I am 21 years old.Over 2 years ago I met this guy online & we started talking.Everything went great.We are from two different countries though.We have met up with each other and spent a couple months together in each others countries.He is great.We love each other so so much and I know it's real.Neither of us have a problem with this long distance relationship, until we can figure out a way to be together properly. But I feel my mom isn't that supportive of it. She hasn't said anything bad about it, but she doesnt really talk about him much. and when i mention him coming over or me going to see him, i get the feeling like shes holding something back, that she doesnt want to say to me. But i already know what shes thinking. Shes worried about the long distance and scared for me incase i get hurt in the long run. I hate how she looks at this relationship, because she doesnt consider our feelings towards each other. and it makes me feel insecure about myself. how do i think more positive?
2007-12-27 12:37:52 · 10 answers · asked by Hannah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Love is a wonderful thing and I am so happy that you have found it. If you want to make it work, I know you will succeed. It sounds like you are having trouble communicating with your mom. Be honest with her and tell her that you feel she has some objections that she hasn't worded. Let her know that even though it is your decision, her opinion is important and you will listen to her.
2007-12-27 12:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents will never understand. You just have to know in your heart that what you feel is 100% real. Its kinda random that 2 people from 2 different countries fall in love and are happy, but your making it work, and so is he and thats all that should matter. When she makes you feel bad, call him, or or he's infront of you give him a big squeeze. But if something happens in the long run and it doesnt work out, you'll be sad, but just remember life goes on! You took a chance on love and seems like your winning. She'll just have to get over it. Call someone supportive of your relationship.
2007-12-27 20:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one she is being a mom, parents worry about their kids all the time its their job. Not a slight to you or the guy its just a mother always wants to protect their young. And for two how is it interferring in your relationship? I mean to me she is actually being very, very gracious about this. If you had my mom, she wouldn't have let you see the dude at all and express every day how crazy you were for seeing someone from another country. Not to mention guilt trip after guilt trip. But I really think that why you are feeling so insecure about it is for one you either think things are way too serious with this guy and you aren't even sure of how far you want to take things with him, or simply you just care too much about what others think of you. Both are very logical reasons you can be feeling this way. I say take some time out and figure out who you are with this guy and what you want to do with your life. Beecause nobody knocking the love you feel, but your own insecurities from not knowing yourself will no doubt make your relationship with your mom and this guy a difficult one. Best of luck and try to figure out who you are and see if that changes how you feel about the guy and your mom.
2007-12-27 20:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it funny that, even though you don't talk to your Mum about the relationship, that you "know" what she is really thinking about it? And wouldn't it be natural for a Mum to worry over their children's happiness?
Could it be that its your own doubts that you are doing the right thing for yourself, that is making you project your feelings on her? Maybe the fact that you are insecure in your relationship, that you have already have doubts, that has you looking at others for reassurance that you are doing the right thing?
This is perfectly normal. Even love has some room for doubts. The real question is, how loud are those feelings?
2007-12-27 20:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are in love, your love can withstand long distances. Sit down and talk to your mom about her concerns. Tell her what your feeling and maybe she'll understand more about whats happening. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you guys can do in the future. If you are serious about this relationship there might be a few sacrifaces that you have to willing to make so you can be closer together.
2007-12-27 20:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if it makes you happy go for it.Just play it safe.I had the same situation and am now married to a wonderful person whom I am happy with.Long distance relationships are hard but if this is the one for you stick with it and one day you will be as happy as we are.I must say though I have heard some horror stories so you do need to be careful.If not for yourself then for your mother show a little caution.
2007-12-27 20:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that your mom is going to be the most discriminatory person when it comes to her daughter's love interests. It's only by nature that she'd be concerned. Don't feel insecure about it, just know that she loves you and is trying her hardest to let you live your life without interfering.
2007-12-27 20:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive gone thru this with my mom and all i can say is that she will eventually come around...god bless and im glad that you and your man have such a strong relationship
2007-12-27 20:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by God Bless America!~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about her, u know what u want, go for it
2007-12-27 20:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Em09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her tell u wat shes holdin back so u can clear the air with her
2007-12-27 20:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋