why is love so important?

Question

ok this may seem like a stupid question but hear me out.
many times in my life I come across people who say that love is everything to them, that they long for someone to love and someone to love them in return, and that without love life is meaningless and they wouldn't want to live in a world without love, etc. etc.
whenever I meet these people or come across these kinds of ideas I get.. confused. don't get me wrong, I love my family very much, I have a boyfriend who I love and spend everyday with, but even so, I'd never get to the point where I'd say.. "love" was it. the be all and end all. love was always just an emotion to me, like sadness, or fear, a big part of life to be sure but never the main cog... figuring it out was more important to me. why we're here, the existance of God, and so on.. those things seem infinitely more important than me falling in love or anything like that. it puzzles me that people can get so obsessed with it. so why is love so important?

Answer 1

...you put love before yourself! GOD IS ALL IS GOD...LOVE.

Answer 2

I am here to get this right, then I get to go home.

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 3

Can you imagine being all alone on this earth without having anyone or anything to live for.
Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring.
Love should make you feel happy.
The whole world is based around love. Everyone loves.
When you love someone, it makes you feel out of the ordinary. Like you have found the best friend youve always wanted, but most of the time it goes farther than that.
If you love someone, it may just mean that you want to be around them more often than other people.
Love is the reason there are "emo" people in this world, Because it is the only real thing to cry for.

Answer 4

Love in important in a relationship--without, all you have is a glorified friendship. BUT obsessing over it and yearning for it isn't healthy--that will lead a person to find love in places where it isn't. That's where you find the couples who divorce after 2 years of marriages. That's where you find relationships fall apart.

Love is very important in a relationship, but so is communication, trust, honesty, etc.

Answer 5

Many people think love is "everything" but I don't. I think having good health is everything. Let's say you have a very loving partner, but that, God Forbid, you got into a horrible accident and became paralyzed from the neck down for the rest of your life! Of course if your partner truly loves you they would always be there for you. But would you really want to live this way just because you have love??? Think deeply about it and I believe most people would rather have their health and independence first. I shudder at the thought of having to be helpless and someone has to feed me, bathe me and clean my rear end and clean my poop all the time. Wouldn't you rather be without love but have good health?? I know I would. I believe strong people can find happiness in other ways besides having a mate to love them. The weak and needy think too much about love. And what about being blind? Would you rather be blind but have someone to love? Or have your eyesight back but no partner in your life? I know I would much rather see!! Maybe I am going to extremes on this, but the reality of life is that anything can happen to any of us.

Answer 6

love is important in life in a sense that u r felt at the top of the world, when the love is true then its an awsome feeling and after getting true love its very important in ur life to grab it forur entire life. but its not that kind of thing for which u have run after.yes its important to feel the real pain andhappiness of life.

Answer 7

simple, because love is everything
it's what every human being wants, no matter how cold you are or how much love you receive and give everyday, it's what we can't get enough of
love results in all the emotions we feel
hatred is just another form of love and though they may seem like opposites, you have to love to hate because hatred comes when that person/thing hurt what you love
fear comes from love, people fear a lot of things: parents ;P, fires, murders, disasters, other people, etc
but you only feel scared because you're afraid of losing something you love
and it just goes on
the point is, you live to love because without it, what's the point? why the hell would you stay alive and want to do anything if you didn't love?

Answer 8

I think the word 'love' is over-used and used a lot out of context.....'Oh i just LOVE these pillows' or 'Don't you just LOVE sleep?'.

I guess love is important, but there are many other things in life just as important, as you suggest.

I believe everyone has love in their life in one form or another and it is those forms of love that people talk about as if they are the be all and end all to life.

Sure, we all want and need love, but let's face it, we all want cars, homes, travel, luxuries, etc as well (be honest people) so just talk about love the way YOU want to talk about it and don't let it worry you too much.

Wow, that was way too serious for me!!

Answer 9

"Why we're here" and "the existence of God" is tied to the concept of love.

In Christianity, love is not just an emotion but is a different state of being where the boundaries between self and the beloved become blurred. To truly love is in the realm of the supernatural and it requires God to exist. Only through God our Father can we see others as true brothers and sisters.

Christians believe that we find God when we attempt to obey His command to love our neighbor for where love is, there God is also. We find God and experience God through our experience with others. Finding God, experiencing God and allowing God to transform us into His sons and daughters is why we're here.

Answer 10

Love is not an emotion. Love is a way of categorising your relationships with others. Example: I have a partner, whom i respect. I care for his well being, i enjoy his company, I am aware of his goals and interests and because i respect him and care for his well being, I want him to achieve them. I feel good when I spend time with him, because we have common interests and values which are reinforced and developed when we spend time together. Because I feel good when I am with him, I want to spend more time with him. I become attached to him as a way of reinforcing these positive feelings. The sum of these emotions leads me to conclude that i am in 'love'.

But what is this love? No extra emotion has been added. If we were to lose the common interests which bought us together without developing new ones, then 'love' wouldn't keep us happy. It is only when we have those other things that the relationship has any value at all. So that leads me to conclude that 'love' has no substance at all.... it is just a blanket term to refer to a set of emotional experiences.

This sounds really harsh to many people. Yes, its unromantic, but I have much more fulfilling relationships with people when I consider the things which really make me happy to be around people, rather than attributing it to that thing called 'love'. It allows you to experience people as changing entities, it allows your relationships to change as you do (none of this 'if you love someone you .... bs). It doesn't stop you from caring about people, having compassion, deep emotional experiences or behaving ethically.

In this life we should strive to be the best person we can be, and want the same for others. 'Love' makes us feel good about ourselves because it makes us feel valued, but I would rather someone be able to say that they like me for actual reasons than that they love me just because. (yes, you can 'love' someone for actual reasons, but then you are in the state described above, when there are actual emotions/ values holding the relationship together. If they weren't there, the 'love' would not be worth anything.)

Answer 11

have you ever heard the phrase love makes the world go round.

its kind of true though. if people didn't have love or passion for there jobs we wouldn't have as nearly as much things in the world. or if we did not have love for others then we would be killing everyone! or if we didn't have love we would not wanna get married and we couldn't have kids and then the world wouldn't have really anyone! just a tough!