everybody something and i did not even get a marry christmas a call to tell me thank you or nothing. He asked me today if i wanted him to get me something for christmas and i said if he wanted to. I should not have to tell him to go get me something. Why should i? He did not have to tell me to get him something i just feel real sad and depressed because i do alot around here and that just let me know that he dont give a ****. How do he eat? I cook. How do he get clean clothes? I wash. My kids made me a christmas card that was the best thing that i got. Please let me know should i be upset. I do a hell of alot and i think that i should have got something
2007-12-27 13:18:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
i am just so upset i cant stop crying like someone said its not the gift but effort
2007-12-28 07:39:49 · update #1
Absolutely you should be upset! Christmas is a time for appreciating the people you care about it's a time for giving and joy. The fact that this person put no thought into you is disturbing. Break up with him. I am being serious. You do not deserve to be treated this way. If he has done this then he has also done other things that are very disrespectful.
This has happened to me personally in my life twice both by guys that just weren't into me. If he cared about you then the thought of making you happy would be at the forefront of his mind.
I once had a bf that bought me nothing for my birthday. When people asked me what he got me I lied because I was so embarrassed. A second bf got me nothing for Christmas until a few weeks after the fact. With each of these guys I dated they didn't deserve me. They ended up cheating and being extremely disrespectful. I am not saying that your guy is doing this but he is being disrespectful and not making you a priority in his life. Don't put up with this. You set the standards for how you want to be treated in a relationship. Personally I learnt my lesson a few times too many. The third guy that told me he didn't celebrate Christmas.......I said bye bye.
This is not acceptable behaviour from someone who is suppose to care about you and take care of you. He is certainly not the marrying kind.
2007-12-27 13:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
yes... I would be more hurt than mad or upset.
How long have you two been together? I would seriously think about is he really worth what you are receiving in return? Don't you think you deserve more either from him or someone else? If it is not going to change ... and I think you will have a good ideal is this the way he acts all the time... does he take you out to dinner, movie? If not ... stop... and gather up your belonging and get out of his life. You sound as you are a good person. You will find/or a special man will find you, a great man that will appreciate you and do things for and with you... kids or not.
As for your children...you have to teach them to save up some money and buy you something... even if it iis just a small gift... it still will mean something to them and especially to you.
Think about yourself...first, and your children.
2007-12-27 14:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by sandra k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not always done on purpose. He could be having trouble with money, maybe something came up and he cant afford to buy what he said he would buy. Maybe he is trying to surprise you. You never know. The best way is to wait till after Christmas day. If you don't receive what he said he would give just ask him. Ask nicely though, say "I'm just curious... what happened to the necklace you said you would buy? I had my hopes up for it." Be nice about it. Then he should explain to you. Christmas is about giving, though. Even if he does not buy you that necklace you still made him happy, and if you did make him happy shouldn't you be happy too?
2016-03-16 07:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I'm in your situation,yes I would feel the same way.It's not the gift that we count but their effort, that will show they think of us,they value us and they want to bring us small happiness.I didn't got anything last Christmas too although my bf picked something but he mailed it late so i think it's still on the Pacific ocean,lol.He also promise me one thing that I asked him but seems like it's only a broken promise.To sum it all you are not alone,we have lot here that are feeling the same,but it will all pass and let's just value our other loveones that give effort to appreciate us.And I may say in your case it's your kids.
2007-12-27 14:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by freeverse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. It's not so much the lack of a present, but the lack of respect that he shows towards you. A call, a hug, a thank you, a small gift-- anything to show you that he appreciates you is not asking too much. I think it's time to rethink your relationship with this man. Is he worth this much grief?
2007-12-29 13:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deb W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question of "should" you be upset seems quite irrelevant at this point. The fact that you ARE upset is what catches my attention. I understand how you feel....I would feel upset and hurt, too. Not because I wash his clothes or cook for him but because my own expectations are out of line. This person sounds like someone who takes you for granted...and the truth IS, you encourage this attitude by not asking for what you want. YOU DO DESERVE to be treated with respect and dignity but this wont happen if you dont believe it yourself!!!!! That he asked you if he could get a gift for you gives me hope. He got the message that he screwed up...dont know how..but he got it. At that point, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to say..yes..I want...fill in the blank. No one can read your mind....seriously there ARE people who DONT want gifts...so you have to speak it. Say what you mean, mean what you say, but dont say it meanly. We need to believe in our own souls that we are worthy...then and only then can we communicate this to others. Sorry you are hurt...this too shall pass.
2007-12-27 14:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is with guys this year. My husband of 4 years didn't get me anything. And it's not the fact that i didn't get a gift, but he didn't even think about it. I cook, clean, laundry, care for out 3 kids 24 hours a day with no help and he can't even show his appreciation..AHHHH
I'm right there with you hunny
2007-12-27 13:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please re-evaluate your reasons for staying with this guy, I'm sure this is not the only way he's taken you for granted.
Life is too precious to spend with someone who doesn't love and appreciate you fully, and the right guy is out there for you who will treat you the way you deserve. I just don't think your current boyfriend is the one.
2007-12-27 15:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Violet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be upset.. if you cook and clean for him.. he clearly couldnt make you a lil card like your kids did.... even if he didnt give you anything, atleast he could of said marry christmas!!
2007-12-27 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by angel77063 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then he can't think to highly of you so dump him,sorry but that's what I think.
2007-12-27 13:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋