I am 15 weeks pregnant and my husband still fights with me for simple reasons..?

Question

yesterday,since my hubby was working from home he asked me to make him coffee.. i was not in grt mood to make since we already had a petty fight.. we jus had lunch wch i had made and was jus relaxing on a couch wth tv.. i dint say anything..i made coffee and said,here take it..he says m not gonna drink since i dint offer in a sweet way..it made me more mad and started to pull him to drink coffee,he jus left the room..i followed him and started pushing him to drink,but he didnt..he said i m going to drink if u offer in a nice way..then i said,i cant since u have already upset me..i asked him to ask sorry for the previous incident then i would ask him in a sweet way to drink..he wanted me to go first,i wanted him to go first..again had arguements,then he wudnt drink,i was pushing him to drink,and started pulling his laptop not allowing him to work..he dint take it in a sportive way as always and started wresling angrily wth me all over the house knowing that i m pregnant. i am very upset

we are married for 5 years now,our fights never seem to end ! we have tried counselling but discontinued after some sessions..he is not much of fun guy, we havent had one single trip or vacation without a fight..many times we sleep seperate due to fights..i have to ask him for everything,he doesnt do a thing until said or pushed for..i have cried many times asking him to express n do lil things that make me happy..he says he forgets,and busy at work !! he has loads of time to watch tv ofcourse! i have asked him thousand times to plan for a romantic night jus at home frm 5 years,he never has done it atleast for my sake!! i feel so frustated,many times i feel like going back to my parents and live..i cant think of anything other than our bad fights when m sitting alone..we do have good times only when he is in mood..doesnt work when i m in gud mood..i m a very active kind of girl and he is not..now that i m pregnant, i have to ask him to take my pictures,he will not do a thing on his own

Answer 1

There's probably more to this than meets the ear. Go for marriage counseling. When he refused to take the drink, you should have just set it down, instead of forcing him to drink and yanking on his laptop. Both of you need to stop the silly fighting and grow up. You are about to become parents. And you both need to let things go. You are still mad over a stupid argument you had yesterday. Time for you to apologize to him. I bet he'll apologize as well. It doesn't matter who started it.

Edit: I've been married 5 years as well. Men just aren't much into mushy things. Men are providers. We women are the ones that have to do all the romantic mushy stuff if we want it like that. And no more nagging him to do things. He supports you, he loves you(or he would have bolted ages ago), and that's what a man does.

Too bad you cancelled the counseling sessions. They could have helped, especially now since everything's compounded with a baby.

Don't let things get so bad you sleep in separate rooms. Most things aren't worth arguing about.

Him not being "much of a fun guy" was something that should have been thought about 5 years ago or more. But you married him knowing he wasn't "much of a fun guy". I'm not trying to sound mean. I know I do, sorry about that. He's probably wanting to know why you want him to change so badly after you married him for what he was.

Go back to counseling. Try it with another counselor. You and he OWE it to this baby to make it work.

Answer 2

You both need to grow up. You stated that he still fights with you and you are 15 weeks pregnant. Did you think that when you get pregnant that he was going to change into the man of your dreams. You sound very naive. You do not push anyone to drink anything. You are at fault there yourself. As far as wresting around your relationship is doomed. Both of you grow up and smell the coffee.

Answer 3

wow you guys sound like me and my husband! im pregnant with #3 (our 2nd together) and things always seem worse when im pregnant! my husband started wrestling with me when we were fighting right after our daughter was born, and almost caused me to fall on top of her (she was maybe 3 weeks old). i know how you feel, ive wanted a divorce so bad lately. but we cant afford one right now, so we are trying to make things work. its really hard though and when your pregnant your hormones are everywhere are makes things 10X worse. i wish i could say if counsling would work, but i cant because ive never been through it. we need to go also though!

Answer 4

Neither one of you sound old enough to be married let alone becoming parents. I feel sorry for this poor baby on it's way. Being brought up by childish spoiled self centered parents.

Answer 5

Maybe you should both stop acting like 3rd graders. You are about to have a child together and you sound like he just pulled you pigtail and you are demanding an apology, but you stepped on his toe first so he wants you to apologize first...

Answer 6

The both of you are at fault and are acting immature.

It is time that the two of you realize that it is not about either one of you and your feelings anymore. It is now all about the child and will be forever.

Good luck.

Answer 7

It sounds like a cheater to me.