I have a friend who is in love with someone that's married, how do I get my friend to back off?
2007-12-27 13:38:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As you will have discovered, friends have this nasty tendancy to ignore your learned advise, especially when blinded by lust.
You can come up with the most cogent, sober and particularly sage advise, but then they make googly eyes at...HIM (or whomsoever the obscure object of desire is) and your well-reasoned discussion turns to mud.
Sadly, all you can do is be at teh ready when the whole mess implodes
2007-12-27 13:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just shouldn't be trying to get him to back off? It's a sad thing, of course, that he/she is married, but it is their right to choose their partner. Divorce is not a good thing, but it is an option. That's why it is not prohibited in most modern contries for more than 100 years. I mean, if it is really love, the one with the family should sort it out while caring about his current family. If she/he doesn't want to be with her/his family any more, it would be worse for the family if he stays forcing him/herself to.
If it is just some affair, it is another case, of course. All depends on circumstainces.
You don't have to make hime back off. You have to help him act in an honourable way.
2007-12-27 13:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no! I hate when that happens. Short of shaking the senses back into her, here's some things to remind her:
1.) It is against God's Ten Commandments--he listed that in the top 10 for a reason.
2.) He will eventually cheat on her, just like he's cheating on his wife.
3.) She should realize that when he says that his wife is cold to him, mean to him, cheating on him, works to hard, doesn't work enough, he's lying . . . no guy cheating will admit that his wife is a wonderful person and that he's a jerk. Tell her that when he starts cheating on her, he'll say the same things to his new "girlfriend"
4.) He probably won't leave his wife for her.
It's great that you're taking a stand against adultery, when many people just want to ignore it. God bless!!
2007-12-27 13:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U ought to stay out of it! you at the instant are not God.... i won't be able to comprehend for the life of me why you're interior the midst of this occasion besides. there are young ones in contact with this occasion. He could say he would not love his spouse. thinking the grass in greener on the different side. yet wait till he gets there pay returned is a bleep.
2016-12-11 14:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him/her that pursuing a married person is fruitless. If anything does come of it, all it will cause will be hurt and distrust. Also, if your friend were to end up with the person, they would never be able to truly trust each other because of the way they got together.
2007-12-27 14:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the horrors of getting in with a married man. That if she goes forward with it, that there would be hell to pay. It will just come back and hunt her for the rest of her life maybe even ruin her life.
2007-12-27 13:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have found that folks in this position do not take advise. I would only speak if asked for an opinion. Sometimes free advise is worth the cost. Best wishes.
2007-12-28 08:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by david42 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has to learn about this the hard way. If you are truly her friend, fight for her tooth and nail, but also let her learn.
2007-12-27 13:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your friend and tell her that what she's doing is wrong.
2007-12-28 10:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by nancy_biri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this attraction both ways if so what does it have to do with you if you really want to interfere go and have a chat with this persons spouse
2007-12-27 13:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by robert S 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋