embarrassed of where i live..?

Question

i'm 16 years old.
my family moved into an extremely small apartment with 2bedrooms in it about 3 years ago.
the only reason is because it's cheap and we can afford it right now because my dad is the only one working.

we all hate it.
it's in the ghetto, and terrible looking.
the paint on it looks like crap, we have no grass in the front, people throw garbage around it, our fence is old and rotten, the screen to the front door is torn and we get rats.
it is just gross!
and the landlord doesn't do anything about it.

i do appreciate the fact that we have somewhere to live, but i am just so embarrassed about it.
i don't like my friends coming over, picking me up, or dropping me off.
i don't even go anywhere because of this.
what can/should i do?
i know i shouldn't care, but i do.

Answer 1

Pick up the trash, fix the screen door. Its not about where you live, but how you live. Make your home look more presentable, and be thankful you have one.

Answer 2

You sound like me nearly 50 years ago. I joined the military when I was 17, took advantage of the GI Bill to get an education and later on buy a house. I'm not rich or worry free, but I enjoy what I have because I remember where I came from and I have more than I ever could imagine.. I'm not suggesting that you join the military, but study hard, work hard and keep the faith. Some day things will be a lot better for you too and when you look back, you'll appreciate what you have.

Answer 3

How about removing the garbage from the yard ,get a afterschool job and give some money to your parents to paint fix the screen door and buy rat traps. It is very difficult to find cheap apartments or homes to live in . Your parents love you and are trying their best ,please be understanding and thankfull . If the landlord does not fix things then your parents can refuse to pay rent also they can call the city on the landlord . Good Luck !

Answer 4

If i did no longer have a house to stay in and constrained money, i could be grateful to have a place like public senior housing to stay, with a roof over my head and a heat place to sleep, and a place for social touch. I doubt it may be any distinctive than public housing for youthful human beings, different than there possibly does no longer be a super sort of medicine around (and don't tell me there is not any longer, I even have friends and kin who stay in public housing and that i understand what is going on there). And maximum of those are constructive sufficient residences, i does no longer be ashamed to stay there, or embarrassed to tell absolutely everyone that I did. i understand an older woman who moved right into a sort of residences, from a condo domicile that develop into falling down round her ears, and he or she says it is the ideal circulate she ever made, that she is extra gentle than she has been in years, and for plenty much less money.

Answer 5

i totally know how you feel.

i've lived in the projects [public housing which is like extreme ghetto] for 7 years and i just started getting comfortable with telling people that i live here. I used to lie to my friends and do all kinds of ridiculous things so no one would find out i lived in the projects. But i'm just open about it and tell people where i live.

I used to think that if i told people i live in the projects they'd automatically put me in a stereotype or think less of me. Some ignorant people make acutally do this but your true friends, genuine people won't care where you live. And it's not like you're going to live there for the rest of your life. You're parents will get back on their feet and eventually you'll go to college have a good job and be able to take care of yourself in a nice house.

It's just the way i look at things. It'll take a while but you'll get used to it

Answer 6

Well first of all at your age it's very normal to feel this way. I think all teenagers go through some embarassment of some sort depending on the situation. Honestly, there isn't much you can do about where you live. My husband came from a similar situation and was very embarassed when we started dating to take me to meet his family b/c of roaches and rats etc. but the thing is this, if these friends you have are your real friends, they won't judge you and you will be able to talk to them about it and tell them how you feel. I know that's easier said than done. I wish I could give you more advice but just know that how you are feeling is normal. :)

Answer 7

first of all thank god for putting a roof over you and your families heads...never be embaressed about that because there are millions out there with no homes at all....the only thing you can really do is wait till you grow up and move out...this is why we have to be educated so we can make more money and live better...do good at school and one day you can pay it off to your self and your parents...imagine having a huge house in 5 years and buying a little house for your parents! how great does that sound? god bless you and be happy...where you live is your business not anyone elses

Answer 8

at least you have a roof over your head and food on the table. look around your neighbor hood im sure those homeless people would love to have a place to lay their head down or food to sit on a table. as far as your friends are concerned they dont let it bother them or they wouldnt come by to pick you up. get off your high horse and accept it that your parents cant afford too much right now. GET A JOB & HELP OUT!!!!

Answer 9

Use your experience as a catalyst towards the future. Vow to do your best in school, go to college, and make a better life for yourself,and your family. I bet your parents would appreciate that.

Answer 10

i see where you are coming from. if ur so embarassed then tell your friends about it. if they are really your friends they wont care and they will still want to hang out with you at your house. otherwise theres plenty of other places to hang out. your 16 which means u can drive if u want...hopefully with a license and u can go anywhere. remember not to hold secrets from your friends.