I cheated on my husband and I don't know why I love him sooo much. I was really drunk and I normally don't drink soo?? Please spare the "I am a whore because I already know that." And that is the way I feel. I would have NEVER have done this Sober.
2007-12-27 18:03:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure, blame the alcohol.
Bottom line is, you PUT yourself in this position, so the whole "poor me" thing aint gonna cut it sister. YOU chose to drink alcohol and be alone with a guy.....smart idea, I think not.
Admit what you did to your husband, pray he takes you back, and get into counseling.
Good luck
2007-12-27 18:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So been married too long or not married long enough...? Naughty Naughty, hoping that whom you cheated with was at least great!!! cause this is going to cost you.
Does your husband know? Prepare for when he does find out, he may want to join in next time...?!
In this case 'love' is the habit of dependance, some lack of personal individuality and esteem.
Quickly fixed by alcohol, so don't give that up. Sober you make decisions that effect you life long, when drunk you make decisions that effect you short term.
Depending if there are kids involved and how long you've been married and how old you are, this will dictate the route to follow.
In most cases start looking for a apartment. Most men initally will take this as a great insult and will take time before finding reason to try to make things work, however.... only age will dictate this route.
2007-12-27 18:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by socialmember 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make excuses, you should have never been drunk to begin with, if you truely love your husband like you SAY you do then you need to tell him the truth. he DESERVES to know, you owe him that. be a wife and honor your vows, otherwise he doesnt deserve to be with forever tied to a cheater
EDIT: to Harry below me. your answer was the worst ive seen in a long time. how can you honestly tell someone to keep quite about something that the other spouse has a right to know. and saying that she needs to let the guilt HANG!! wow what a healthy choice. if she were to not say a word, she would be lying to her husband every single day looking him in the eye. what kind of wife is that? ya know this really shows that people do not understand marriage at all these days. its about trust, love and loyalty, and if you can't do those things then don't get married at all. no wonder divorce rates are so high
2007-12-27 18:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is some advice from a fool. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are definitely not a whore.
You are just a girl that likes sex. Which all husbands truly want.
Everyone makes mistakes in their life. Being drunk is just a poor excuse for bad behavior.
All you have to do is hope the guy that took advantage of you keeps his mouth shut, and didn't knock you up. You must not say anything about your misdeed to "ANYONE" especially your closest friends, or relatives. "DON'T" say anything to your husband either. all that will do is cause more problems for you.
Now you must think about how bad you feel that you broke your husbands trust. Let the guilt hang heavy on your mind and make a promise to yourself to never cheat on him again.
Drunk or sober.
2007-12-27 18:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Harry Laborde 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry he is cheating on you too and he isn't even drunk. All married men cheat. Don't feel so bad and learn the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
...k
2007-12-28 01:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. But give serious thoght as to why this happened. Drink is not the culprit, just the excuse. If there was not something eating at you deep inside, no amount of drinking would have brought on this result. You need to understand what drove you to this. And, you are not a whore, just mixed up.
2007-12-27 18:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by just me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling to discuss your guilt and your fears, etc. if this is really bothering you. I think you know you could just get drunk again the same thing might happen. I also think you are afraid the word will spread that this cheating happened. For that reason, you need to talk it out with a therapist. Alone.
2007-12-27 18:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look there is no reason to kick you while you are down.put yourself in to his shoes,,how would you feel,and what you want to happen? stop thinking of how you feel,and think about how he will feel..because that is love..you said you know what you did was wrong,,well prove it..what you need to do now is to go to your husband and confess to him what you did right away..don't let it sit,because eventually he will find out,it always comes out...and if it comes out any other way then from you,,then you have no chance what so ever of keeping him...because not only will you have cheated on him,but then you also hid it and lied to him.... don't add insult to injury...and then after you tell him,,you let him reacte the way that he needs to,,it's only fair,,he has a right to get angry and to feel hurt and betrayed..then after that if he feels that you are worth a second chance,,you bust your butt to win his respect and trust back..it won't be easy,don't expect him to just be alright with you for quite a while...do whatever it takes to make it up to him....
2007-12-27 18:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you cheated only you know, alcohol just helps you express what you really feel and want. Alcohol helps you bring out your true self. You been wanting to sleep with the person you slept with or your tired of sleeping with your husband and wanted someone else. If you really love him you have to let him know and he's never going to trust you again, it might even brake your marriage apart. That might be the best thing for him, his always going to have in mind who are you sleeping with know.
2007-12-27 18:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok being drunk is NO excuse for your actions UNLESS the guy knew you were drunk and had sex with you anyways. Regardless you made the wrong choice. You need to tell your husband asap if you love him as much as you say you do you need to prove it. He may or may not take you back.
2007-12-27 18:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋