Straight women, why do you accept gay men and not lesbians or bisexual women?

Question

A lot of straight women are hatin' towards me and I don't know why. They treat me like a disease. Why such a hostile approach?

Love and Peace xoxoxox

Oh, sorry!What I meant to say was...why would a straight women hate towards me. Some don't but most do automatically in high school, once they learn about my identity.

Lol, not hatin or disrespectin'. XOXOXO

Answer 1

Straight women these days live in a world where everything is biased in their favor. Unfortunately this has led to them believing themselves to be superior to all men, and most other women. Notice how straight women tend to judge you on your "handbag" or "shoes?" It has become a horrible custom for them to look for any reason to believe themselves as superior to one another, and one of thos is sexuality. The reason they accept gay men is quite simply because they are similar to them, and sometimes in a comical fashion.

Answer 2

Well, I can't answer for why SOME (SOME, not ALL) straight women hate lesbians. I can only give you what I've heard them say.

They hate bisexuals because they believe bisexuals "can't make up their minds" and also because they think that a bisexual is a pervert who not only does disgusting things with women, but can also steal their men too!

I also know a LOT of lesbians who hate bisexual women, and that is for a good reason, in my opinion. I have yet to see (after 30 years of being in the g/l/b/t community) ONE relationship between a lesbian and a bisexual woman work out. 99.9 % of the time, the bisexual woman breaks the lesbian's heart and goes back to a man. This has been so prevalent that it's just standard not to trust bisexual women, if you're a lesbian.

So it works both ways, it's not just SOME straight women who hate bisexuals, it's SOME lesbians too.

Source: Me, bisexual. Yes, I too am guilty of ONCE breaking a lesbian's heart and going back to a man. I was young and very stupid, and I have never become involved with a lesbian since then, in order to avoid causing that kind of pain ever again.

Answer 3

I am a straight women and I am not treating you like a disease. I have no reason to. I don't know you..never talked to you. Some women are bitches! They judge people before they ever try to get to know them. I almost want to say that I would except a lesbian or bi sexual women over a gay man. I don't mind lesbians or bisexual women. **** those other girls!! Don't be bothered by it. Its sad that they have to have hate or discriminate against others..they obviously have issues themselves that they can't deal with.
Well in high school girls are not mature enough or just go along with what is "right". The ones that are really mean to you are probablly lesbians to, but are so afraid of what others think they try to turn it around!

Answer 4

I have grown up in a Christian home, My father is a preacher, and my mom is a school teacher.

Every summer whether I wanted to attend or not I was hauled off to a christian camp. I actually didn't mind going until I got there and every year there was the same group of girls that were always uppity and rude to me.

At this time I considered myself to be straight. They would never talk to me I wasn't good enough for their group. I don't know if they could sense something in me that I had not come to grips with yet or what.

One time I just flat out cornered them and asked them why I was being treated that way. They couldn't or wouldn't answer me.

I then decided that it was all in my head and that they weren't really against me, But it never changed. (I was about 10)

The next couple of years it didn't get any better. I was beginning to become interested in women and because of the way that I was being brought up I thought it was wrong to be interested but I never would have judged anyone else. (I was about 15.)

By the time I was 18, I was really questioning my needs and what I felt about men vs women and decided that I was a bi-sexual.

That same group of girls were still there and were still acting like they were better than me. They wouldn't ever give me a reason why. I just decided it wasn't worth my time to worry about why these girls were so stuck up and went on to make my own friends.

I never got close with any girls. Guys were always my best friends. I am still not close with very many women unless they are bi. I am now a lesbian and I haven't made any other friends in the community yet. I have only been out about a year. So there is time.

I have found that straight guys mostly think they can turn me into a bi, bi girls just want to use me to help them satisfy their "partner" and my ex girlfriend is the only one that has told me to be who I am and ignore the ones that want to use me for their gratification.

I think that if striaght women are not accepting of us it is through ignorance and a lack of knowledge can be a dangerous thing.

The few straight women who do not perceive me as a threat have taken the time to get to know me, They have overcome their fear of the unknown and have taken the time to educate themselves.

Ignorance is the only reason that people have problems with other people.

Answer 5

Gay men for straight women are a safe thing: they can be good friends with them without worrying about being hit on. Lesbian and bisexual women pose a risk of sexual attractivity.

I'm not saying I'M like that, but I AM saying that I think that's why women in general are like that.

Answer 6

I think straight women sometimes dislike lesbians because the straight women are attracted to men, so they see it as weird that another woman wouldn't like men too. Same way with straight men but regarding women.
What's weird is that straight women can usually accept gay men better than they accept lesbians, and straight men usually accept lesbians better than they accept gay men.
I guess the straight people of either sex feel threatened by a member of their own sex not being like them. But of course, not all straight people are unaccepting.
Just ignore straight women who treat you badly. They might be unsure of their own orientation, so they take it out on you.

Answer 7

Straight women accept gay men because they are creative, funny, cute, have extremely good taste in interior design, gardening, and fashion. Plus, they are not a sexual threat.

Many women are threatened by other women because their sense of fashion may conflict with theirs. Notice how women check out other women more than men check out women. Generally, straight women are in competition with other straight women. Most of the time they dress not to attract guys but to look better than other women. It is a complex scenario in which lesbian and bi-sexual women don't fit in. Straight women don't hate lesbians, they just don't have time for them. They are not part of the game, don't fit in and therefore dismissed.

Answer 8

For the same reason that straight men are into lesbians and bisexual women, but not homosexual men. No perceived danger vs. threat to their sexuality.

The negative images that are painted of gay people in the media portray us as sexual predators and perverts from whom no same sex adult of child is safe. These kinds of stereotypes make homophobic people nervous - the immediate assumption of a homophobic straight male when a gay men reveals his homosexuality is that he is likely to be pounced upon at the first opportunity. I think you're seeing the female equivalent of this.

Answer 9

What is your definition of "accept"? Could it be because gay men are not potential sexual partners for the straight woman and so therefore there is no sexual problem? And straight women could be intimidated by the thought of a sexual alliance with a lesbian or bisexual?

Answer 10

Well, I think girls think that gay men are more "feminine" in a sense.
I wouldn't obviously know for sure, but its just like how some straight men don't think of gay men acceptable. Just as some women don;t think seeing the same sex together is right.

Just a thought. :D

Answer 11

I am str8t and it's not that I don't accept you. I just don't want anyone of the same sex hitting on me. If I treat a lesbian or bisexual funny that is the only reason. I don't think I could stand for a woman to touch me in a sexual way. It kind of makes me sick. sorry but you wanted the truth. I don't hate anyone but I don't want to have sex with you either. I will talk to you and be kind to you until you try to make a pass at me (and I have had this to happen to me). I was only trying to be a friend and this person took my friendliness wrong. I didn't like it at all. I will then distance myself from you. As long as you have the understanding that I am str8t and don't want to be your lover and just your friend I don't mind being friends with you.