I am 19 years old raised in a catholic family. I work as a researcher and I am very career oriented. 10 months back I met a Muslim guy and we decided to go out. He has been very clear that he wants to marry only a muslim girl and I was hoping to accept islam later on as I complete my graduate school and if this relationship work. .He was convicted multiple times upon arriving to canada as a immigrant. and he served some time as well. I was aware of this but with lil details.At first his parents were deciding to go back to Pakistan and he wanted to move in with me to my house near university. I had to tell him I cannot think of moving in together as for now. He made a big issue of this and still we some how patched up.Now the immigration ppl has called him for an interview and he says a marriage will make it safe.he says either i do a paper marriage or he does with some other girl and stay married. i have no idea what are the consequences. I have a gut feeling that this is bad idea.
2007-12-27 16:20:50 · 10 answers · asked by teejay gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think all your support and answers has helped me over night to make a right decision. It is really hard for me at this age and stage to let it go but I cannot just ignore the bad feeling i have about this. I have decided to call quits for this emotional black mailing. He keeps blaming that I am not there during the bad times but I know this is a very crazy idea and any sort of police involvement can def ruin my medical school plans!!!any more thoughts are welcome...please suggest what ever u guys think...i think this is helping me a lot!!
2007-12-28 01:35:47 · update #1
Today I finally convinced him not to try this stupid way since he has a clean record for past 4 years and a good lawyer an representation can easily make him safe. He has finally realized it and we r going to go through proper channel. I am still going to take a safe road ahead. Hate to be used up but relationships are hard to let it go!!!!!hope u guys knw wht i mean!!
2007-12-30 04:33:45 · update #2
If all your 3 questions are about the same person I'm surprised you are still together. Let him try and find somebody else to help him stay. Immigration interviewers are experienced in routing out the truth from would be immigrants and your so called paper marriage is an offence. He already has a criminal record which will not help him. I don't know what the rules in Canada are but in England marriage, to an English person, does not give you the RIGHT of residency or even entry. Get rid of him, you have got your whole life ahead of you to find a regular guy.
2007-12-27 17:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-17 09:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by sangster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that he was convicted multiple times when he arrived in Canada .. There is a reason that immigration officials have called him in for an interview. With the state of the world today, I personally think you need to run far and fast. Listen to your gut and get away from him fast.
2007-12-27 16:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Curtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so very right always trust your gut, this guy is making it plain that he will marry anyone just to stay in the country, and do you know that you can go to jail for doing a paper marriage, and you certainly don't know this guy, and don't even think about this.how do you know that this guy isn't some kind or terriost, he doesn't care about you only about how he can stay in the country, and i don't think god would like it either as this would be a lie, but the most important thing is your gut is right stay away from this man, this is trouble with a capital T and you know what i mean, this would just be plain stupid you are risking your very freedom by even talking to him about this, please listen to your woman's intuition, and please please please don't do this, if he gets involved with some other girl, you should go to the authorities and let them know, you never know what this man might be up to, you have your whole life to live and no man is worth going to jail for especially for a paper marriage and he come from a place in the world where it is very suspicious that he will marry anyone to achieve his goal,
2007-12-27 16:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dale T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-23 06:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by jerica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are nothing to him. He is doing one thing guys are good at doing. He is preying on you. He is exploiting you. Now you are risking committing a felony and spending time in prison for him.
Call immigration and find an investigator. Tell them what is happening and help them in their investigation. You will be doing a great patriotic act and saving some poor other woman a very bad experience.
2007-12-27 16:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by pchandyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad idea, go with your gut feeling. He has already said that he does not want to marry a catholic girl so do not let him use you. You are worth more than that.
2007-12-27 16:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need me to tell you that this guy is using you, do not marry him just so he gets a passport, honestly, you do that and you will end up with a guy who doesn't love you, all he wants is a place to live and a passport, run, run very fast.
2007-12-28 00:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this country, you could go to jail. By the way, I had a freind who was in a very similar situation. She loved him, he used her and it turned very bitter. They broke up and never spoke again.
You're being used.
2007-12-28 00:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is SO using you to stay in the country!!!
as if he would stay married to the "other"girl!!! who says "she" will want to stay married????
i would tell him where to go!!!!
listen to your gut!!!!
it really isa bad idea.
he is using you and you should see that.
2007-12-27 16:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋