Why don't people seem to show interest in people that are shy in social situations?
Are they immediately un-interesting?
Do people avoid trying to make conversation to avoid awkward situations?
Or do people immediately assume that person who is shy has no life/personality
2007-12-27 17:57:52 · 9 answers · asked by cmp 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Every single person is self-centered to an extent. This being said, people have a "me" attitude, as in, "What in this interaction for me?"
When a shy person doesn't talk, people move on to someone who will reciprocate more with them. Its not that shy people are unattractive, they just aren't worth other's time.
I found out that if I wanted someone to talk to me, I had to put something in to get anything out. I hate starting a conversation, but its the only way people will talk to me!
Sincerely,
A very introverted person
2007-12-27 18:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Fun1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people feel that if someone isnt going to give effort to speak with them...why should they put forth any effort? The shy person can even seem intimidating!
Someone has to have the courage to speak out...EVERYONE is interesting to some extent!
2007-12-27 18:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a monkey thing.
A couple of imminent psychologists I don't recall the name of right now have concluded that among other things, shyness and social anxiety are defensive mechanisms in evolution. It is a sign that you are a subordinate within society. In old times, we were dependant on society for our survival. Moneys and early humans needed to be within a clan, or otherwise they would die. They were dependant on the clan for food, shelter, and mates. To be accepted within the clan, individuals would need to show that they posed no threat to the leading monkey, Thus weaker individuals, not ready to fight for the clan leading position, would develop social anxiety to be accepted as a subordinate. Better subordinate than no clan. Then slowly they could rise into the food chain, and then drop social anxiety when they are fully accepted into their new clan. Weird isn't?
This is an imprint in our brain from our monkey days.
Shy = social anxiety = subordinate.
I researched this quite a bit, check it out for yourself, this is what we know for now.
2007-12-27 18:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Max Pwet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well a more reserved person might come off as if they don't want much attention.
Some people who dress unconventionally seem to attract people even if they aren't coming out and asking for it in any other way. Because they seem to be asking for something.
2007-12-27 18:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are shy or standoffish are seen as being cold and aloof and many others don't want to take the time and effort to get to know them.
2007-12-27 18:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wouldn't you feel awkward talking to a person who doesn't want to talk back? People probably get an unpleasant feeling or just don't feel right
2007-12-27 18:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by motharussia524 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, I actually prefer people who are more reserved and keep to themselves, they make better friends in the long run because they are slow to open up, but once they become your friend they are more stable than the loud mouth look at me know it all kind of person.....
2007-12-27 18:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people are usually too quick about judging people, so if they meet or see someone that isn't open all the time, they will assume they never are, and that they are no fun to be around.
2007-12-27 18:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by wagnonpegs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋