My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years and I love him so much. Even though we are just "friends" right now we still talk and have that connection. Well, I found out I was pregnant by him... again. I ended my first pregnancy with an abortion but I just can't go through that again. His mind is made up, he doesn't want the baby. He told me that I am getting an abortion. To be honest, we are too young to be parents and I'm not quite ready either. His little comments like "You're not having this baby if I have anything to do with it" kind of scare me. I am willing to have this baby and give it up for adoption to a loving family since we are young. Can he make me get an abortion since he is the father?
2007-12-27 14:57:44 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And for those who think I am not being responsible, I have been on birth control since I was 18 and have still managed to conceive.
2007-12-27 15:11:21 · update #1
Ortho Evra patch, every Monday, once a week for three weeks in a month
2007-12-27 15:23:58 · update #2
I based the first abortion on my parents and our lifestyle. My mom always tried to portray the "perfect family" image. I did not want to humiliate my dad either, but having an abortion was a difficult decision for me. I am still an emotional wreck for terminating the life of a would be beautiful, intelligent baby.
2007-12-27 15:38:46 · update #3
It is YOUR body, YOUR choice.
I would say, change friends. Don't let him be one of them.
So many people are childless and are wonderful parents waiting for a baby.
I adopted my daughter. Her birth mother gave her up because she loved her enough to give her a chance of life.
Remember, Abortions can cause scar tissue and you might not ever be able to concieve.
There are health risks with abortions.
I personally believe a person is a person at the time of conception. Love your little one enough to chose life and find a good home for that sweet soul.
2007-12-27 15:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he cannot make you get an abortion. No one can. Do you honestly think he can drag you in by the hair of your head to an abortion clinic, sign papers and make you have one?
No
I would not be scared of him. I would do what you want to do.
If you do get an abortion you need to get on birth control. It is free at the health department and from everything i have read on the internet after they give you an abortion the clinic will offer you birth control before you leave so why didn't you take it the last time.
Abortions are not cheap, birth control is compared to that.
If you adopt then he will have to sign papers and if he doesn't then i would say that will be a custody battle waiting to happen.
What type of birth control was you on? Did you take it everyday like you are suppose too? or did you go to your appointment exactly every 3 months?
2007-12-27 15:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he can't force you.
But it does sound like you are not ready to be a mother. And if you don't want another abortion then you should look into adoption. There are lots of potential parents out there who would love a child and be much more capable of taking care of a baby.
2007-12-27 15:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can make you have an abortion. And if I were you, I would stand firm and not back down. This is you're body. Whether you want to give the baby up for adoption, or keep it, it's still not his choice. You are the owner of YOUR body!!!
2007-12-27 15:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Erin B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he can't. Do what your heart tells you. It may not be the easiest thing to do, but in the long run you will be able to live with your choices. It would be one thing if it was your choice to have an abortion, but it is your body and your choice.
Do you have family or someone that is supportive of you? Is there a local chapter of planned parenthood? Find yourself an advocate and some backup. It doesnt sound like it is his strong point.
2007-12-27 15:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!!! noone can make you do anything. its your body, its your choice. i personally think your choice to have this child and give a loving family a chance at children is good. And the things he is telling you, those are called threats....... i wouldn't want to be "friends" with a man that threatened me. I say you get a restraining order, walk away don't look back and do what you have to do........ Also..... i don't know how young you guys are, but in my opionion if your "old" enough to have sex.. than you should be able to figure it out and face up to your responsiblity.
Goodluck though! and do not let him talk to you like that...... because he cannot make you do anything!
2007-12-27 15:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by alicia m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No !! he can not .. although i have mixed feelings on him being a part of that babies life if in deed you decide to go on from here.. whether or not you keep you child after being born or not he will ultimately have rights as well. this something you seriously need to think about .. and if you are scared then you need to have someone else involved outside of yourselves.. to have an open view between the two of you ..
best wishes
2007-12-27 15:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by kptad2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he can't. Get in touch with a doctor, adoption counselor and/or a pregnancy/parenting center in your area. They will be more helpful than you could imagine. And tell your parents as soon as you can, they will love and support you and most of all protect you if your boyfriend begins to be abusive as a result of your decision (which I assume is your fear.) Protect yourself and your baby in this delicate time.
Good Luck!
2007-12-27 15:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Meg M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no way he can make u go through an abortion. and his threats, little or not, signify an even bigger problem. u may need help getting away from him, cuz whether he seems so sweet nd watever to u, little comments like 'You're not having this baby if I have anything to do with it' mean an underlying problem that can probably be abuse, whether its verbal or physical. get help and dont let urself stay in this position. ok.?
2007-12-27 16:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you have an abortion. Not a boyfriend, husband, parent...no one.
If you feel threatened, let someone (or many people) you trust in on this. Get him out of your life. You do not want someone who is controlling like that in your life no matter what you decide. If he is controlling about this, what lies ahead?
2007-12-27 15:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋