Is this common? I moved out last year at 20 years of age and my mom dragged me back with some schpeel about " why pay money on rent when you could be saving it up to leave the state" So i moved back in. I'm three semesters from graduation. I will be 22 when I finish and will move out of state for a masters program. I'm glad my parents still give me a roof and the opportunity to save up but I feel abnormal. I work and pay for my expenses such as food, clothes, school, and I'm out working and studying so much I'm rarely ever here but I still feel like a mooch. Anybody in this same situation? It would be nice to save up the money but it would also be nice to walk nude in my own place if you know what I mean. Should i stay one more year and be set to move securely or get a place and live my life. I think they want me to stay to be sure my future is set. My other sisters never went to school and live at home at 27. Maybe they want to ensure I wont return to burden them?
2007-12-27 12:40:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You aren't alone at ALL.
I'm 21 right now, and I still live at home with my dad. I did it for ME, not because my dad wanted me around.
I've saved a LOT of money in the long run by staying home and having cheaper in-state tuition at UNLV.
Like you, I plan on moving out for Graduate studies.
Sure it's tough still living at home, but I feel like I only eat and sleep here. I've go to school, conduct undergrad research, and I work part-time.
Don't worry about misconceptions of leaving home to go to college. MOST of those people will have 30 - 40 thousand dollars of debt PER YEAR they go to school. Why have a 120 thousand dollar debt for just a Bachelors, when you really want your Masters (or PhD) to be what really counts???
2007-12-27 12:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by theviolet41 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may not be the norm at the school you are attending. Your parents are probably right, though. I wouldn't look at it as 'they don't want me to return and be a burden later' so much as 'they want me to succeed when I get my own place'.
The statistics show a large number of young people ending up back with their parents after finishing college. Part of that is because it's just so much more difficult to start out these days, and part of it is probably because of the huge debt associated with college. You have been given an opportunity to prevent that, and I think your parents have shown some savvy in offering it to you.
You are feeling uncomfortable living at home at the age of 21 while working on your undergraduate degree; consider how much more uncomfortable you'd feel if you had to do it after finishing your masters program.
2007-12-28 10:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of Three 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are a mooch because you want to have your own place. I detest children that never leave the home. Sometimes, its for reasons such as taking care of an elderly parent, but most of the times, the kids are just losers and their parents never raised them to be "adults." It looks like at 20, you are more grown than your 27 years old sisters.
2007-12-27 21:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went away to a school in Manhattan for my freshman year of college, then I moved back to San Antonio and have lived at home since. I love living in my own house with my parents so much more than I liked living with roommates in an apartment. I really missed my home life (which is why I moved back).
Anyway, my desire to stay at home might make me a little different from most college students who so desperately want their independence or privacy, BUT all of my friends, whether they live in an apartment, dorm, or at home, are living off of their parents' money, at least as far as rent and utilities are concerned. School is your #1 job right now, and it sounds like your parents acknowledge that and want to help you succeed by providing lodging, and, more than that, their support. You should not feel like a mooch at all, so long as you are trying hard in all your classes.
2007-12-27 21:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Koala Tamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some commuter schools, this is the norm. At more residential schools, it may be relatively rare. I know a number of students at my largely-residential school who moved home to help with a sick relative or things of that sort. The word you were looking for, though, was spiel, not schpeel!
2007-12-27 20:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people live with their parents and commute to college. I commute to college. I don't even get along with my parents (one's an alchoholic and the other's a homophobe...I'm gay) BUT it's soooo much cheaper. My sister moved out for school and now she's 80,000 dollars in debt. I know people who say they don't want to move out until they get married...now I think that is kind of depressing, but everybody's different. Not everyone lives that party college lifestyle you see in the movies, and there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-12-28 20:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that's great, they are being reasonable, if you are going to pay for expense when you move out to another stranger why not let your family member get it? it still better anyway, you probably get more benefit living at home just that you don't realize it. I think your parent are great.
2007-12-27 20:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by YooH8M3? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are just looking out for you. Sound like great parents, be thankful : )
2007-12-27 20:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by galiza0925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋