how do you turn enemies into friends?

Question

or why are they become your friend

Answer 1

Sometimes you cannot. How you turn them into a friend is with kindness. If that does not work then you are better off without them.

Answer 2

I don't understand "or why are they become your friend" part. But if you can take yourself out of your situation, and want to turn your enemies into your friends, you're making a wise decision. Decide the "enemies" you target. Invite them to your home, if you think it's safe to do so. Prepare or order in a good meal. Talk around the issue that divides you. Get a read on them and their responses. Let them go after you eat...and think on what they told you. Ferret out if there's any common ground you can hold with what they've told you.

Take it step by step like that. Spend limited time with them, figuring out any goals you might have in common. It's a great way to conquer with peace as your weapon. Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 3

Obviously there must be something you like about them to want them to be your friend. Find what it is and work on it.
You need to have compassion, a common interest also helps or talk about what it is or what happened that turned your feelings from friend to enemy or why you considered them an enemy to begin with.
Good Luck which ever way it goes, though some people choose not to be friendly no matter how hard you try. Don't blame yourself for that, it's their loss.

Answer 4

I think first of all you need to evaluate why these people or person is your enemy in the first place. Something was done at some point in your relationship with this person to cause the bad blood between you. I know resolving conflict is different with each person. I think the most logical first step is to just sit down and talk to them, find out where the trouble started. If you did do something wrong, apologize... take responsibility for wronging that person if you did. It just takes talking, time, and showing that person/people that you're a great person. Always be nice to them, even if they aren't always nice to you. And remember... as much as we'd like to be friends with everyone, not everyone is going to want to be your friend. Some people just won't like you- you just have to be confident enough in yourself to say that this person isn't worth your time and enjoy the friends and relationships you do have in your life. Cherish those people.

Answer 5

Treating an enemy as a friend turns them into a friend. You just have to be willing to be the first to ofer empathy and compassion. If this question is hitting you as hard as it seems, I highly recommend Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg and the kid's book Enemy Pie. (For what it is worth, the Sermon on the Mount, the Good Samaritan, and the book of Micah have much to say to Christians on this topic.)

Answer 6

If they're true enemies they may never be your friends. Sometimes people just aren't going to like you and that's ok. Now if 80% of the people you meet don't like you, you might want to start doing some self examination to see why but if the majority of people like you then don't worry about those that don't. People who are desperate for absolutely everyone to be their friend are really pretty pathetic.

Answer 7

You need to treat people as they would like to be treated, understand that they are different and have their own opinions that may not be as what you would consider correct. Remember we all are wrong at times because we have or follow wrong information or conclusions your enemy is someone that is different than you but differences do not have to be problems, just as people that vote democrate and people that vote Repiblican can be friends or enemys depending on if they chose to see each other as a valid person that believes fully in their convictions or simply someone stupid and stuborn not to see this his/her way.

Answer 8

Enemies are people who do not know you at all and so they behave in a manner that is foreign to their nature. Prayer and being kind will turn them. The next thing you know is that you will have friends. Keep the faith.

Answer 9

"With friends like that, who need enemies"; "Keep you enemies close".
These are some sayings about enemies.
Anyway, enemies are people against you because of some kind of conflict. Learn what conflict your enemy has against you and discuss the conflict with openness and with sincere compromise's. Those that just want to be your enemy, stay away from them.

GOD BLESS! AMEN! SHALOM!

Answer 10

Its very tricky. You don't just turn them into friends. First you have to turn them neutral then try to win them as friends.

First off, you need to talk to them.. alone. Address the issues then see what can be done to resolve the issues. Explain to them that its counterproductive to stay enemies.