im ready to have sex. im 17
but i just dont know what to do..tips would be great.
do i just sit there and make noise..do i run my fingers through his hair?? what ?? please help.
and also i have a bikini wax and trimmed hair..but most people are bare down there so would it be freaky if i had a little hair or not?
please help me
THANKS SO MUCH
2007-12-27 13:31:26 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
If you do not know what to do, then you are not yet ready, sorry.
Maybe you are ready to LEARN ABOUT sex, but not ready for sex.
2007-12-27 13:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by SQUALENEBOY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know whether or not you're ready for sex so go with how you feel. About what to do. . .the first time you don't HAVE to try anything. . .that will come with time and practice. Don't just lay there though. Go with his motions, make noises when it feels right, grab his back, run your fingers through his hair. . .just show him that you're enjoying it.
Also, first times arn't always the best. I'm not trying to scare you but it's the truth. A lot of times it's awkward and can be uncomfortable. But if you trust the guy and are able to talk to him to help make it more comfortable for you it should be good. Have fun. It's something you'll never forget.
2007-12-27 13:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Alexa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17, you may be ready to have sex... but it sounds like you don't have the right person to express first love to yet. That will be a mistake that could haunt you for years.
You would know what to do by the inspiration of your loving emotion... if you were not just with a guy to get banged. First times can be awkward, but when you are naturally motivated, things just kinda' happen.
Think about how when you love your dog or cat you want to stroke it... for the lovely sensations... to please yourself and your pet. Think how good it feels to cuddle and snuggle and say silly little lovey type things. When you take a taste of your favorite flavor, the "mmmyum" sound just flows out naturally. How about the burst of joy when you meet up with someone you haven't seen for a while and you rush to hold them.
These are the emotional links to the physical acts that we share for pleasure and to show that there is a specialness. This should not be missing from your first time, it should be an act of "love making" not casual sex. There is plenty of time in the rest of your life to explore the "casual" and meaningless sexual aspects... your first time should be a memory to cherish.
Until you are truly ready to express that special bond with your mate, you should prepare, because your life will change dramatically. It is up to you to make it a positive experience so you will not taint your future.
Learn to put a condom on a man and never have contact without it. Learn to recognize sores, rashes and funkyness.
Your personal form of birth control should be established well in advance of your first experience. It is your back up for condom accidents and carelessness. Learn about responsible sex, there are many sites online and books available.
2007-12-27 14:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by ladyquesteur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wager to say that you aren't ready. Find the middle ground here between the have sex now and OMG, wait until you're married crowd.
Our whole culture (in America) has a twisted view on sex- everything is hyper sexualized OR frowned upon by a religion. I would ask you to wait until you know all about safe sex, contraceptions, STDs, etc. 17 yrs old is way too young to think you have it all figured out. Wait a bit until you're making more of your own decisions on your own- don't let anyone push you into something if you don't feel comfortable.
Regarding the hair question- don't worry about it. If a guy wants you, he's not really gonna care.
2007-12-27 13:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Slacker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god do NOT make that mistake. 17? Honey you aren't even legal! Wait, wait, wait. You're not even legal and it's such a mistake if its not the right time or the right person. You're still in high school right? 99% of the time, high school relationships don't last. Don't have sex just because you think you're ready or because someone might be pressuring you. It's not all it's cracked up to be.
If I can't stop you, do yourself a few favors before you start having sex.
1. Get on birth control for at least a month before you start.
2. Always keep a condom on you, always use one.
3. Make sure to have a blood test with the person you want to have sex with. EVEN if they say they haven't had sex before or that they're clean, you should always check.
2007-12-27 13:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just let your feelings be your guide. You very likely won't be able to control your responses anyway. Don't worry about what hair you do or don't have downstairs, it doesn't matter. Just go with the flow, be responsive to what he does, and enjoy it. You will know soon what does and what does not feel good to you, so just let your partner know! You can run your hands through his hair all you wish. Guys like that, especially if they are going down on you. Just follow his lead, and know that it is ok to ask him what he wants you to do, and also to tell him what you find that you like.
2007-12-27 13:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....Uhh , well , if you Want to enjoy it , let me give you some tips.
1. Buy him some sexy underwear for Him to wear - Red silk boxers , Male thongs...They're All on the Internet.
2. Get whip cream , mostly prefered strawberry flavor. Have it sitting next by your bed mattress.
3. Before you get your groooove on w/ him , either let him strip/take off his clothes in front of you , or you strip/take off his clothes while his in the bed. That way , when you take off his pants , you see them sexy boxers...
4. You either let him take your clothes right after that or you can take off your clothes.
5. Have some fun w/ that whip cream..- Lick it off his body...( Do Not let him wear any cologne or else you'll taste that instead of that great whip cream. )
You choose to be on the top or the bottom. Either way , it'll be sexier if He moans allot while having that fun w/ you . Oh yeah , do run your fingers threw his hair. Im sure he'll like it. Still , Im shocked that im am younger than you , and you're still don't know how to have that great sex , Its okay though. Oh btw , unless you actually want to get pregnant , Use a condom. Get the most expensive ones that fit his size.
Thats some of my tips..
2007-12-27 13:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your are taking time to ask, this tells me you have doubts about it. So I recomend you take 100 steps back and wait till you figure some of these things out for yourself or with your trusted mentor/friend or hopefully a parent.
Tip # 1. Wait #2. Wait #3. Wait #4. Concider the aftermath. #5 Wait 6.# Wait 7. Fall in love for ever 8. Wait 9. Plan a wedding. 10.Enjoy!!
2007-12-27 13:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by WAWAYNE 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not ready if you need to ask how to do it. It is not something that comes with a manual. Everyone is different and the ways you will enjoy will be different then others. You should wait until it feels like you know what you want from him, then you will be ready.
2007-12-27 13:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by david h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you are ready but you do not mention there is someone special. You need to wait and find someone special. If you feel ackward about your hair cut then this is another sign to wait because you are nervous and unsure. When you are sure you will not worry about your hair cut or even think about that. When you do get there you just do what comes natural. You will figure it out as you go along.
2007-12-27 13:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Make darn sure your ready and that you have the right guy who will not pressure you if you change your mind. Also use PROTECTION and if he doesn't want to then say no. All the rest will come naturally , just be yourself and remember we were all there at one time also
2007-12-27 13:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by BILL 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋