My husband got abusive after we got married. we seperated. we did counseling. we got back together. he did it again. we seperated. i filled for a divorce. it took him 4 months to sign the papers. i'm with someone else and i think he's with someone else now as well. but i still get id restricted calls only when i'm not at home (i know it's him) with no one saying anything. we've only been married 2 years. we were together for 5. we are all we know. am i making a mistake and moving too fast?
2007-12-27 18:20:48 · 11 answers · asked by kisses and hugs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are doing right. If you left your husbands for strong reasons, there is no point in feeling regret.
I have a feeling something in your current relationship doesn't ring right. There is still some part of you that loves your husband. (you still call him husband)
So, the break has to happen in your heart. Signing on the dotted line just makes it legal, but the hearts take a long time to severe.
Wait and see how you feel. You may get over the relationship or you may feel that you need to be with him. Anywhich way... take your time.
And no, you are not making a mistake. Neither are you moving fast.
2007-12-27 18:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by babasbhakta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've moved on with your life. Any strange phone calls you get should not change that fact. You can't be moving too fast in the divorce process. Divorces take time and there are plenty of opportunities for reconciliation. None of that has happened. Continue to move on with your life.
2007-12-28 02:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am happy that you seperated and divorced your ex husband your not moving quickly but you should be careful through and just move on with your life with the new man that you have but take it slowly through and your not making a mistake you did a good job by getting rid of the guy that hurt you....
2007-12-28 02:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your circumstances do not matter one bit. The mistake you made was getting married. Marriage even destroys soul mates!!! Once you say "I do" your loving relationship was destroyed. Some people realize this in weeks and get divorced some people lie to themselves for years. Who knows you might be the exception and it will work.
2007-12-28 09:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't quite see what you're asking. are you second guessing yourself on getting a divorce because he called?
if that's true, please don't take that as a sign of affection! and certainly it's not regret for the way he treated you.
(if it's him calling) that's only more controlling behavior - his way of checking up on you - seeing when you're home..or some other kind of mind game.
if he were about to behave like an adult ..and have regrets for how he treated you, he would simply call when you ARE home and discuss it with you. that gives you the opportunity to at least confront things maturely and decide whether you believe he is sincere and worth spending the rest of your life with or not.
2007-12-28 02:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not making a mistake getting away from him. You gave him a second chance and he blew that too. Stay away from him and make your life with someone else that will treat you how you need to be treated.
2007-12-28 03:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime your in a abusive relationship is time to call it quits. You don't try nothing, all you do is break up and go on with your life. You might end up seriously hurt or dead, you don't deal with people like that.
2007-12-28 02:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he abused you. thats not okay. you gave it a shot with counseling and seperation... he didn't learn and did it again.
2007-12-28 02:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this dear, but u know the best. U should not be asking us this cox ONLY u know wat u went though with him..
Pray, God will be with u.
(As for his Secret calls, ignore them, sooner it will stop)
2007-12-28 03:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Esmeralda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move a little faster
2007-12-28 02:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋