I feel difficult to adapt to change, please help.?

Question

Changes in circumstances like if i am put into a new situation with new people , i completely go offmark. Mostly these are small changes like arrival of some guest, change in place, to go through a new book , even small, routine twists and turns in relationships etc. Although i manage to look composed on the exterior , my inside is quite disarrayed, I can not concentrate on my work( i am a student) and my studies suffer. I am not afraid of anything in particular. I can not avoid new situations so please advise me how to cope. Thanks.

Thankyou all for your help. I will follow these suggestions. Thanks agian.

Answer 1

Don't be afraid to "not be yourself". You can't change and grow as a personality if you always try to "be yourself".
Whenever you interact with people, try to go with the flow of their minds - think as they think, feel as they feel. This way, you will understand their perspective better, and you will all share the same wavelength. When someone does something in a relationship, feel as he feels to understand why he did it.
Welcome new situations and view them as opportunities to learn something new. The more uncomfortable the situation, the more you can learn from it. The Great Unknown is exciting! There is plenty to discover, plenty of paths for personal growth. Just go with the flow of the world. Don't strive to be anchored too firmly to something solid, just flow freely.

Answer 2

One of the thing you have to understand is the fear of Uncertainity. Everyone has it. Some express,some dont. I am also one of them. Many a times, i resist change to the last moment (believe it or no its right from getting out of bed ..) but once the time is up (and the inevitable has to come) ..i take the positive side of it and move on. It excites me from then on. I travel a lot and in the past 2 years i havent been at the same location for more than 5-6 months.Change upsets me a lot. new place, new people, everything ...its because of the uncertainity. One thing that can guide you through this is a postive frame of mind and self-confidence. You have been through so much, whats new? If life is the same boring routine , wont you still be complaining in this same forum about it ?

I hope you got the point and give it a thought. All is well that ends well.
So dont be afraid.Search for the answers, if there are none , what were the questions ? ahah ..Enjoy my friend.

Answer 3

No change = security

Fear of change doesn't just hold you back it stops you truly living.

We humans like a sense of safety and security in our lives. Some of us need more security than others.


This sense of security is partly maintained by things feeling as if they are constant and unchanging. That's why a certain amount of routine is vital for everyone.

But it's this need for security that can prevent you taking calculated risks and make you shy away from change. Fear of change steals your potential.

People have always feared change, some early humans would have feared the change brought on by people who adopted the wheel, those were the ones left behind in evolution. Some people feared electricity and others thought that going above thirty miles an hour in a train would be impossible to survive.

Fear of change robs you of possibilities

Someone once said it's not what you have done that you regret later, rather what you failed to do because you didn't even try!

And, of course, the one certainty in life is change.

As Albert Einstein said: 'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' And if you do what you've always done you will get what you've always got!

Won't it be great when you can embrace change and make the best of it? It's amazing how often people fear change only to have a great sense of relief when it actually happens.

Read the book " who moved my cheese "

You will be able to understand yourself .

Answer 4

if you concentrate; only on the changes, you'll never get past them. your not alone everyone hates changes, its just that some people are better able to cope with dealling with them.Every 5 minutes of your life changes occur, either because of something you change, some-one else changes, or just divine providence. your letting your insides get all knotted up for nothing.you need to find something that relieves your stress and anguish and is good for you. Try eatting an apple one a day, I know it sounds silly, but it works. And when the change is so drastic that an apple doesn't cover it you'll just have to express your feelings to some-one close that you trust. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

You cope as best you can. You are there of your own free will and find some value in going forth in what you see is clearly a pecking order of some sort. You just climb through it as life has it as it may be in all walks and aspects where one wants something one must undergo whatever comes along until one has the experience to alter his order in this reality. When it comes to life there is only one way to go but up in the sense of learning new things each and every day no matter what age you are. You are where you want to be so it must be worth it. Knowing this perhaps you can ride it out easier and face reality whether it be new or used realizing that you as well as all of us are inventing reality as we go sort of and no-one has all the knowledge not even you. And we all are probably just as insecure in reality even though not all of us show it the same.

Answer 6

It's all about the fear of the "unknown" that makes people have difficulties with change. Maybe you have anxiety?

Just know this - everyone has to adapt to change. That is what life is all about. You will get stagnate living in a comfort zone and never expand your horizons if you cower in fear and insecurity. You need to look at change as a good thing.

I've had tremendous changes in my life - deaths, job loss, you name it - I've had to overcome it and deal with it or I would have crumbled to pieces.

Life comes at you fast and you gotta roll with the currents of change whether you like it or not. Don't fight it - go with the flow.

Answer 7

You could be suffering from some kind of psychiatric problem... some people can't deal with crowds or circumstances.. but I'd rather believe you are not one of them.
Changes are always good... no matter how they come around. They make room for growth. Look at it this way, if you weren't ready for those changes then they wouldn't happen to you.
Most importantly, you HAVE to remind yourself who's in control of your sanity... that would YOU!.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

It is nothing unusual. No body really wants any dislocation and change in circumstances. That is how we have been living in groups and developing national and ethnic identities. But, social etiquette demands that we entertain strangers. Over a period, the strangers become our acquaintance and even friends and relations. Be patient.

Answer 9

People who are greatly disturbed by minor change can be either easily distracted, or they can be slightly autistic - as in the case of the main character in "Monk" who is basically a very high-functioning autistic. If you also tend towards compulsive, almost ritualized, routines, you also have a slightly off streak as Monk does and you can try to trail yourself to deal with it or even be treated with medications.
In the meantime, regardless of the reason, I suggest you work on some self-hypnosis and focus meditations so you can have greater control of your mental functions, regardless of the reason for your upset - we all have our oddities and we all need to find good coping mechanisms for them.

Answer 10

Changing things is very hard at times.Fear is part of it but, another is stepping out of the the comfort zone.To take on a different change .