Found out today i'm pregnant,now i'm terrified of giving birth?

Question

What is the pain like?i'm happy i'm pregnant but pain is my worst fear!i know i have a long time to go yet but i'm so scared,can someone give me an idea what it's like and is the last month of pregnancy when you start having the pain?

Answer 1

Think of having the worst period pains ever and times it by 100!! It does hurt but only when you have a contraction. I always felt ok then as soon as i had a contraction i thought i was gonna die and then it went and i felt fine!! Dont worry too much about the pain as you can have all sorts of pain relief. I had gas & air & an epidural. Just dont over do it with the gas & air like i did! I was really unwell and was shaking & throwing up!! Enjoy your pregnancy! Dont forget every pregnancy if different and you might sail through it needing no pain relief at all!!

Answer 2

Each person labors differently, Some people have more pain in the abdomin (like bad menstral cramps or bad gas like you gotta poo) others will have back labor where it feels like someone hit you with a sledge hammer, some people will have a combination of both. The pain starts low, just a little uncomfortable but as the labor progress so does the pain until you have the urge to bare down and push the baby out. But there are different medications you can take to help, demoral, staydol, a spinal, a walking epidural, epidural (sorry the spelling is wrong on some of them). Unless you have a c-section they will either give you a spinal or knock you out completely. After you have the baby you will hurt and it will burn when you pee (the first time is the worst because you don't expect it) but it gets better with time and all the pain and discomfort is worth it. I ended up having 4 c-sections..I was up and moving by the second day (slowly but I was moving)

Answer 3

Its an indescribable pain, but the good news is that there are medications out there to lessen the pain and they are a GOD SEND! But unfortunatly there is nothing that will take away the pain of delivery. I figured the epidural would help with that and it probably helped me not feel the contractions so much, but it was extremely painful. The only way I could describe it was it felt like 2 people holding on inside of me and pulling in the opposite directions.

I started having what they call "Braxton Hicks Contractions" when I was about 24 weeks pregnant and they got very painful from time to time. But the whole process of pregnancy is not very comfortable at all (Im sorry for scaring you)... you start out and have ligament pains from your growing uterus, baby sitting on your bladder. The 2nd trimester is the easiest. Then the real fun starts in your 3rd trimester... but it will be OK!

Just keep telling yourself, women have did this since the beginning of time. And once you have your baby and you hold him or her in your arms the first time, you won't remember a bit of the pain... LOL! Thats why people have more than 1 kid hehehe! You would be willing to do it 100 times over just for that little bun your baking ;) Good luck and I promise, it will be ok and it IS well worth it.

Answer 4

Don't let your fear of birth overtake your joy of finding out you are pregnant....Pregnancy is the most wonderful time in your life and although we can't wait for it to end in the last month it is the most amazing feeling having a little being move inside you. Birth is a process, the first contracions are more of a tightning feeling, not painful, it's only as the cervix stretches and dialates that the feelings are intensified. Yes it is painful but there are alot of pain relief options out there for women who choose to use them. I am 33 weeks preg with my 4th child and after giving birth to my 3 daughters each time i have turned to my husband and said "I can't imagine never going through this again" The elation and excitment and adrenalin strait after giving birth is the most fabulous feeling in the world. Some women might think i'm mad but i actually enjoy giving birth. I will admit that i have been very lucky with my past 3 births, my first was 4 hours from start to finish (no pain relief needed), my 2nd was an hour and 42 mins (couldn't of had drugs even if i wanted them), and my 3rd was in a prosterior position with her spine against mine and took 9 hours (i was given a muscle relaxing drug as i had pushed for 2 hours and things were not progressing quickly enough). All in all the minute you reach down and feel that little head your pain and anxiety will totally disappear. Just remember there are options out there, no one expects you to be a super hero. What pain relief if any you need during birth will totally depend on the duration of your labour so just go with it, you won't know until the time comes. But don't worry yourself about it now, you have a long way to go and if the fear is really taking over you have a talk to your caregiver, make them aware of your fears, i'm sure they will have some really great advice for you. Good luck and congrates on you wonderful news, enjoy the gift of life!!!!

Answer 5

I have had four children, all natural births, no pain killers. Yes it is painful there is no getting away from that, I said no more after the first then no more after the others, but you soon put that at the back of your mind when you hold your baby. The last month you may well experience mild contractions, braxton hicks (not sure about the spelling) but these are not that bad. Lets be honest if the pain were so unbearable and people couldn't stand the pain, there would be a lot less babies in the world, it's natural, so please don't worry, there are so many ways they can help with pain relief these days, there is no need for childbirth to be unbearable. Good luck and congratulations

Answer 6

Congratulations! About the pain, it's like having a bad case of menstrual cramps and diarrhea when you're having the contractions and it's not constant and there are intervals, but if you're almost giving birth, the contraction has fewer intervals. I would suggest that you just relax and concentrate on what is happening to you at the moment. Being fearful can sometimes be more painful than the physical pain itself. Just enjoy your pregnancy(easier said than done especially the 1st trimester). But what I'm trying to say is just try to keep yourself healthy, maybe you can try birth classes and learn relaxation techniques. And also, don't worry too much about the pain. If you live here in America, they have a lot of options for pain management and there's Epidural. Goodluck!

Answer 7

Well... The pain can start way before you even give birth. I have pain in my hips and back daily right now, and I'm 32 weeks pregnant.

You can get an epidural for the birth, though. I had them with my other 2 kids.

It's just something you have to deal with. Some women go to the chiropractor, get massages, or do yoga or pilates. It just depends on what you would want to do. I went to a chiroprator, but he made my sciatic pain worse. I went to a masseuse(sp?) and that was nice, but the effects don't last long. As for yoga or pilates, I think that would make me hurt even worse because of the nerve pain I get. But I know women rave about it.

You can also soak in a warm bath.

Anyway, good luck with your pregnancy! There's really nothing you can do about it now, though. The baby will have to come somehow.

Answer 8

one step at a time, I think. it is good to be prepared but there is still a lot of time before you get there. Wait until you are about four months pregnant to start making plans about giving birth and worrying. It is painful but not unbearable, you get tired at the end of the pregnancy, but the pain only starts when you are in labour, if you are lucky, it will be a matter of hours, like huge period pain; and if you are really scared of the pain, go for an epidural or diamorphine. I gave birth with gas and air only and although it was painful it made me bond with my baby straight away. After giving birth, you feel like there is nothing you couldn't do for your baby. It makes you stronger.

Answer 9

you don't get pains in the last month usually.. some woman do. you will usually get pains when you are going into labor only!! trust me it does hurt you can't explain how much it hurts but once your baby has finally arrived there is no pains at all and you just are so focused on your new bundle of joy that it doesn't matter what you just went through. I'm pregnant with my second bub i have 6 weeks to go i know what I'm in for and still I'm more scared of getting needles than child birth.

Answer 10

The real pain doesn't start until you have contractions. I was fine up until the minute my contractions started. I walked around shopping for 4 hours straight about 2 weeks before I gave birth. Get an epidural, talk to your pediatrician, and don't worry too much because it all happens so fast and you forget about it quickly. I'm pregnant w/ #2 and don't remember the pain anymore from my 1st and I'm all ready to do it again.