Examples: Looks? A certain income? Religion?
2007-12-27 12:51:41 · 9 answers · asked by Priscilla B 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I would say that you have to have similar values and interests; otherwise there won't be a common ground to build a lasting relationship on. Therefore, you have to have a similar level of professional / financial success as well, because it would give you the chance to relate to each other better (you have gone through the similar experiences to get where you are in life). There definitely must be a powerful chemistry between you two to keep you together through all the turbulences of married life. I would stay away from religious fanatics, because they are not a great company and should be left on their own to fend for themselves anyhow. Otherwise, religion should not be a problem, unless you feel strongly about it.
I would work on a list of personality traits that are important to you in your future spouse: honesty, compassion, creativity, loyalty etc. There must be some things that you can not compromise on, because they are accentual to who you are. There also must be a list of faults that you won't be able to live with like: excessive drinking, gambling, cheating etc.
You have to have similar goals and dreams. You need to want to be in your marriage every day of your life together. It won't be easy at times, but you have to work together to make your marriage last as a happy relationship for both of you. Open your mind and heart to each other. Keep an open communication, trust, emotional support and simple human compassion ready for your spouse.
I have been happily married for almost 18 years now. It has been a wonderful relationship, because we went into it with open minds and love for each other. We also helped each other to grow on personal level: to be everything we always wanted to be in life. You can not be selfish in marriage.
I wish you the very best in your quest for a worthy spouse. However to answer that question, you should look inside of your soul. Your answer will depend on your self knowledge and priorities in life. Good luck, sweetheart!
2007-12-27 14:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Preferably agnostic, if religious, not-in-your-face religion. Income? Preferably less than mine, yes, I'm insecure, what of it? Though I'd be fine if she made more than me, I would just prefer to make more. A three digit IQ would be nice too. I would prefer if she wasn't a radical or ultra- anything. Oh, and if she was an orphan, that'd be great too, but that's not really a requirement so much as a preference. Come to think of it, I really don't have requirements, just preferences.
Oh, and looks? If she fills any of the former requirements/preferences, why even care about looks?
2007-12-27 20:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by S P 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Looks: Negotiable. It's proven that the more time you spend with someone, the better they look to you. The better you feel about someone, the better they look. My husband is average, but the best looking guy in the world to me.
Income: As long as he's a hard worker, works for me (which he is)
Religion: No fanatics, and tolerant of others' religions, as well as mine if it differs (which he does)
Others: Mature, sensitive, funny, wants children, laid back, respectful, and loving. And my husband is all of these things.
2007-12-27 21:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any huge requirements when i was single. I just wanted someone who could speak his own mind, be open minded and intelligent and able to discuss politics & religion freely, be interested in the same sort of music, and treat me with love and respect, oh, and a sense of humour.
That isn't alot to ask. It's not like i wrote out a list like 'must be 6', must be extremely rich, must look like brad Pitt (throws up)
Needless to say from my hopes in a partner, i got what i was looking for, and am very happy
Some people are just so shallow!!
2007-12-27 20:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Moderately good looking, but a nice face will do. Only honesty, conversational ability and a willingness to co-operate on our future are definitely important.
No religious quackery, no diva's, no celeb-obsessed people. And definitely no smokers.
Oh yes, it would be helpful if she has an appetite for sex.
2007-12-27 22:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i am very happy with my boyfriend. i wanted the following:
1. sweet and considerate
2. creative-most important to me.
3. hard working
4. passionate
5. compassionate
6. must be liberal
7. must be pro-choice
8. must not be a homophobe.
9. must treat others with respect. i will not date a shitty tipper.
10. of course, i have to be attracted to him. but i like geeky types that usually wear thick framed glasses and wear converse sneakers. my boyfriend is in a band and is a GIANT computer nerd.
there are things about my boyfriend that i wasn't looking for, but i ended up liking. there are also things i have overlooked since they aren't important. you have to be flexible, but i would never compromise on the important stuff.
2007-12-27 21:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
basically, for me - compatability, consideration, tolerance and forgiving person - but of course, we have to be the same to make the marriage a success. Unacceptable: alcoholic, gambler, neglectful, crude and loud
2007-12-27 20:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by PikC 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
she has to not be a feminist one word about womans rights and otu the door. women have more than equal rights we are tired or ur complaining.
2007-12-27 21:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by blktan24 3 · 1⤊ 7⤋
she has to swallow, cook, and walk around naked all day. and shes not allowed to talk. that goes for all of my current wives and any potential ones as well. hahahahahah
2007-12-27 20:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ramble 3 · 2⤊ 8⤋