not much to tell, but I miss him, so lonely..still see him sometimes, on weekends...not ready for a devoice.
2007-12-27 13:28:50 · 25 answers · asked by Funnygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him you'll do everything.
If that doesn't work, then your number's up.
Your everything is all you have.
2007-12-27 13:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by sajeev86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is supposed to be a union between two people who love each other. The sad truth is, if your husband does not want to be with you, it would be a lot better if you moved on and found someone who wants to be with you, instead of stay with someone who doesn't want to be married anymore. You can't get him back, he has to come back himself. I'm not suggesting you get a divorce immediately, although that may be the last resort if he is no longer interested, just think about the situation.
2007-12-27 22:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you are lonely and wanting to be with him. After being with someone that long it must be hard to have that person gone. Why did he not want to be married to you anymore. I know it hurts, but why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? It seems like that would hurt too. It is possible to be lonely in a relationship too- esp. when that person doesn't want to be with you anymore. I know that doesn't help get him back, but just something to think about.
Does he want to try to get back together? If so, I would suggest getting help from a counselor to help you both resolve the issues between you. Good luck and take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy- even if that means being without him.
2007-12-27 21:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your problem is that you can't let go and he knows it. I would suggest a 'Cool turkey' approach. If he really doesn't want to be with you anymore, remove him from your life completely. I know it sounds harsh but staying friends only prolongues the pain. Make a new beginning and tell him you don't want to see him anymore for a while to move on with your life.
2007-12-27 21:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by tenno1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY ABOUT IT and then wait on the answer. ask yourself is it worth saving? I mean every relationship has ups and downs but if your are going through a lot just to make things work or you are putting him through a lot to make things work I think it;s best to just leave it alone. If you love something let it go and if it comes back then you KNOW it was meant to be. But if he is infact not showing appreciation for you and takes you feelings and opinions into consideration then I don't think yo sould keep investing in something that;s not yielding a profit. I'm being honest. So please don't be offended if my words seem to harsh. I just know where you are coming from and have been there myself. Never married but we were together for five years and it seems like we were. But please don't devalue yourself and don't allow anyone else to do it either. If he doesn't light up your life, put a smile on your face, make you feel like a woman then honey you are settling. Know that their is someone else out there who WILL love you and appreciate you for you. They will acknowledge and cherish every single attribute about you. You derve the best!!!!!! Be Blessed
2007-12-27 22:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
only he can make up his own mind whether to come back or not-- It may sound like a guy thing but I assure you it's not- communication between the sheets is extremely important- Helen Gully -brown- editor-in -chief of Cosmopolitan magazine
at the age of 80 said if your partner thinks the grass in greener in the other yard check to see what's wrong with your lawn- mind you I must say that it's never just one persons fault good luck
2007-12-27 21:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by yankidee_1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find acceptance.
Find a group for separated and divorced people at a local Church. Go to the meeting and share your feelings and listen to others.
You cannot make it through this alone but you can do it with help.
You are not alone.
In time you will find new life.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 21:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can be force to go back to how things were.
The ONLY way to fix a problem is to work it out. Marriage councelors are there to do this for people. If he won't go, then YOU go. You need to get a handle on things in your life and they're trained to walk you through the process.
2007-12-27 21:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read the out of print book THE TOTAL WOMAN by Marabel Morgan... there is also a second book called TOTAL JOY. If it does nto help you get him back it will help you to heal. Good luck!! You can probably find a used copy online. I would not sell mine for anything.
2007-12-27 21:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if he doesn't want to be married anymore, don't put yourself through any more pain, it wouldn't work anyway if you get him back.
But my advice if you really want him back, stop seeing him on weekends, and get somebody else or at least pretend you did. If he thinks you're happier than he is, he will come back, that's men for you.
2007-12-27 21:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend, since he's a man, you have to be thinking of the things you haven't been doing in the last 27 yrs.
2007-12-27 21:32:27 · answer #11 · answered by honesthustler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋