Divorced guy (Guy A) of three years says he's 'content with his life as it is', doesn't want to re-marry ("I'm not against marriage, just pro-happiness"), sends his female friends female/relationship bashing jokes and his ex-wife just got remarried. (I believe she left Guy A for Guy B, whom she just married).
Guy A then flip-flops, saying he's not totally against relationships and that he'd consider marriage after being with someone for 3-4 years.
Confused? Bitter? Or just a dumba$$?
2007-12-27 16:37:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, ex-wife didn't cheat
2007-12-27 16:45:33 · update #1
Guy A didn't exactly flip-flop as it may seem. It's perfectly ok for him to be "content with his life as it is" because the fact is, he has realized that he's in control of his own happiness instead of relying on another person for his happiness. That being said, the overwhelming majority of guys that have a wife leave them, will eventually come back around and want ti give it another shot, but usually many years later, just like Guy A. So what I see, is typical behavior that has very little, if anything, to do with what the ex-wife did as far as getting married, having children with someone else, etc.
Confused? No, highly doubtful. Unless you're referring to why his wife left him for another man...in which case it's normal to ponder what made him a more attractive option for her vs. the person she swore to him and GOD that she'd spend the rest of her days with him.
Bitter? Sure...no one wants to feel like they've been used...well at least no one that is psychologically sound of mind...there are always the weirdos out there.
A dumbass? Not even close...and why insult the guy for having feelings? I know you said the ex-wife didn't cheat...but the fact is that you don't know that, and he probably don't know that either.
It's ok for people to have a change of heart. Lighten up on him and appreciate that he's willing to try again instead of holding it over his head that he didn't want to try again only recently. Surely you've changed your mind about something from one day to the next...
2007-12-27 17:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by NunyaBizzness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of the above., How about hurt by his ex wife cheating. He maybe still held out the hope that they could work things out. When she got remarried he was forced to face the fact that it was over for good. When I divorced my husband it didn't bother me at first. When he got remarried 4 years later I cried like a baby. I was in another relationship at the time but it still hurt to see what we once had he now had with someone new.
2007-12-27 16:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well all of the above really , but dont depair, we have al lbeen there, @ some point right?
heres how i understand the human thinking ,
when were young and care free, we tend to go out of or way to spoil that great feeling , we once enjoyed, further more
it comes fast .... too fast for some ...
we rush in grabing what we belive,is the real person and the right thing to do right at that moment, and it wasnt really what we needed, if you think back , when you bought that great looking pair of shoes, and three weeks later, they at the back of the closet now !! so you really wanted them , right there right then , but really it wasnt for you , agreed?
the end this for you, i belive we are programmed to LOVE
but not programmed to not to be loved ,
the latter is much more complex,and still have yet to work it out
however im working on it ...... daily
so i leave you with this thought .........
do you really want it , or is your brain just stuck in C drive?
i bet if you think back some things are better left alone .....
2007-12-27 16:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just a human who is lost and confused about his life.
Just like the rest of us.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 17:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
probably a little of all, but mainly the first two
2007-12-27 16:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋