my sister Brittany Marlene. It made me feel included and secure in my role of "BIG" sister. I think it's great that you included your children and if you and your husband like the name, it's none of anyone elses business.
P.S. My sister is now 16 and loves her name.

Answer 11

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