I'm 38 weeks pregnant, my husband has a cold ...?

Question

He's acting like he's in horrible pain. I am having back pains, and I am trying to get together the nursery, names for the baby, insurance stuff, going through mild contractions, etc. etc. But he's in bed playing XBOX and trying not to do anything but complain about having to do work because he's coughing.

I LOVE HIM SO MUCH! But I am exhausted and things are not ready for our upcoming baby, and we are seeing signs of early labor.

Am I being to hard on him?

Answer 1

No you are not being to hard on him, but I will tell you I am 34 weeks prego and I have the worst cold I have ever had right now and all I want to do is lay in bed so I can sympathize with him. Some times you have to keep nagging and say please just help me with this thing then take a nap, when you are done sleeping I need help with one other things, get his help in spurts so that way he can still "rest" but this is the time when you need to put your foot down, start crying and tell him you need his damn help before the baby is born and nothing is done! crying usually works everytime along with emotional outbursts. And if things dont get finished dont worry, for the first week all you need is a place for baby to sleep, bottles cleaned and ready to go if you will be using bottles. about 14 outfits or sleepers for baby and diapers. Take a break and make a check list of everything you want to finish before going to the hospital. As you get someting accomplished check that thing off. Then if you go into labor before he is over his cold or before you can get everything done. Hand him the list and say here you go honey, this is all the stuff I needed your help with before the baby came and Now you have to do it all by yourself while Im in the hospital. LOL!Good luck!

Answer 2

Hi I was also 38 weeks and now am 39 weeks today and have had a cold that my two other children decided to share. I have not taken anything in hoping that this baby comes soon. I wouldn't want anything in my system should I go as I am BF'ing. But reg saline nasal spray would b ethe only thing I would use. HTH!

Answer 3

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I'm 38 weeks pregnant, my husband has a cold ...?
He's acting like he's in horrible pain. I am having back pains, and I am trying to get together the nursery, names for the baby, insurance stuff, going through mild contractions, etc. etc. But he's in bed playing XBOX and trying not to do anything but complain about having to do work...

Answer 4

Haha...I don't think you're being too hard on him, but husbands rarely understand how miserable it is being pregnant. I would try getting more flies with honey...tell him how miserable you are and you'd like him to help. If he doesn't, sick or not, he's just insensitive. And most men are willing to help if you bat your eyelashes just right, especially when you're pregnant. But also keep in mind that you're probably nesting, and right now it seems sooo important to get all the baby's stuff ready. Men don't go through that. Try to relax and enjoy the last few weeks or days of your pregnancy. Congrats on the baby!

Answer 5

You are just tired. Can you call over a friend or a member of your family to help you? You CANNOT do it all by yourself. You should rest.

Do not stress about the nursery. The baby should sleep for a couple of months in a bassinet in your room anyway. That gives you time. Your child will never know the nursery was not done when he/she got home. :)

Answer 6

i think being 38 weeks pregnant is a little more significant than his cold. especially if he's well enough to play the xbox. that sounds just like my husband:( no you are not being to hard on him. tell him to get his *** up and help you!!!! i am 36 weeks pregnant and have the flu (even though i got a flu shot) and i have a 3 year old and my husband is playing his xbox and letting me do all the work!!!

Answer 7

well, maybe you are, maybe you're not. after all, you're pregant so u shouldn't be doing all that.

but every marriage and couple is different and unique so it's hard for us to judge your relationship and him and espically he is sick so he is in bed.

But I do want to say woman tend to be more responsible and more like to stress out because we worry more. well, not all man are bad, but I think the ratio of good man and good woman, that woman tend to be more selflessly and caring and family center. not that man doesn't do that but less.

anyway, don't feel bad, you need to accept the fact and try to be positive, maybe he is really not feel well so he does that.

second, try to proritized what is the most improtant and do the most important part. You don't have to have him doing everything with you.

one thing to probably realized that: every relationship is different and you might not have the same relationship that your husband want to be involved with everysingle decision steps in life. so you just have to do it your own once you gave him the chance to do it with you.

don't feel bad, I would of feel the same way if I am in your shoes. hope everything goes better with you.

happy new year.

Answer 8

HELL NO!!! ...i was the same way about a week ago....guys act like they are dying when they have a little cough....it kills me....we walk around here in pain and pregnant...im 38 weeks and when my back hurts or somthing he says my back hurts to i been at work all day and been up since 5 am........gosh ....guys are idiots! hang in there~!!.....just make sure he realizes you are NOT doing all the work when baby arrives!! its just as much his responibility as it is yours!..you need a break to! its not to much to ask!

Answer 9

You are not being hard on him but he doesnt know what you have to go through i say you start to complain and maybe he will get the point.

Answer 10

No! He needs to straighten up and know that your going to deliver a person thats inside of you, so whatever he's going through doesnt compare! Give him some medication and tell him to MAN UP!