how do you deal with mouthy disrespectful teenagers?

Answer 1

OOooooo; don't get me started on this one. They're every where. I had one let a door slam in my mother-in-laws face when we were downtown last week and I thought I was gonna kill somebody. When I hollered out to him, he looked at me like I was crazy!

It really comes back on the parents though. Kids get away with what ever the parents don't stop. So many parents out there honestly believe that their child is too precious to have to abide by the rules of polite society,

In my mothers house...to this day...I don't even say "Pissed off" let alone anything harsher. She simply didn't tolerate it. Yeah, I would get a cuff on the head when I was younger; no that I'm an adult I RESPECT her wishes and watch what I say.

You have kids on the public bus line that won't get up and give their seat to a woman or an older person, they cuss and swear and carry on like their at home.

But I'll tell you what, for my husband; all these disrepectfull, smart @ss kids are just job security...he's a corrections officer. And the place is full of mouthy teenagers who are to busy being scared to death to try and be a smart guy now.

Answer 2

Follow through. It's the biggest mistake parents make. If you tell them there will be consequences for something - FOLLOW THROUGH and make the consequences happen.

Set up some rules - and consequences if they are broken. Let the kids help you do it. Being mouthy or disrspectful should be included in things that will have consequences.

You can ALSO include rewards for good things (like cleaning up - good grades - good behavior)

Write it all up. Have everybody sign it. And then REALLY REALLY live by it.

If the first time one of them was mouthy or disprespectful they had told they were grounded for the rest of the day - no tv, no computer, no phone, no leaving the house - and you REALLY made that happen. The mouthiness would have stopped a long time ago.

Answer 3

Ok, i admit to some people i could seem to be a disrespectful teenager. I am not disrespectful to most people, but sometimes, like most adults i have a bad day and then when people annoy me, i snap. Teenagers are going through what is possibly the worst time of life. I know that they say childhood is the best and stuff but in this day its really very hard for us. There is all this pressure coming left right and centre and i know we don't have bills to pay for or familys to support but at our time of life, all of the little things are maximised.
I am only really disrespectful to my father, although sometimes my mother although that is very very rare and it is never all that bad. But when i am 'disrespectful' it is because ive had a bad day or im doing something important and in my eyes my dad is being unresonable and purposely winding me up. He does hit me but this does NOT help in this day! Because not everyone is hitting their kids and its just making us rebel more. It might have worked when i was little so i grew up into quite a nice teenager, but as soon as he started doing it while i was that much older it just gave me anger issues. It has made me hate him so much that i don't even care about him anymore. When he is not around i am a perfectly nice polite girl but when he is i am often moody and stressed.

Basically, teenagers have a lot on their mind - give them a break! Talk to them, or get someone else to talk to them, befriend them, just don't talk down to them, treat them as an equal. Only when that doesnt work should you start punishing them for the smallest thing.

Sorry for the long ness, this is just an issue very close to my heart.

Answer 4

i mean this with respect, but there's probably a reason they're disrespectful to you. Most teenagers i know, including myself, will be quite civil with someone regardless of age, if we feel they are treating us fairly, however the minute someone condescends us, we will get short, as will any person who respects themselves. Try hearing the teenagers in your life out, instead of disregarding them as 'mouthy', you may be surprised with what they have to say. i think the best way to 'deal' is to change your attitude a little bit, because honestly, the way you worded the question shows that you don't respect teenagers, so why should they respect you? we are not people to simply be "dealt" with.

please just try this, i think it will work. how people react to you is a self fulfilling prophecy, if you treat them as if they are going to be mean to you, they will be.

good luck

Answer 5

i am a teen and the way you deal with mouthy teens is a classic asswhuping once in a while! If you want some advise go to blockbuster or whatever and rent some of Tyler Perrys movies - the madea collection it will teach u a very good way of handling your bundle of joy also they bring comedy into it.

Answer 6

Realisticly this is what teenagers do. Take a look at Applied Behavior Analysis and learn about the functions of behaivor. If you discontinune to reinforce the behavior, the behavior will decrease.

Answer 7

Depends if there yours or not. If my child started mouthing off at me..well, im pretty sure she knows what would happen! I dont do disrespect.
But if there just walking in the street, ignore it, shack your head and say out aloud, 'ah...if only to be young enough to swear, i;d be SO cool!'
If i had my kids with me and they were swearing, i'd say, 'pull your head in, there's kids right here, have some f***ing respect'.

Answer 8

Slap them in the mouth. Harsh solution but i bet after getting slapped a few times they will change their tone very quickly. Every time i say the word f*ck, my mom throws something at me. I still say it just not in her presence. Because she hit me in the head with a cell phone, and i had a headache for a few days.

Answer 9

Peck they a--,cause if you dont! they will get worse! and those peckings may pay off in the long run,you do not want ur children to end up in the system for half of their young life!!whoop they a-- if you have to but the most common thing to do is to punish them by takeing away there extra activities! phone etc.

Answer 10

being a teenager myself i used to be like this untill mum found out why
sit and talk to her find out whats on her mind something could be bothering her
but if she doesnt want to tlk to you ask her maybe if she wants to tlk to some one else a proffestional (sorry cant spell )
i could be wrong but alot teenagers have things on there mind making them think out of line
and maybe cross the boundrys
started this at 13 - 15 now being 16 things have got better me and mum talk alot more plus we have a spesh day were we spend it just the two of us doing w/e i want
:):)
hope tht helped :D
good luck x x x