Been thru hell and back with him for 8 years and a son but after 2 months of seperation i miss him so much it hurts. i believe his is my soul mate.... Any advice ?
2007-12-27 09:24:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...more info (thanks for all your comments) he WANTS to come back home i am just afraid that things will not be any better if I let him. But I miss him terribly and cry often because I want him in my arms again.
2007-12-27 09:37:18 · update #1
In my experience, there are many emotions that disguise themselves as "love."
Ask yourself this- if he's your soulmate, why is it so easy for him to hurt you?
You would probably benefit from professional help, to determine why you think you belong with someone who treats you badly and has "put you through hell" over the course of 8 years.
2007-12-27 09:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is theirs something deep inside telling you not to let him go and no matter what he does you can still look at him with loving eyes and put the bad aside! am I right? well if he loves you and if he's willing to be a better man by your side you should give it another chance but if he's not going to try and doesnt want to be with you then even though he may be your soul mate maybe its not ment in this lifetime.
No matter what it will take time for your heart to heal or want to move on if you love him that much you may never stop loving him just not the same but you'll learn to live with it and still love someone else more and differntly. the truth is it can take years before you stop hurting or maybe just a little more time but remember nothing lasts forever not pain or love so live life and enjoy what you have your baby boy. good luck
2007-12-27 17:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by theoretical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to back away from him as much as it hurts. He won't cope with your crying and clingy behaviour at all.
Turn things around. Use these two resources - one will suit you or they both could.
Give these a try. Leave him alone for now.
Royce's web site will have someone online occasionally so you can speak to someone.
For right now, leave your spouse alone. Let him go away and see what a mistake he is making. You need to behave AS IF it doesn't matter. Pull yourself up and use some of the techniques on either of these sites. It will help. Believe me I know. I've been there.
good luck
2007-12-27 17:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married about the same amount of time (male) and I degraded myself crawling back so manytimes, and she had a bf toward the end and I still tried to go back. Dont do that to yourself. I thought I was going to die from my pain, but eventually it got better. Life will go on.
Note: Dont listen to the person below me saying that you should get with someone to get over him. I did that with 3 women and I hurt them for it. Please, just let time heal!
2007-12-27 17:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call or come by to see him and tell him how you feel however you still need to fix what happens in your marriage before it can be fixed. You cannot expect him to come back to you but at least you will feel some closure so you can move on with your life.
2007-12-27 17:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No no. Find that guy out there that will make you forget about him. You'll have the rest of your life to deal with him because you have a son. Please have respect for yourself because of your son.
2007-12-27 17:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by maverick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
co-dependency;sharing a life style.
2007-12-27 17:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by santos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe its time to consider kicking em to the curb and move on.
2007-12-27 18:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋