We have been married for 24 years. We have always cut up and carried on with each other. We horse around like kids together. But lately he seems so unhappy. When I ask him if he is unhappy he says no. I ask what the problem is, I tell him I feel like something is wrong. He assures me it is not. When I make plans for us to go out to dinner or have some quite time he only wants to do what takes the least amount of time. My feeling is hurt by his behavior.
Has anyone else faced this before or am I making something out of nothing?
2007-12-27 13:22:02 · 15 answers · asked by Carolina girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop nagging him about this. It is only driving him further away.
Just get him a cold beer while his favorite team is playing and let him have his space.
2007-12-27 13:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he depressed about something? Perhaps something happened in his life that he is upset about and he is either too ashamed or not yet ready to tell you. If you have been married 24 years chances are you know him well enough to know when something is up. I would quit asking him about whats wrong and just watch him. You'll find out soon enough whats up.
2007-12-27 21:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old age just kind of creeps up on us. We wake up one day and ask ourselves where the time has gone. Men usually go through it after women. I would say give it time. Could be something he just needs to deal with. Yes, it could be another woman and it could be the gray in his hair. Maybe he isn't where he thought he would be at this time in his life. Be supportive, but be prepared as well.
2007-12-27 21:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he sick?
After 24years of marriage, I am sure both of you know each other well enough.
Men don't like to be questioned. Perhaps he has worries, let him know you are willing to listen and share and help.
Tell him how you feel about him being withdrawn all of a sudden and find ways to make things better for yourselves.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 21:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Hani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe depression, maybe change of life,, maybe he just feels out of source ,maybe hes having a affair you cant read his mind , tell him you really need to fill you in on whats going on with him , you been together for 24 years ,if your warning lights start to go off ,, than its really time to talk about what really is going on , us women have that inter voice in are heart and head, now go tell him to stop the bull ****, and start talking that you'll always be there for him no matter what your his soul mate , now go girl,,,,
2007-12-27 21:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him see his doctor. Many things can cause loss of libido (therefore not wanting to spend time with you in case you want to "get busy," or depression, lack of energy, etc.... high blood pressure, diabetes, hormone imbalance. to name a few. All can be treated
2007-12-27 21:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just be nothing...
But if your intuition tells you that something is up you are probably correct.
I suggest you sit him down and point blank ask him to share with you his feelings.
If this does not work you will need to be patient and wait until he is ready to share. You cannot make him tell you what is up.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 21:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
after 24 years of happyness it could be something like depression, it hits you and you have no idea where did it came from.
2007-12-27 21:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when I get like that with my wife. when something is going on with me (like physically) like if I'm sick, or stressed out. Maybe he is going through something that is private. Or maybe he is embarrassed by it!
2007-12-27 21:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be getting bored with life same old and needs something to spark it.most likely it is sexually.so do what you can or he will find something elsewhere if he hasn't already
2007-12-27 21:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋