What makes you attracted to a certain race, ethnicity, or feature?

Question

No racist answers, please, but besides personality, for instance some white girls only date black men and are only attracted to black men (and vice versa). My best friend, who is Puerto Rican (spaniard & taino mixed), is very attracted to european/whites. My father is attracted to black women (he too is PR). I like asians, latins, multiracial, blacks for the most part while my mother's family only dates whites (she's italian/irish).

Is it society and the media, is it experience, or is it inherent? Because I'm not really conventional, and i really don't go for "what's in", my friend just finds the features attractive and he was raised around mostly other latins with darker features while my father has dated ALL races but tends to mostly be attracted to a certain type.

I know its personality, but I'm talking initial attraction. Do people tend to go for what's similar to them or different? For the most part most white guys only date white girls, black women only with black men..

(although white women and black men usually don't care about the race of the man they are dating...).

I'm just curious what sparks initial attraction and do most people tend to prefer the same "race" (I know we're all human but I'm talking ETHNIC "race") or what's different from them but society controls that?

Answer 1

For me it's more about the person that what his/her outward characteristics are. I think that basing relationships with others on the externals is all wrong. I am most attracted to people of my own race because that's what I'm mostly surrounded with; but there are others outside my race and ethnicity to which I am wildly attracted. It is because of who and what they are.

Answer 2

Overall i do not discriminate, but i do have my preference, i am mostly attracted to black women for the fact that a good percentage of them have more plump behinds and i like the darker complexion as well as certain facial features, however, i have dated women of other races as well who i have found attractive in the same way, or perhaps in another way that i found attractive and i wanted at the time to venture outside the box, i think every one has their preference for different reasons and every one has their taste, the world is made up of all kinds and all kinds are attracted to all kinds, their is another for the one if you know what i mean.

Answer 3

I am an African American male and I was married to a white woman for 18 years. We met in 1984 and I think we were trailblazing for the small town we lived in Minnesota at the time. Now I want to focus on only meeting African American women, but some of my friends have criticised me for it. They think that since I had a bad divorce that I hate white people now. That is the farthest thing from the truth. I think there are many reasons why I want to date only African American women, but I think one of the most interesting is that I during my marriage to the white woman we got stared at a lot and some times it bothered me just a little bit. Many times we felt uncomfortble in many situations. Since I have the chance now to "design" my next wife, I want to avoid the baggage that comes with an interracial marriage.

Answer 4

I am French and I only date spanish men. Right now my man is Dominican and I love that his family has so much culture. Every spanish family I have ever met are very close to their families, care for each other, and I really respect that. Most white people I know do not seem to care much about family values. I am also attracted because of the pretty brown skin color, it looks good next to mine. It seems spanish men also know how to be good lovers, are sexy, aggressive, and can dance and have manners. They can also be romantic alot. There are so many reasons I am attracted to spanish men but it also has to do with the fact that I do not like how white men act or look at all.

Answer 5

Not at all. Having a preference is not racist. It's thinking a certain race is superior to others that is racist.

Answer 6

Vida Guerra halle Berry, Jessica Alba, Beyonce and all the beautiful women created by the mixture of all people...The features, bodies, personalities etc.

Answer 7

I am 17, Japanese, and a super super tomboy...I am attracted to men and everything manly, haha. I actually am attracted to femmey guys too...maybe I just like all males, manly or otherwise...

I usually am attracted to white guys, am fairly attracted to all other races EXCEPT other asians. Why? Well 1) I am just not attracted to how most asians I know look, dress, act, and how they always seem to crowd around other asians only (I make a point NOT to sit with asians at the lunch table all the time! There's always an "asian" lunch table in my school...grr.) and 2) I hate how when I am just talking to an asian guy all my white friends think I am interested in having a relationship with him...while when I sit and talk to a white guy nobody thinks anything about it.

I think media also really influences my tastes...most of the celebrities and musicians I am exposed to are white. And so I have a billion celebrity crushes who are all - surprise surprise - white.

I think in my mind I like people who are completely different from me. Like I said, I am a tomboy. I am also a self-proclaimed nerd (love comics, the Internet, and take too many advanced placement courses for my own good) as well as a hardcore artist (my portfolio got accepted to SAIC and MICA, two top art schools in the US...I didn't even apply to those schools yet.) I'm pretty much a loser by choice, I love ugly clothes, etc. etc. My ultimate crush right now? The sarcastic asshole football player in my science class (did I mention how UNathletic I am?)...I also have crushes on a hockey player a football player/wrestler (the last two being redheads...I like redheads I guess.) Art nerd VS. popular jock...hmm...

But interestingly enough when it comes down to reality I hang out with the loser boys as well. In THEORY I hate guys who are too smart for their own good, and artsy guys, etc...but these are the very people who are my closest friends. I think I just like the idea of the dumb@ss jock, and don't like the idea of the "pretentious" artsy kid (well I don't like pretentious people period, but you know what I mean.)

Also, I used to be really into older guys (and I mean like, 30+. I know this doesn't seem old to some people but I was like 15 so that means they're twice my age.) Now I guess I don't care that much because the redhead crushes of mine are two years younger than me (freaks me out because I used to never like guys younger than 20...but actually these two guys are really athletic so they look a year older than me...)

Answer 8

it doesnt matter to me what color or race anyone in. for a matter of fact, i am in a relationship with a black man, and i am white. it doesnt even matter to me what race, i do like ppls eyes, but overall it doesnt matter. it really matters about personality, if somone is nice kind, sweet and charming, a girl loves that, but it has never mattered to me what race someone is, as long as i like somone , it doesnt matter. i love him for who he is not for what color he is or anything like that, that would be stupid, just to date white guys, i am so sick and tired of seeing that, like everyone at my school, all the white girls who r really popular, only date white guys, but i dont even see why. all the guys with real personalities are black, i mean, like all of the white guys, r so freakin fake and i hate tha. they act like robots and it is so annoying, but so off topic, but it doesnt matter to me and shouldnt matter to anyone else. ppl should like ppl for who they r inside not for what they are worth. love ya ! peace out! o_- love yaz!!!!!!!!!!!! bye! :)