After being hurt in the past, I have learnt, like alot of people to keep my guard up and close myself off.
When I close myself, It means that I can choose when to open up with people I feel I can trust, but If I open up to make people like me, I am opening up to people that I don't trust or like.
It's like your heart needs to turn to stone, just to protect yourself.
But how can you love someone if you have to be like stone to protect yourself?
2007-12-27 13:02:08 · 8 answers · asked by NONAME 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't open yourself up without risking pain. Period. It's up to you to decide as to if you will do it or not.
One thing I will say on this though: If you really don't trust someone, don't open yourself up to them. Instinct will tell you what you need to know.
I've met people with hearts that have turned to stone, and they're not at all fun to be around. Protect yourself, but don't become apathetic in doing so.
2007-12-27 13:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by darkridr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't... no matter how much your heart gets scarred, even w/ protection, you can still never really protect it fully. You just have to kind of obtain a personality that can brush off those hurt feelings. If you are the kind of person that is very sensitive, you may not be able to handle it, but through alot of practice, I'm sure you can do that. What's life, w/o taking a chance? Good luck.
2007-12-27 13:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by lalala <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. There is no way to open yourself without the risk of pain. The real question you need to asking yourself is "Is it worth it to open up to this person"? Only you can answer that. Only you wil lknow when you are secure enough in yourself to open your heart to another, regardless of the risk.
Love is scary. We aren't given a pass at birth that says "You willl never know pain". The strongest people accept that and choose to risk the pain because they know that feeling love and joy, even if briefly, is worth the heartbreak that may occur. They have hope that they will find good friends and lovers who won't hurt them. And they are strong enough to accept that loss is a part of life.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 13:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by cyranothe2nd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Opening up to people can be like growing new teeth. A bit painful as you overcome all the natural instincts and step out of yourself to socialize with other humans. And the hurts do come sort of because humans are not all cut and dry nice. They are complicated organisms in need of attention and in that you will find all forms of activity developed to attain that attention they need. In time you learn what and what not you can do and not do to socialize. But most of all it takes a gutsy person to overcome and go on in life and head out to meet others even with the hurt that comes along with most intimat relationships. You just grow though it and learn to better it.
2007-12-27 13:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just try to be who I am because there is someone that I know will Love me & Care for me!! And that's the same for everybody but I feel closed up too sometimes!!
2007-12-27 16:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by Brown_eyed_Sunshine2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no certain way to avoid being hurt. The best advice I can give you is to watch out for signals. When you see a bad one, address it quickly. If the behavior doesn't change get out before you get hurt...
2007-12-27 13:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it's better to have opened yourself up and gotten hurt than to have closed yourself off and never found anyone to love?
2007-12-27 13:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by tori b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bitter works for me.
2007-12-27 13:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by smithersprime 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋