Why would a woman have a baby if all she's going to do when it arrives is put it in a car seat/crib/bouncy seat/moses basket/pram for the first few months.... then follow it up with putting it in a play-gym/baby walker/highchair for a few months after that.....then when it can get around, put it in a playpen/stroller/cot constantly?
I'm sure you all know people like this.....with their kids constantly stuck in some 'device' - anything so as not to have to interact with them?
Why do people like this even have kids?
2007-12-27 10:43:13 · 22 answers · asked by Up-side-down 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I've always wondered about that too. I put my daughter down, dont get me wrong, but mostly she was in my arms or I was on the floor playing with her. And we wonder why "civilized" societies like ours have all these baby's with colic, while "uncivilized" societies where babies are carried around all the time, and nursed, dont.
2007-12-27 10:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 7 · 17⤊ 0⤋
I was reading not long ago about parenting methods throughout history and, honestly, leaving them in a seat/crib/bouncer/playpen/whatever is an improvement over what our ancestors did. I was rather shocked when I read about babies being swaddled and pinned tightly then hung from a hook or nail on the wall. Now THAT is neglect, in my opinion. At least babies nowadays usually have some sort of activity available to them with interactive toys, mirrors, or siblings while their parent is finishing housework.
I'm not condoning real neglect or parents who truly ignore their children. However, I think it's a bit harsh to pass this sort of judgement on parents who are overwhelmed by caring for their child(ren) and taking care of the daily routines at home and appreciate that their children can entertain themselves for periods of time during the day while they finish chores.
I can't say I know anyone who places their child in devices constantly as you've described. Most parents I know use devices like these while doing simple chores (vaccuuming, laundry, dishes, etc.) and then return to their child immediately after those chores are finished.
2007-12-28 12:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Quiet Tempest 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Now having a baby...I would find it very hard to ever IGNORE a baby. She would never let me ignore her. Everyone I know has the bouncer, swing, pak-n-play, etc. for their child, and I have never seen anyone IGNORE their child. The advantage to these items is when you have to take care of your daily routine things/chores...one is able to bring their child in the same room so that the child can be with mommy or daddy while he/she is taking care of whatever they have to, instead of sticking the baby in the crib until they are finished. If you have an issue with a particular person in your life regarding this problem...you should really let them know how it is affecting your life then you could maybe sleep easier at night. Good Luck!
2007-12-27 12:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Roz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, funny u should ask a question like that!!!
People like this only have there eyes on MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY
Need I say more...
To drug/alcohol addicted people having babies is a meal ticket!!!
For that person who gave me thumbs down. You tell me then what the problem is for people who don't do a thing for there child(ren) I see this all the time...infact I have a family member who has done this...and today she doesn't have her kids!
I'm a singlemother of 3 boys who I give the world too!!! My 7 year old NEVER lived in a playpen, bouncy chair, highchair or any device mentioned above and now I have 3 month old twin boys who also don't live in a playpen, crib or boncey chair. The cribs are used for SLEEPING @ night, The playpen is used for naptimes (my twins sleep at different times) and the bouncy chair is used for stimulation and myself or someone is sitting on the floor talking to them. When my boys r not in day care while I'm working they are with me! I know money isn't everything but ALOT of people think that having kids means I WILL get welfare or some kind of hand out....
I may not know what I'm talking about or making u all confused. Maybe its because I have NEVER thought of my boys as a meal ticket
2007-12-27 11:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by α∂νєηтυяє ιѕ нєяє 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I'm with you. I don't understand. I don't get the people that have nannies and the child ends up spending more time with the nannies than the real parents. I have the crib for nap time and sleeping. I had the swing for colic. I have the highchair for feeding. I have the stroller for walking. I had the snuggle thing for doing household chores. I used to strap my baby in the front of me and now he loves to clean. Since I am a stay-at-home mom now and a credential teacher, my house and schedule is like a preschool for my one and only student, my precious 15 month old son. Some parents are not as lucky as I am though to be able to stay home with their kids.
2007-12-27 11:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me Here in Hawaii 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hi
I agree with you to a certain extent. I have a few of the things mentioned but I make sure that I interact by reading or singing to my baby. We also go for walks, ect. I have a bad back and find it hard to hold her all the time so this is why I use mine. If she fusses, I do pick her up (not right away as she will become needy), but i speak to her so that I can let her know that I am around and that I always will be. Ok she isnt old enough to understand but my tone of voice is reassuring, I believe. I also use things such as the walker as I believe the upright position is helping her to develop sitting up skills ect. So not all of these things are a complete loss. I know our parents generation didnt have all of these things, but some were developed for the purpose of the childs development. FOr parents to use them just as a distraction is wrong and I agree with you there
Edit: I also agree with lady moon, I havent got family around, they are over on the other side of the world, adn I too cannot afford a cleaner so I also use these things for when I have to do the housework. But I do take my daughter from room to room most of the time.
2007-12-27 21:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by brunelscooby 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they don't know any better. Sad, huh?
I'm not talking about those who use playpens, swings or any other baby gear properly. I used swings and blankets on the floor myself. I'm talking about the poor babies I saw when I lived in Dayton, Ohio. Those babies were left in a stroller all day. They were propped with bottles and cared for when the parents felt like it. They had rashes and sores.
I also have family who likes to move babies from one contraption to another. They are so focused on their work, their huge house, their fancy gas hog cars and their three boats that they've forgotten what's important.
2007-12-27 14:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I use a playpen, but not to "ignore" my baby. I don't have close family or friends nearby to help out with childcare and I need to put my son somewhere safe while I do the housework, and he will sit quite happily in it while I do that. He doesn't spend all day in his playpen! If he was old enough to "help" me with the housework then I would encourage him to join in and make a game of it, but as he's only 1 he isn't able to.
He gets PLENTY of interaction with both my partner and myself but there are times when I need to attend to other things. Oh it would be luxurious to sit on my a*se all day playing with my baby and never have to worrying about cleaning up but sadly I'm too poor to afford a maid . . .
2007-12-27 19:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What bugs me is that they strap them in a baby seat, or a pram - then 4 years down the line you see them jumping around in the back of the car as the parents are strapped in the front!
Why bother having a baby! My children are not permitted to travel in my car if they don't have a seat belt on!
Makes my blood boil!
2007-12-27 10:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe because you have to have time out of your day to do things like: take care of other children, do dishes, vaccuum, sweep, mop, dust, clean ect. im sorry, but i cant hold my baby 24/7! i have other responsibilities around the house and other children to attend to! so yes my child im carrying now will swing, play in a bouncy seat, go in a playpen, AND an exersaucer when i have things that need to be done.
2007-12-27 12:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think the only time i put my baby down was for a nap in her cot, if i had to leave the room she would play in the baby gym etc, but kids learn from us so they need interaction with siblings / parents, i have 3 lovely kids (girls) and i spend almost every waking hour with them.
2007-12-27 12:11:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋