because your boyfriend/girlfriend is not attracted to you and won't bring it to the next level?
2007-12-27 14:16:34 · 52 answers · asked by Sister Buk (Dots) 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
thats a tough one i may stay but soon as i met someone knew i would be outta there
2007-12-29 07:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know at what "level" this relationship is supposed to be. It sounds like it's possibly just a really good friendship - you have companionship rather than something more physical or intimate.
No one can be forced or cajoled into being attracted to someone - they either are or they aren't. I know that I would not wish to pursue or attempt to advance a relationship where the other person was not attracted to me (or where I was not attracted to him) because, to me, without attraction there can be no passion. Perhaps you have never felt or experienced passion but I can tell you that if you have, you will know the difference and will not be willing to compromise. Whilst attraction is not EVERYTHING in a loving relationship, I don't think it can be missing entirely.
Are you (both of you) willing to settle for less than you would really want for yourselves? And imagine what would happen if, while plodding along in such a relationship, either one of you WAS attracted to someone else .....
2007-12-28 06:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dolores & the prune 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as hard as it would be to do this I would. I was in a relationship for 8 years and finally had to move on, because it was going now where. We were back and forth for about the last 4 years, but he did not really love me, I could tell. I knew that he really cared about me, but I wanted someone that was head over heels over me and he was not. Another reason is that he did not have much compassion for those that were hurting (he was one of them too), always putting people down.
I was drawn to the hurting and wanted to comfort them, so if we were to get married, I would have been divorced by now. I think that God has a person that has the same beliefs as you and will be crazy about you!
2007-12-27 14:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You can only think and feel for yourself - YOU CANNOT think and feel as someone else does. So if one half of a "relationship" is not attracted to the other half - this is obviously not a "good 4 year relationship". Walk away and get a new life!
2007-12-27 14:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If there's no attraction after 4 years I don't see any room for the relationship to progress and we might as well not waste each others time.
2007-12-29 07:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 4 year relationship I had almost 8 years ago ended. He found someone else and told me he didn't want me anymore. This hurt more than I can explain. I tried calling him and since he left me for someone else and wanted to concentrate on that relationship, he was very mean to me.
The last time we talked and he repeatedly hung up on me in a weird anger, told me he didn't want me anymore, those were the words that it took to leave him alone. I vowed that I would never contact him again to talk to me like that.
You take his meaness if there is any and use it as your strength. It might feel like crap to have no communication with him anymore but in the long run, you're better off.
2007-12-28 01:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by ShrunkenFro™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that is the case, "Sis", then perhaps the last 4 years were not as "good" as one may have thought. I'd say, it would be time to move on, and find someone who will...ALWAYS find you attractive and want to move on to the next level, if they are not ready to do that after 4 years,..they never will be.
2007-12-27 14:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Cami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its good dont throw it away what is the next level a piece of paper if you are thinking of that dont force the guy it is hard to move on after that long i cant speak for you but i would stay alone for a while some things just arent worth the trouble .
2007-12-27 16:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by THE GENERAL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's making this call?
If there is no attraction, then there's no attraction. Four years is nothing--if you're ready to spend the rest of your life together, you'll know. Don't force it--it's better to give up a longterm relationship to move on to better, greener pastures than stick with it and not be completely satisfied.
2007-12-27 14:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too easy to settle for being in a relationship that you are not happy in. Take that risk! Learn to love hanging out by yourself for awhile, and know that you don't need to be in a relationship to define yourself. If you're not happy, and your unhappiness can't be resolved by working it out together or with counseling, move on. Don't consider it throwing it away; think of it as learning from experience. I hope whatever you decide makes you a happy person!!
2007-12-29 08:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Gina E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister friend it sounds like the two of you want different things. If your next level is a deeper commitment and theirs is not then I think you need to love your self enough to walk away and be with your self for a while. I wish you well on the journey.
2007-12-28 02:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋