My husband cheated on me before we were married. We have now been married for 5 months. I can't seem to move on past this. Any advice?
2007-12-27 10:50:19 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will take time and patience.
I wonder if you knew this before you married him. I could not live enough time or ever have enough patience and would DIVORCE due to fraud.
2007-12-27 10:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by whatzername? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you were married it may not have been nice but it was sure legal for him to cheat on you.
In answer to your question, I'd use a step ladder. Climb to the top and see if you're ready to jump into a divorce. If not, then you must be over it.
Or you two could do the adult thing and have a discussion on the subject. As used here the word "discussion" implies that you both have the ability to argue fairly like adults do. If you don't know what that means, get a book and read it first.
2007-12-27 10:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by bardmere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why did you get married in the first place??? You must be pregnant or just stupid. Ok, Ill assume that you are pregnant, for gods sake dont get pregnant again, anyway....it did happen BEFORE you were married. That really is no excuse but Im sure he has said sorry and blah blah blah...anyhoo, this is now a more committed relationship in a guys mind, I have no idea about his, so technically, he shouldnt ever cheat on you again since you are now married. If this doesnt help, bang his best friend and get over it your married now.
2007-12-27 10:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by davessac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You weren't married yet so did he cheat? No one can move you past it. You must get over it in order to have anything like a functional marriage. Don't listen to girlfriends or family. listen to your heart and if you cant move on then there's really no chance. Nothing will make you feel better but faith in your man and marriage.
2007-12-27 10:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't of married him in the first place, He cheated on you before you were married, what do you think that he will do now?
2007-12-27 10:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you married him for some reason...so think of the reason, get therapy, talk to him and tell him you can not get passed it.
Are you sure he will not do it again?
Does he treat you good?
Try a small separation see if you really love him enough that you can not live without him..or maybe you will need to reevaluate the whole thing and wonder if you are worth better!?!?!
2007-12-27 10:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by notaknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this early in your marriage you have to look past it. My wife cheated on me just two weeks after we got married and I had to go on National Guard two-week summer camp.
I found out about it when I got back. The guy was a friend of ours and she wasn't taking my being away very well.
That was 31 one years and two affairs later. And we're still together.
2007-12-27 10:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him...?! Sorry...but personally, if a guy cheated on me then I would dump him. If I'm not his one and only then he can have that other girl. I'll find someone better. lol And you should too. Especially since it's bothering you...
=(
Sorry, I can't give better advice for this sort of thing....
~Shelby
2007-12-27 10:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he confess? it depends because if you feel like you can never get passed this you may not. but if you want to make it work then you both need to get counseling maybe from a pastor(they are cheaper), but someone who is honest about your situation. it will always be in the back of your mind and things are still fresh, you need to blow that steam off let him know exactly how you feel scream cry just dont get violant. But a whole lot of crying helps.
2007-12-27 10:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him? Exactly what makes you think he won't do it again? I'm sorry I'm no help I know. I don't think you should have ever married the cheat.
2007-12-27 11:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you it was stupid to marry him
(lol unless hes rich, then good job)
otherwise call him for a family meeting then lie to him saying that you had sex with countless of men when you guys were going out. It would make you feel better (or maybe get you divorced) but atleast it was one of the better ways to get divorced..WITH REVENGE!
2007-12-27 10:56:03 · answer #11 · answered by serge s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋