Ok.... well i have had this problem for like 4 yrs.... I'm thirteen now and ever since i have been growing up... teens have been making fun of me (preferibbly guys) and now... it feels like i have been scarred for life bc i made a new friend and he is older than i am and i always get depressed or have anxiety attacks when he talks to my bestfriend (who is his girlfriend) i dont know how to overcome this. For instance, when he tells my bestfriend that they need to talk in private then i totally break down and start having cold chills and I get depressed and i dont know what happens. What should i do to overcome this bc when my new friend says he wants to talk in private to my bestfriend im always worried that they r talking about me.... he also tells me that im a great friend and we are practically brothers. I want to be his friend but i dont what to do because i always get depressed/anxiety attacks around him...Please help!
2007-12-27 16:31:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and it feels like im paranoid that he thinks that m annoying because when i was younger, the people that picked on me would always tell me i was annoying and so i always think that the people that are older than me think im annoying when they tell me over and over again that im not
and i always have the feeling of intimidation around ppl that r 2 yrs older than me or more (except for adults)
2007-12-27 16:31:51 · update #1
thats sad, i willl be your friend, i hope you don't get panic attacks around me :)
I LOVE YOU!
2007-12-27 16:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is annoying when they're younger. You were simply perceptive enough to take a hint.
Stop worrying so much about what they think of you. He said he considers you a brother. There's no reason that he would mention such a thing had he not been feeling that.
It's possible that he's finding romantic interest in your best friend, which he might feel embarrased about expressing in front of you.
It's possible that he considers your friend to be knowledgible and good with advice, but doesn't feel comfortable expressing his problems in front of you.
You seem to instant jump to the worst possible conclusion.
Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you have problems reading his true intentions and emotions and it brings a considerable amount of anxiety out of you. If you said this to me, it would merely arrouse my curiosity. It would also suggest that you had to deal with a considerable amount of fear in telling me something personal about you, which speaks volumes for courage and character.
Arrousing my curiosity is the best way to catch my interest.
Seek strength, be honest and love life while you still have the chance. Try not to put so much worry into what people think of you. We're all unique and some personality types just don't mesh well together.
There are over 6 billion people in the world. In time, you'll find plenty that will understand you. I didn't really believe this until I got out into the real world and realised just how different some people can be.
2007-12-28 00:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cosmodot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWww you need a hug! I think the fact that you have been made fun of in the past is affecting you to really fully trust your best friend(s), but it is normal for you to react that way after what you went through. The only thing you can do now, is just let go. You said that your best friend DOES care about your friendship and that you guys are like brothers, so you now you need to learn how to trust him. They probably aren't talking behind your back. If your anxiety really gets worse, maybe you can see a psychiatrist or counselor so you can get over what has happened to you before. Good luck! :)
2007-12-28 04:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Miss©hristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety is not an uncommon thing, it takes over, even the best of us, no actually all of us. Being picked on as a kid is very tuogh, i feel your pain, i am 13 as well, and when i was in elementary, and even now, i am picked on. But then when you find a friend that you can trust, and you believe that they won;y make fun of you. That i it, to be their friend, you have to have faith that they like you for who you are, and never makie fun of you. When you see him, and her, the two best friends, talk in private, tell yourself that's it's not about you, just tell yourself it has nothing to do with you. Think he is your friend, and no way he's making fun of you.
If he is truley your friend, he is your friend for you, and who you are, or else, why would he be your friend?
Just have faith in them
2007-12-28 00:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT! just because a dating couple wants to be alone for awhile does nto mean that the second u are out of earshot that they start saying vicious things. as for your past issues, teens make fun of people. get used to it! im not saying all teens do, but i mean come on! of course some jerks are gonna poke fun at a little naive kid. its about control. thats not even bad, teens have done much worse to people. you have to be strong, especially in highschool. highschool will either be the best or the worst times of your life, and its ur decision. make new friends and try not to make enemies. god luck with ur problems
2007-12-28 00:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by halesbop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to regain your self esteem. Try making a list of all of the good things about you. Then make a list of the things that you consider bad. One at a time try to improve the bad things, but always remember the good things about you. You deserve to feel good about yourself.
Also, there are books on self esteem at the library that would help you. You could even talk to your parents about getting some therapy to overcome your insecurity.
2007-12-28 00:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea when I was in the 4th grade, everyone seemed to talk down on me and just wanted to make sure i knew that i was scum and unlikeable, then their was a new kid and he actually talked to me and joked around with me, well every other kid saw this and I felt like the other kids saw that i was making a friend so what they did they all seemed to try to keep him from talking to me, so you wasn't a alone I have been through such situations similar to that, thats comfort in itself, theses things happen when your a kid, you'll meet new friends if you lose old friends trust me on that.
2007-12-28 00:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have no idea how to help you, because I've never really heard of anything like that. You should just try to be more outgoing, jam out to some kickass music :P and jack off, if your a guy. LMFAO
don't be too down in the dirt!
2007-12-28 00:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by autumn! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wierd, im 13 and im always picked on, i hav a friend who was going out with this older friend and thts just wierd byt anyway, back to your question, tell your best friend or your friend how you feel from how youve been treated over the past, they'll understand, trust me.
2007-12-28 00:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by emerl19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some therapy. Its not normal to get that anxious and depressed when someone simply wants to talk to someone else alone. You don't even have any good reason to believe they're talking about you, and even if they are, its not reason to get so upset.
2007-12-28 00:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray, meditate, practice emotional freedom technique (emofree.com). EFT is too complicated to explain here.
2007-12-28 00:40:03 · answer #11 · answered by Marty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋